"Tao Te Ching" says: "A husband does not fight, so no one in the world can fight with him."
In the eyes of many people, only by fighting can you get what you want.
However, in fact this may not be the case.
Sometimes, the more aggressively we fight, the farther away we will be from our goals.
Only by choosing to let go when it's time to let go will you be closer to happiness.
Don't fight for leisure
An old saying goes: "A big belly can tolerate things that the world cannot tolerate."
In life, we will inevitably encounter some conflicts and contradictions. If we cannot suppress our momentary anger and insist on competing with each other, then it is very likely that the "trivial" matters will become more widespread.
If a person is entangled in trivial matters, then the really important things will be delayed.
In life, you must distinguish the priorities. Only by distinguishing between light and heavy can we make rational choices and avoid being consumed by low-value things.
Napoleon said: "A person who can control his emotions is greater than a general who can capture a city."
If you capture a city, you will defeat others; if you control your emotions, you will defeat yourself.
Sometimes, defeating yourself is more difficult and meaningful than defeating others.
If a person cannot control his emotions, then he will only become a slave to his emotions.
Only by taking your time and weighing the pros and cons rationally can you gain true freedom and make your life path smoother.
Don’t argue about right or wrong
Some people always like to stare at other people’s mistakes.
In their opinion, since the other party is wrong, then it must be corrected.
As a result, their persistence brought them a lot of unnecessary trouble.
In life, there is no need to make a clear distinction between right and wrong.
is too clear. I am tired, and so is the other party.
When faced with insignificant errors, you can choose a friendly reminder. If the other party is willing to correct, that's fine; if the other party is not willing to correct, then don't be too persistent.
Many times, when we see the other party making mistakes again and again, it is not because the other party does not know that he or she has made a mistake, but because the other party is unwilling to correct it.
Faced with such a situation, if we persist in forcing the other party to correct their mistakes, then we will only be disgusted by the other party.
The biggest stupidity of a person is to argue about right and wrong with those close to him.
If you argue with people close to you about right and wrong, even if you win the argument but lose your feelings, what's the point?
The more mature a person is, the more he will understand that many times, right or wrong is not that important. This world is not black and white.
People get along with each other and tolerate each other.
Only by being able to tolerate each other's "black spots" can we avoid unnecessary arguments and make the relationship between the two parties more harmonious.
Don't fight for gains and losses
Sanmao said: "What God does not give me, no matter how tightly my fingers are clasped, it still leaks; what is given to me, no matter how I miss in the past, I will have it."
The more things we experience, the more we will find that there are many things that we cannot control.
In the face of gains and losses, if we are too focused on gains and losses, we will easily worry about gains and losses.
When you get it, you are afraid of losing it; when you lose it, you feel regretful.
If you do this, you will always be in pain.
Gains and losses are impermanent. What we have to do is not to control this "impermanence", but to calm down our mentality and not be happy about gains and not worry about losses.
While we are alive, although we cannot control the "impermanence" of the outside world, we can control our own behavior.
When we let go of our worries about gains and losses, and just do our own thing with peace of mind, and just do everything with all our strength, we may find that there will be no less of what is due.
In the second half of life, only by not being greedy for gratuitous things and not worrying about unnecessary things can we free ourselves from fetters and live freely and freely.
Conclusion:
Lao Tzu said: "The less you gain, the more you get confused."
Sometimes, many of the troubles in life come from doing "too much".
Only by learning to subtract and be more "negative" can we avoid unnecessary troubles.
Don't fight for leisure, but give yourself peace; don't fight for right or wrong, give yourself relaxation; don't fight for gain or loss, give yourself peace of mind.
I hope you and I can have the wisdom of "indisputable".
will encourage you.
