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In addition, there are many such examples in reality. Through these examples, we can easily see that in most cases, if you behave very improperly when chasing girls, it is very difficult to succeed, and it is easy to leave a frivolous impression on the other party.
Moreover, if continues like this, this "irregular" image will become our personal label, which will have a long-lasting impact on us, and even affect the establishment of our interpersonal relationships and the development of our careers.
If this is the case, does it mean that it is easier to get out of singles if you behave more seriously? It’s hard to say. In real life, there are also many serious people who can’t find a partner. Does this mean that there is no meaning in pursuing girls, whether serious or not?
You can’t say that. Everything has its own reason for existence, both serious and improper. Being upright is to behave properly, sit upright, and leave a good impression on the other party. It is an indispensable behavioral performance when we deal with others.
The reason for the existence of informality is naturally to add some interest to our ordinary life. However, we cannot behave in any serious situation. This will make others think that we are unreliable. Therefore, in the face of "irregular" behavior, we must have our own principles for dealing with others and restrain our words and deeds.
Okay, let’s go back to the scene of “chasing girls”. So, when is chasing girls, under what circumstances should we behave seriously? Under what circumstances should one act inappropriately?
Naturally, in most situations, we must correct our behavior and style. For example, when getting along with elders, when managing interpersonal relationships, when running a business, etc. In a series of situations, we should restrain our words and deeds with serious standards.
The reason is very simple. What girls need most is a sense of security. If we cannot restrain our words and deeds well when getting along with others, or cannot grasp the distance and propriety when communicating with others, it will easily give girls an unreliable feeling, and will not bring a sense of security to girls, making it difficult to leave the single.
has a relatively limited scope for inappropriate applications. Generally speaking, most inappropriate applications should be used in the world of couples. In other words, appropriate "irregularity" is the flavoring of the emotional relationship between husband and wife, which is beneficial to the management of the relationship. However, one must also grasp the sense of proportion and scale. Excessive "irregularity" will be counterproductive.
What needs special attention is that whether it is serious or not, it is some positive and positive behavior, rather than doing something illegal and disorderly.
Changyan Changyu:
When chasing girls, is it better to be serious or not? When chasing girls, it is naturally better to be more serious. After all, no matter what kind of relationship, leaving a good impression on the other party is the most important. If you want to leave a good impression on the other party, you must correct your behavior in the process of dealing with others and behave more seriously.
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I am Changtan Shengsheng, a member of the Family Education Bureau, focusing on family emotions and various aspects of life. Together, we use our experiences to pass on positive energy (News will be uploaded on time at 7:30 every morning)!
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Original author: Chang Tansheng
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