Tao Ying and Zhao Jianlin have been in love for a year. Zhao Jianlin wanted to take Tao Ying home to meet his parents. Tao Ying thought about it and agreed.
The two took their annual leave and got on the long-distance bus to Zhao Jianlin's house at 11 a.m., and didn't get off until 8 a.m. the next morning.
got out of the car and walked along the winding path for about 40 minutes before finally arriving at Zhao Jianlin's home.
Zhao Jianlin's parents raised three children. Zhao Jianlin is the second child. He has an older sister and a younger brother.
The family is too poor to afford education for so many children. In such a family, the sacrifice is always made by the daughter. Zhao Jianlin's sister went out to work early and sent money for her two younger brothers to go to school.
Now my elder sister has already married and had children in a nearby village. Zhao Jianlin has been working for three years after graduating from university, and Zhao Jianlin's younger brother is also a senior.
Tao Ying and Zhao Jianlin work in the same company. The enthusiastic, cheerful, lively and petite Tao Ying successfully attracted Zhao Jianlin's attention, and Zhao Jianlin began to pursue Tao Ying.
As for Tao Ying, she was also very fond of the sunny and smiling Zhao Jianlin, so it didn't take long for the two to successfully develop into a couple.
Colleagues secretly advised Tao Ying not to look for Zhao Jianlin, because even if Zhao Jianlin’s family was poor, he still had machismo in his bones. But how many girls in love can listen to other people's advice?
Finally arrived at her boyfriend's house. Zhao Jianlin's grandfather and father were sitting in the room smoking without getting up. Tao Ying greeted them and they nodded. Instead, his grandma and mother came out to invite her to sit down, made tea for her, and set out some melon seeds and peanuts.
Grandma and mother were sitting next to her, chatting and eating. Zhao Jianlin's father over there asked her mother to make tea for him and his father. As soon as her mother heard this, she stood up immediately, nodded obediently and went to make tea.
Tao Ying found it strange that her dad was sitting there with nothing to do, so why couldn't he just drink it himself and had to ask someone else to do it. Zhao Jianlin explained to her that his dad was used to it and didn't know how to do anything at home except making money outside.
Sure enough, while cooking, my boyfriend’s dad and grandpa were still sitting there, smoking and chatting! But his mother and grandmother went into the kitchen and started preparing meals.
Tao Ying remembered that in her own home, when her parents were resting at home, her father, who was a good cook, would take the initiative to go to the kitchen and would not let her mother choose and chop vegetables, saying that he liked to stir-fry the vegetables that he cut beautifully, but her mother cut them in a mess and was not in the mood to stir-fry them.
As for my mother, she would quietly check her cell phone while waiting for dinner. During the meal, she would also praise her husband for cooking dishes that were more delicious than those cooked by the hotel chef. After the meal, she would pick up the dishes and wash the dishes.
This kind of lifestyle of her parents is the married life she yearns for. Tao Ying remembers the first time Zhao Jianlin went to her house. When she saw her father put on an apron and went to the kitchen to cook, she said it was incredible, saying that your father is a director-level figure in the work unit, but he still cooks when he comes home?
Tao Ying replied proudly at the time: "My dad does everything. Buying vegetables, cooking, washing clothes, and cleaning. Shouldn't the housework be the responsibility of the husband and wife?"
Zhao Jianlin said: "In our countryside, only useless men do housework!"
Tao Ying felt a chill in her back when she thought of this. She deliberately tested Zhao Jianlin who was playing on his mobile phone: "Brother Jian, won't you go to the kitchen to help?"
Zhao Jianlin said : "No, I have never entered the kitchen since I was a child. In our family, men do not enter the kitchen."
This sentence made Tao Ying very disgusted. She said: "Why don't men enter the kitchen? Did you make a lot of money? I remember you said that part of the money you and your brother spent studying was your sister working to support you!"
"My dad has been a small contractor outside in the past few years and has made more money than before." Zhao Jianlin answered her without raising his head.
When it was time to eat, Zhao Jianlin's mother and grandma put the food on the table and called them to eat. They walked to the table and sat down to prepare to eat. However, their mother and grandma went into the kitchen after loading the rice. Tao Ying asked Zhao Jianlin why he didn't call them to the table to eat. Zhao Jianlin said that the kitchen was warm, and grandma and mother were afraid of the cold, so they left food for themselves in the kitchen.
Tao Ying only ate half a bowl of rice at each meal, so she finished it in three or two times. She went to the kitchen to collect the dishes and chopsticks, and saw her mother-in-law and daughter-in-law sitting by the stove eating silently, with not much food in the bowl.
Tao Ying walked over and said, "Grandma, aunt, why don't you go to the table to eat?"
They both shook their heads and said, "We are used to eating in the kitchen, not sitting at the table."
Tao Ying felt sour after hearing this. She didn't say anything and was about to walk out. Just as she walked to the door, she vaguely heard Zhao Jianlin's father saying that she was too short to work in the countryside.
She pretended not to hear, walked to where the melon seeds and peanuts were placed, took out her mobile phone, and told her parents about the situation. Her parents analyzed that the phenomenon of men being superior to women still exists in today's society, but it is mostly reflected in the workplace. As for the fact that women in a family are not used to serving at the table, it means that the men in this family do not respect their significant other. You are almost 24 years old, so you should make your own decisions about your own feelings.
When Zhao Jianlin came over after eating, Tao Ying asked curiously: "Brother Jian, if your father makes money outside, will he give it to your mother?"
"No, just give him living expenses. My father is in charge of the house." Zhao Jianlin said.
"Brother Jian, my head is a little dizzy, and my skin is not good. I get red bumps after just one night's sleep in the countryside, and it's very itchy. I have to go home in the afternoon."
"You didn't tell me earlier, I finally came back." Zhao Jianlin's face didn't look good.
"You can stay at home for a few more days, just take me out for a ride."
Zhao Jianlin had no choice but to take Tao Ying to the town bus station on a motorcycle. Tao Ying had to take a bus from here to the provincial capital to transfer home.
In the driving car, Tao Ying said to Zhao Jianlin on WeChat: Brother Jian, my heavy heart became lighter after coming out of your house. In your house, I feel that women really have no status. Even your 72-year-old grandma cannot serve on the table. I don’t want to marry into such a family in the future. I thought for a long time that we should break up, because I want to find a partner who will cook for me and I will wash the dishes for him; I will wash the clothes and he will hang the clothes. Obviously you are not the other half!
Yiyanyiyu believes: In a good marriage, husband is not only an identity, but also a responsibility; wife is not only a nickname, but also a guardian! Marriage requires mutual dedication, support, and respect to support each other until old age. Marriage also pays attention to being well-matched and having three views. In a good marriage, there will never be a situation where men are superior to women, or women are inferior to men, because in the end, couples are more vividly described as partners. If you don't respect your partner, why should they lick their faces and partner with you?
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