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Adults’ feelings are always looking for a balance. Whether it is the beginning or the end of a relationship, no one wants to love or leave with a sense of debt.
And once love is linked to money, many "cares" will gradually ferment in the heart.
saw the experience of a girl on the Internet: she said that she had met a boy who "smashed her with money" when she was in college. At that time, she hadn't seen the world back and forth several times, and she was "stunned". Gradually accepted his sincerity.
However, the two people couldn't reconcile their concepts when they got along, and the girl broke up. When the man heard that she was about to break up, his voice immediately increased by 8 degrees: If you want to break up, you can return everything to me. In the end, she pulled a suitcase and packed her things away. She even used half a bottle of cosmetics.
There was a social hot spot in the previous paragraph. I don’t know if you are paying attention: a man in Hangzhou asked his Yantai girlfriend to return the 860,000 yuan gift after he broke up. The
incident finally made it to the court. The man showed various transfer records. The judgment of the first instance was returned to the woman's appeal, and the second instance was defeated, and he was required to return more than 840,000 yuan.
And Ms. Xu in the incident claimed: That's not the case with men during love, just use money for women who like women. I have been with you for more than two years. My youth and chastity are not measured by money. I fell in love with you, and you voluntarily gave it to me. Why should I go back now?
But I think a healthy and normal relationship does not involve large sums of money. Even if the other party willingly gives you, you cannot let the other party continue to pay. If you really care about him, you will not let him be overly emotional consumption.
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Actually in the adult world, the kind of love that you come to me is the most worthwhile. We will not refuse to reveal the material relationship in the balance of emotions, but we will always adjust the weight of each to create relative fairness.
After all, if the material gains in a relationship are more than love, then it is difficult for the relationship that is wrapped up in the unclear money relationship to become open.
In reality, there are many women who take affection and marriage as a harvester of benefits, and treat themselves as a commodity to treat an emotion, and they will eventually get nothing.
And for men, if you "smash" your girlfriend or wife back with money, do you really feel confident in your heart? Do you really believe that his feelings for you are real?
The emotion based on money is far from strong enough. When one day you cannot satisfy the other party's request, you will break up unhappy.
As a flight attendant, Ms. Xu is 26 years old and she is 1.70 meters tall and looks good. Mr. Yu, who filed a lawsuit to return 860,000 yuan in gift, is a 37-year-old who is 1.65 meters tall and looks average and she is a divorced private company owner.
Money and love, wealth and sex, they are always human weakness. Once the relationship is linked to interest, the relationship between the two parties is not so pure. Of course, it is impossible not to talk about money at all in an emotional marriage, so what we can do is to properly handle the relationship between money and affection.
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Money is a double-edged sword, which can make people elegant and downright. Some people say that it is very vulgar to mention money, but it is this kind of tacky thing, like a touchstone, and at the same time it can be a knife to destroy feelings.
faced this young and beautiful Ms. Xu who wanted to take a shortcut, and thought of Yi Shu's "Xibao". In Yi Shu's original work, Xi Bao has a classic saying:
"I always hope to get a lot of love. If there is no love, a lot of money is good. If you don't have both, I still have health. In fact, I am not poor. "Z2z
But life is not art, there are not so many xibao. And women should establish their own correct view of marriage and values, read more laws, and suffer less. After all, there is no free lunch in the world, and no one’s money comes from the wind.
Youth is not a toy or a bet. You can spend it freely and use it as a transaction in exchange for money. This kind of relationship is precarious, even if you form a marriage, it will be too fragile.
Don’t spend big money in love"Because as a male, you are prone to gains and losses, become more sensitive, and have more expectations for this relationship; as a female, when a man invests too much money in a relationship, it is also a kind of affection for you. Stress. When you regret this relationship one day, you are likely to clean up a mess. Z7z
A reasonable expectation in a love and marriage is the motivation and direction for two people to move forward together. Love can be built on a material basis, but Never let money run through the emotions, such a calculation formula is difficult to establish.
The world is so big, thank you, you can see me!
[This article was originally produced by Wei Wei An, plagiarism must be investigated / pictures from the Internet, invaded and deleted 】Z2z
