When it comes to falling in love, some couples will just start dating, and the man will mention marriage and make various arrangements.
There are still lovers who have been dating each other for several years, but they still can't wait for each other to get married.
As a woman, when you have been dating a man for several years, if you are still not too old and are not in a hurry, you can continue to talk as long as you feel it doesn't matter. Nothing else matters.
And if you are not young anymore, you have obviously reached the marriageable age, or are even about to pass this age, and you feel that the time is already ripe, it is inevitable that you will not be able to wait.
will hope that everything can be settled as soon as possible, and your marriage can be settled as soon as possible.
You will have such expectations, and you will also want your boyfriend to take the initiative to mention it. When he never mentions it, you will also ask. Unfortunately, even if you take the initiative to ask, he may not give you a satisfactory answer. He may just say that there is no need to rush.
At that moment, you will naturally feel a little unhappy, and you will also be unsure of what the other person means, and you don't know where to go.
Let’s have a good chat and put it on the agenda as much as possible.
Generally speaking, it is not normal for someone to not get married after dating for so long.
Especially when you want to get married but he still doesn't say anything, it is even more necessary for you to find out what the other person thinks.
You don’t have to be bored all the time, just find a suitable time to communicate with the other person calmly and listen to his truest thoughts deep in his heart, how he views your relationship and what his plans are.
If he has any worries, just resolve them with him. If he has any worries, just help him resolve them.
Getting married is indeed not that simple, and will involve a relatively complicated process. However, as long as you are willing and really want to marry him, and he also has the intention, all the processes can be simplified, and everything can actually be completed quickly.
Anyway, as long as he doesn't want to marry you, you can work hard with him to meet each other's parents within a few months, let the two families sit down, discuss your marriage, and implement all the details.
A man who really wants to marry you will not let you down when you take the initiative.
Because you think, he is actually the same. In the past days, he may have just gotten used to your state and didn't think about it all of a sudden. Maybe he really had some other ideas and wanted to wait until everything was more secure before talking about marriage.
Give a deadline and wait a little longer if appropriate.
If you chat with him, you may get a good result, but you may still not get it.
No matter how much you say you don't mind many factors, he may just keep saying it's not the right time yet and give you all kinds of excuses.
If what he said is not a problem at all, but he keeps emphasizing that naturally, your desire to marry him will not be achieved all of a sudden, and you can only continue to wait.
You have been waiting for it for so many days. If you can't bear it, you can also allow yourself to wait for a while.
can wait, but this time, don’t wait endlessly. Just tell yourself a time, and also tell the other person this time, letting him know how long you can only wait.
Give him some time, let him prepare, let him make a choice. When that deadline comes, if he says marriage, and you still think he is a good choice, just marry him without thinking so much.
But if at that time, he is still unwilling and makes various excuses, you'd better not be stupid. He probably doesn't have any difficulties, but he really doesn't want to become a family with you and walk the future together.
If I want to marry you, there will always be a way. If I don’t want to, I will delay you for a while, and then delay you for a while. I will keep dragging you like that, but I will never really take action to let you see hope.
If he doesn’t want to marry you, leave immediately.
is also possible. When you ask him, you will really find that he doesn't even bother to deal with you or delay. He just looks like he is really unwilling and hopes there are other possibilities.
doesn't care about your thoughts and emotions at all. If you want to stay, he seems to accept it. If you want to leave, he doesn't seem to care.
In the past years, he may have been sincere to you, but at this moment, from him, you can no longer feel that he cares about you. He no longer wants this relationship, and is still looking forward to other possibilities.
If you can see clearly that the other party really has no intention of marrying you, even if you have been dating for several years, you'd better not be reluctant to let go because of this. You should complain in various ways and let him give you a result.
It would be boring to force him to marry you. There is a high probability that he will not be willing to marry you. Even if he has no choice but to marry you, it will not decide anything at all. After marriage, he will not treat you well at all, and everything will only be miserable.
If you don't want to marry someone, don't force him, and don't continue to spend time with him. There will be no good results.
Before it's too late and you're still young, end this relationship quickly and let yourself start over.
You still have a chance to meet a better person. There is no need to spend this time on the wrong person.
It is a blessing to receive the news that the other party wants to marry me at the right time.
Everything will be more natural, and things will fall into place for the two of them.
It’s indeed a pity that I can’t wait for that day, but I can’t just sit back and wait, doing nothing and pretending that everything is fine.
Then fight for the future you want and solve the problems between each other.
If it gets what it wants, it will still be a good result. There is really no other way. It would be a good thing to get rid of it as soon as possible.
After all, when you still have the strength and can still choose, it is better to take the initiative to respond and decide your own future than to wait passively until the end, and there is no way out.
Some people, no matter how long they wait, will never be able to wait.
text/Tan Meng
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