Author: tease
01.
bride price problem, a matter of opinion, there is no standard answer. Z2z
girls still have to be clear on their own, after all, not all parents are reasonable people.
I have experienced two relationships, which can illustrate a problem: when you encounter parents who are confused, you must have your own opinions.
I am a second-generation demolisher in a first-tier city, and my predecessor is also a first-tier city. I was born in a scholarly family. His parents are both university professors, and my family is very cultural.
At that time, we were in a very good relationship. After more than 3 years of talking, we have reached the point of talking about marriage.
My stepmother proposed a 20w bride price, and the man who put the wine in the two places will pay the man. The man estimates 50 tables. Our side is about 15 tables. The money is not small.
It can be said that for large expenditures, my stepmother let the man spend it.
but did not mention how to give my dowry, how much to give.
She tried her best to provoke my relationship with my dad, implying that she did not want to give a dowry, and said that "the money should still be left to my brother to buy another house."
At that time, my former mother looked down on me, thinking that our family was an uneducated family.
In all fairness, our family enjoys the policy benefits of demolition, but I also have a master’s degree. It’s not that she said "no culture".
She didn't like me either. Seeing our family asked for 200,000 gifts, she suddenly felt that I was material.
Therefore, I also moved a little bit more carefully. I didn't let go of the bride price.
Afterwards we broke up and broke up, the marriage was not completed, and after half a year, we broke up.
This is the first relationship. I originally hoped to be a family member, but because my stepmother asked for a 200,000 gift, and didn't plan to give it, the former mother was unwilling to accept me and ended in a hurry.
The main problem is still with me. I failed to refuse the unreasonable request of my stepmother, and my boyfriend did not solve his mother's problem. After breaking up with my ex for a long time, I have been single for a long time, because the experience of breaking up with my ex made me think a lot and dare not fall in love easily.
02.
A year later, I met my current husband, a hard-working man whose parents both live in the rural hometown.
was in love for more than a year, he officially proposed to me. When
was preparing to get married, I turned my face with my family, and
, because I knew that my husband’s family couldn’t get the gift, so I took the initiative to say no.
I didn't bring the bride price home. In fact, I didn't ask for the bride price because I knew that my family wouldn't buy me a dowry, so I didn't let my family intervene too much.
, it can be said that I chopped first and then played, and only notified my family after obtaining the certificate.
originally planned to have a wedding this year. Due to the epidemic, we did not have a wedding, but parents-in-law and mother-in-law felt guilty for not allowing me to have a decent wedding, so they treated me twice as good. Lower me, but feel wronged me.
After receiving the certificate, my in-laws gave me 2w and said they were buying things for us. They also told my husband on the phone that they must buy me a diamond ring. Others have it, and we also have it.
We work and live outside. Our parents-in-law live in our hometown, raising ducks and chickens, and there is a pond, which is also very busy.
always told my husband to take good care of me, to transfer me more, not to make me wronged, and to call him to do more housework.
told them that we didn’t have enough money and told them directly that we should eat, spend, and don’t save that little money.
In fact, we are a sibling love, I am 4 years older than my husband.
They joked with me, "My son is immature. If you don't obey you, hit him. If you can't beat him, your parents will clean him up for you and let him be honest."
Although they are all in the countryside in their hometown, their thoughts, insights, and minds have made me respect them. How fortunate to be able to meet my family who loves me so much. The relationship between
has little to do with money, because I know I met a man who suits me, he loves me, let his family recognize me and accept me, this is his sincerity.
A man does not have the best, only the most suitable. I admire his self-motivatedness. Even if he has no money now, we will definitely try our best to live a good life.
For women, marriage is not comparable, and one cannot look at the high mountain from this mountain.
At the beginning of all marriage life, there may be defects, so you have to cultivate slowly and make up for it.
A woman does not necessarily have to marry a man with talent and beauty, but to become a happy woman, she must marry the man who suits her best.
This is exactly what I want to say: Maybe a man who suits you may not be rich and handsome, but he can give you what you need.
"Only buy the right ones, not the expensive ones", this is the principle when we buy things.
Finding a man is the same. Finding a man is a major expense. Finding the right man and finding the man that suits you best is not trying to follow the fashion, but to find a partner for marriage. It is the most expensive in our life. Of an investment.
Find a man who suits you. It is enough for him to love you, love you, and ambitious. Yes, find the most suitable man. It's that simple.
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Author: tease, focus on research gender marriage.
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