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Being able to enjoy being alone in ordinary and boring days
One of the reasons why most people’s relationships come to an end is: the novelty disappears. What is new about
? In fact, it can also be understood as passion.
For example:
You can’t feel love or heartbeat from the other person.
Even if the other person puts on the same clothes as when you first met and returns to the place where you first met, you won't find that heart-pounding, tense feeling of love.
is replaced by numbness, negativity, boredom and exhaustion.
Many people will have similar feelings.
The longer we are together, the stronger this feeling will be, because the length of time that passion can last is only a few months.
After this period of time, the relationship between you will change.
People who are loyal to their feelings must have the characteristic of being able to endure loneliness.
For example:
Some people can handle and manage their lives well even if they stay at home for a week.
In this seemingly boring and ordinary life, he will create his own romance, pursue the life he wants, and do what he likes.
Read, drink tea, do housework, enjoy food, watch dramas, meditate, rest, etc.
These abilities all stem from his heart that can endure loneliness.
He enjoys solitude more than complicated relationships.
There are also some people who love the pursuit of novelty, try unknown things, and long for adventure.
Let alone a week, he couldn't bear it even if he was asked to stay at home for 2 days.
For this kind of people, once they lose the freshness in their relationship, they will also lose their love for you.
Therefore, people who are loyal and dedicated to their feelings must love to be alone.
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is not love brain , but finding a balance between feelings and self-life
There are two types of people.
Category 1:
They have some love brains. They wish they could be by your side all the time, talk sweet words to you every day, and want to do all kinds of things with you.
Even when he is not with you, he will make a lot of phone calls and send you a lot of messages, and he will want to know in detail what you have done that day.
Category 2:
When they are with you, they enjoy the sweetness and happiness of love and will not think about other things.
He is willing to do his own thing when he is not with you.
is busy with work, busy with life, and managing his own interests and hobbies.
When I am by your side, I will try my best to love you; when I am not around you, I will try my best to love my life.
Which of these two types of people are more affectionate?
is undoubtedly the second category. The problem of
is like "long-distance running".
What is the importance of long-distance running? Uniform speed.
If you try your best to run to the first place in the first few hundred meters, you will not be able to hold on until the end and watch helplessly as the people behind you pass you one by one.
Only by maintaining a constant speed and retaining the last bit of sprinting energy can you possibly get a good ranking.
The same is true for love.
People who are emotionally loyal and dedicated must have a clear "sense of boundaries."
They will not alienate you, but keep a certain distance from you.
"Distance creates beauty."
If you feel the continuous beauty in him, he will love you longer.
On the contrary, if you can't wait to be together from the beginning, it won't take long for you to lose your patience and energy.
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A loyal person will give you a visible future
Psychologist Sternberg proposed the triangle theory of love.
includes: passion, commitment, intimacy.
The "freshness" mentioned above belongs to the category of passion.
Commitment means that in the process of getting along, you are willing to give each other promises, commitments, and firmly fulfill every commitment.
Only this kind of love can be long-lasting and stable.
For example:
Those who truly love you and are loyal to you will make promises that you can "see and feel".
He said to work hard and get married to you soon.
Then you can feel his meticulousness, concentration and hard work in him.
Work hard, live hard, love you hard.
If he says he will take you on a trip, he will not break his promise; if he says he will prepare a surprise for you, he will definitely satisfy you.
He will definitely work hard to fulfill the promise he makes to you.
And what about those who are not loyal to their feelings?
will only paint a big picture for you, comfort you with sweet words and promises every time, but rarely deliver them in time.
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Loyalty comes from your chips being high enough
Psychologically speaking:
Everyone has a positive and negative side in their heart. The positive side of
includes: kindness, justice, loyalty, beauty, optimism, etc. The negative side of
includes: evil, insidious, deceitful, pessimistic, etc.
From the perspective of the relationship between people, the other party will not betray you because you or the relationship between you have high stakes.
Once he betrays you, it means he has to pay a big price, which he cannot accept.
So, instead of betraying you, it is better to choose to remain loyal.
On the other hand:
Those who are not loyal to their feelings and always betray them do so because their chips are too low.
Even if he betrays, the punishment will be painless anyway, so he has nothing to lose.
This is human nature and reality.
We must learn to face love, rather than leaning towards extreme romanticism love;
We must love specific people, not imaginary relationships.
We must believe that the other party is loyal, but we must also be prepared for the possibility of betrayal by the other party.
Summary: What are the characteristics of people who are loyal and dedicated to their feelings?
1. Enjoy solitude and endure loneliness.
2. Don’t have a love brain and can find a balance between love and self.
3. Make a promise and you must fulfill it.
4. The interests are deeply tied and the stakes are higher.
Today’s topic:
What do you think of people who are loyal to their feelings?
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