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A marriage, on the surface, seems to be a matter between a man and a woman, but the core is the involvement between the two families.
Among them, apart from the husband and wife, the mother-in-law may be the most involved in this marriage. The conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law caused by
can be said to be an everlasting topic.
How to get along with mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and what to do as daughter-in-law in order to get the approval of mother-in-law, this may be a question many women are thinking about. There is a saying in
: The more a mother-in-law looks at her daughter-in-law, the more pleasing she looks, and the more she looks at her son-in-law, the more pleasing the mother-in-law.
Very often, the source of conflicts between husband and wife is the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
After all, for the mother-in-law, the son is married, which means that another woman robs her of status and dominance of the family.
has seen some women. In order to have a good relationship with her mother-in-law, she really does everything in her life to please her grievances. On the one hand, because the other party is an elder, it is not easy to speak up, and on the other hand, she is afraid that her husband will be caught in the middle, so she chose to embarrass herself.
To be honest, this is a low EQ approach, because it turns out that if a woman does this, her status in the family will only be lower.
02.
In fact, although the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law troubles almost all families, smart women can always find a good way to deal with it.
Actually, a woman only needs to understand one thing: a mother-in-law is not a real mother. The nature of
mother-in-law and mother-in-law is different. No matter what the mother-in-law is, even if there is a big contradiction, the fetters of blood can solve a large part of the friction.
But mother-in-law is different. It can be said that daughter-in-law and mother-in-law are originally two strangers. If it weren't for the same man, they would not give each other a look when they met. Since
is a stranger, you can't get along with each other in a completely relaxed state of mind. Many times you need to pay attention to speaking and doing things.
Observe carefully and you will find that when mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are getting along, women with high EQ "don't say three things", but women with low EQ always do the opposite.
does not say that her husband is not a
man in front of her mother-in-law, no matter how old he is, he is the treasure of his parents.
Think about it from another angle. If you have a child and someone criticizes him in front of you, will you be unhappy?
It is not a big deal for women to occasionally say that men are wrong and criticize his shortcomings. After all, people who are really close can communicate frankly.
If a man does something wrong, tell him directly, there will be no problems, but if you mention these things in front of your mother-in-law, it will definitely make her uncomfortable.
You must know that for every mother-in-law, her son is perfect, and there is nothing wrong with it. You are the outsider in her eyes, and you are provoking her by accusing her son of her behavior in front of her. she was.
Once or twice, the mother-in-law may still be able to pretend to comfort you, but the more the frequency, the mother-in-law will definitely feel unhappy, and even make you feel embarrassed in every way you get along.
A woman with high emotional intelligence will understand that no matter how good the family relationship is, it is not acceptable to say that her husband is not in front of her mother-in-law.
You must know that a man is a bridge between wife and mother-in-law, but at the same time the mother-in-law's "baby". No one wants to hear an "outsider" accuse his child.
do not complain about your hard work in front of your mother-in-law
is born, who doesn't work hard? Everyone will have to experience a lot and bear a lot in this world.
For women, there must be dedication and sacrifice in the family. A woman who understands that "marriage life is never easy" may tolerate and retreat appropriately when getting along with men.
After having a child, women will only pay more.
At this time, some women with very low emotional intelligence will start to complain, nagging about their hard work, and hope that their mother-in-law can help.
In fact, everyone knows your hard work and dedication. After all, your mother-in-law is also here, but if you keep complaining, the nature is completely different.
Everyone is a woman and has to go through a childbirth and raiseIn the process of the child, your complaints are trivial to the mother-in-law, and even feel that you are not ill and groaning as too hypocritical.
A woman with high EQ knows that it is useless to complain. Only by doing her own thing well can her mother-in-law be barely satisfied.
does not comment on the private affairs of the mother-in-law
Only in terms of age, the mother-in-law will definitely have more life experience than the daughter-in-law, and know how to do things better. To be a daughter-in-law, there is no reason to point out the mother-in-law's affairs as a junior.
Some women have a good relationship with their mother-in-law after they get married, and they feel that the two are close enough, and they may also make suggestions about the mother-in-law.
Actually, your suggestion may be reasonable, but to her mother-in-law, you are gesticulating and interfering with her life.
It is normal for people of two generations to have completely different ideas and practices on some things. There is no real right or wrong. The mother-in-law is doing her own thing and has her own decisions and ideas. As a daughter-in-law, she should not go. Interfering, after all, no one likes being educated by juniors every day.
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Marriage is not that simple. The beautiful life that many women imagined before they get married does not appear at all.
In marriage, a woman has to learn to deal with complicated family relationships, and she has to work hard to maintain the relationship with her husband, and she can't even spare the time.
This requires a woman to master some skills and methods, how to make a man's heart rest on you, if you maintain a balance between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the method will be much more useful than running around without a head. There are some things that
should do when getting along with her mother-in-law, such as respecting each other and filial piety, but we cannot treat her mother-in-law in the same way as her mother-in-law, because the two are essentially different.
Of course, in front of the mother-in-law, you can never say anything that shouldn't be said. A woman with high EQ understands. Once some things are said, they will only make the relationship between the two people worse.
Talking is an art. It can be found that people who can talk have better interpersonal relationships.
In fact, whether you are getting along with your mother-in-law and your daughter-in-law or with other people, you should shut up when you should be silent. Don't say anything you shouldn't say.
