Many people think that money and feelings should be separated, and they are afraid that talking about money will hurt feelings. A stable intimate relationship is destined to be inseparable from money. Real feelings can withstand talking about money.
being able to talk about money means that two people can communicate effectively and reach an agreement on money issues, which can avoid many conflicts.
After getting married, I realized that poor and humble couples have everything to suffer from. The conflicts in life are basically caused by money, which is sad. Talking openly about money is the greatest responsibility for a marriage. Couples who can talk about money can be better together for the rest of their lives.
When we first got married, my husband and I spent our own money and had no idea of saving money. After we had children, my mother-in-law took care of them for us, so we didn’t need to worry about money. Only one day I went to my parents' house, and my parents asked me, who is in charge of the money in your family? I said that we each spend our own money, and my husband's money is sometimes saved for my mother-in-law, and I don't care about the money!
My parents asked me again, how much money can you earn in a month? If we spend some money on you, do you still have to look at your mother-in-law's face? If she is happy, she will give you some money. What if she is unhappy? I'm speechless.
After I got home, I discussed with my husband whether we should start saving money. You would use part of your salary and I would use part of it. If something happens, we wouldn’t be blind. My husband agreed, and that’s how it is till now.
In the adult world, nothing can escape the word "money". Car loans and house payments, illness and accidents, and countless other things in married life are all related to money.
If love does not fall into the real life of dressing, eating, sleeping, and counting money, it will not last long.
My second aunt’s son hanged himself because of money problems. He was only 39 years old when he died. His wife is very strict with his money, and his mother also forces him to do it for money. He invested a sum of money into his brother's tile factory, which was in a recession due to strict environmental inspections. His wife asked him to get the money back, but he couldn't say anything. He was living in the cracks of his relatives. He couldn't stand it anymore, so he chose to hang himself.
There are so many close relationships. When money is not discussed, the moon is full, but when money is discussed, one can't wait to break up. Adult marriage has always been more than just love itself, it also contains the material basis. If you want to be happy for a long time, you not only need emotional maintenance, but also need to reach a consensus on money.
Every marriage often starts with love, but ends with life. If it cannot meet each other's material needs, no matter how good the relationship is, it will most likely be like a castle in the air without any foundation.
Talking about money in marriage does not hurt your feelings, because what you talk about is money, but what you are looking at is the human heart. Two people in a marriage must have a correct concept and understanding of money, which is a good foundation for a happy, harmonious and symbiotic marriage.
People who love you will not only give you love, but also have enough bread; they are willing to spend money for you, and they will not make your life miserable.
For a truly good relationship, money and love complement each other, and are also the prerequisite and guarantee for the quality of marriage!
