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Many women live after marriage. In fact, they are not as expected before marriage, but they can still find some truth in life in marriage, and their hearts become stronger and stronger.
's "Masked Singer Guess and Guess" hit the hot air in the fifth season, and He Jie returned to the audience's vision. In the variety show, she sang a song "What the Music Doesn't Care About Him" as a "two-second cat", and her stable timbre properly brought a memory of He Jie. In the
show, Zhang Wei teased that He Jie should have come long ago. He Jie said with a smile: I was having a baby in the first season, I was having a baby in the second season, and I was having a baby again in the fourth season. I'm here for five seasons.
Da Zhang Wei’s joking suggestion He Jie: "Have fewer children and sing more." He Jie said frankly: "My life events are basically settled. There is no reason not to sing. Now it is a new beginning and starting point. When the
show ended, I still remembered Da Zhang Wei's suggestion "have fewer children and sing more", and suddenly I even felt so sad.
Why do most men's living conditions before and after marriage will not be greatly affected, while marriage is a subversion in women's lives.
read this sentence on Zhihu: People will not find until middle age that it is often the wife who supports a family. So many male readers commented: I am also making money to support my family, so why should I obliterate my credit?
It is true that more than half of a middle-aged marriage, a happy and stable family and married life, are naturally the result of the joint efforts of both husband and wife, but reality also tells us that wives often pay much more than their husbands.
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In a variety show, Xie Nan and Bai Minghui talked about a topic about the difference between a man and a woman after marriage.
Xie Nan and Bai Minghui both bluntly said that they lacked a lot of freedom after marriage, and also lost many friends. Because you want to take care of your family, after your friends have asked you a few times, you all refuse, and gradually people won't ask you again.
and their husbands, Wu Jing and Yu Qian, will not fill their entire lives with their families and children after marriage. They still have free time to communicate with friends normally.
So we can easily discover an objective fact: married women, especially after having children, are too busy. Unlike married men, most of them are still as free as before marriage, persisting and expanding their hobbies.
This phenomenon has led to women's growing fear of marriage and fertility. They often look forward to the sweet look after marriage, but they find that they have to earn money to support their family like men after marriage, and even gradually lose themselves.
In fact, this is related to the nature of women. First of all, the "bundling" of children to women is the most powerful. Women are born with a soft heart. Facing their children's flesh and blood, family will willingly wrong themselves;
Secondly, women pay more attention to maintenance than men. Family relationship, these trivial details can be avoided in the eyes of men, but this is the key to maintaining a family;
Finally, compared with men, women are more patient and persistent in the face of misfortune. They often choose to wrong themselves. Also save a family.
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all say that men are the pillars of the family. In fact, women are the "sacred needle" of family happiness. She takes care of all the trivial life of the family. If the husband supports the family's economy, the wife supports the family's temperature.
Of course, modern women not only need to support the temperature at home, but also shoulder the financial burden of the family. This kind of pressure is incomprehensible to many men who have not experienced it, and the most terrifying thing in a marriage is not the endless giving of one party, but the one who has been gained gains this sacrifice but does not appreciate it.
So if we are married, it is naturally a happiness for us to meet a man who can run this family with you. If we unfortunately encounter such an ungrateful person, it is better to be selfish and love yourself more.
You must know that housework is never finished, and life has to be spent in finesse. At the right time, you can shift the focus of family to yourself and leave some household chores to your husband. Only by empathy and feeling will he understand you It's not easy.
Marriage and family will be exhausted if one person supports it, and this exhaustion will transform into negative emotions and affect the familyOther members of.
If two people in the family can go hand in hand, not one is too tired and the other is too idle, life will be much easier. Marriage is like a business. Two people in a partnership must pay together for the "business" to flourish.
