"Teacher, I broke up, this time completely."
has known this reader for a year, and during this year, she and her boyfriend have been on and off.
The two of them have been apart for a long time and often make time to see each other. She is very good to him and he takes good care of her.
After every quarrel, the two ended up breaking up, and in the end they even deleted each other's WeChat accounts.
But before long, the girl will find the other person to get back together. She can't let it go, and maybe the boy can't let it go either. The two of them have reconciled like this.
During this year, the two of them quarreled very frequently, and every time it was the girl who started it first. Every word you said to me, and all kinds of unpleasant things, would become the source of her outbursts.
Because he always broke up, he would not coax her anymore. Once, the two of them had no contact for two months. It was not until she bought a ticket to go to the city where he was that they truly reconciled.
However, less than 3 months later, the two broke up again. This time she proposed it, and he agreed without saying a word, and then deleted all his contact information.
In this relationship, the reason why she always liked to quarrel with him was not induced by the incident at that time, but more from a kind of dissatisfaction.
She often complained that he could not accompany her, often despised him for not being able to have a good job after graduation, and even compared him with other boys.
She rarely called him because she was afraid that he would be busy, but she always thought of him silently and hoped to hear his voice.
But he rarely takes the initiative to send her messages. Even if he is playing games or going to dinner with friends, he does not contact her. Every time
calls, he always replies with a few words and then hangs up.
This kind of perfunctoriness makes her always feel tired. She often says that she cares about him very much, but why can't she get his love and positive feedback.
Why do women love so much but never feel happiness? The fundamental reason is one - not receiving a love response.
First of all, let’s talk about what “happiness” is. According to the encyclopedia, happiness refers to a subjective emotion of joy and pleasure that humans produce based on their own sense of satisfaction and security.
The reason why we don't feel happy is because we are not satisfied in this relationship.
Many times reality teaches us that if we pay, we will gain. However, when it comes to relationships, your efforts may not necessarily be appreciated by others.
Even in a relationship, if one party gives in for a long time, all it will cause in the end is psychological collapse.
Not getting a response is the most heartbreaking pain.
Just like some women clearly love each other, but the other party still cannot give a certain response, then at this time the woman cannot gain happiness.
In fact, there are also things to consider when it comes to love and making friends. For example, when a friend celebrates his birthday, we give him a thoughtful gift, and when we celebrate our birthday, we also hope that the other party can give us a surprise.
This is not an exchange of equal value, nor does it mean that your efforts must have results, but that you are valued and occupy a certain position in the other party's heart.
So, in a relationship, two people need to coordinate and care for each other. If only one person pays, then obviously the relationship is not established and cannot last.
Secondly, Emotional Psychology points out: Women are emotion-centered. No matter how powerful a woman is, she hopes to have a warm shoulder to rely on, so they are more eager to have their love needs met.
They hope that men can give themselves a space. In this space, they hope that men will give them meticulous care.
No matter how much a woman takes care of the relationship, if the other party cannot give a certain amount of loving feedback, the woman's happiness will become lower and lower.
In the final analysis, it comes from the fact that our emotions are not satisfied.
At this time, we need to find the reasons from ourselves and the other person, and consider whether we are too sensitive and suspicious, or whether he really doesn't love you as much as you think.
If you face a man who is unwilling to respond to you in return for his long-term efforts, I think the best choice is to stop the relationship immediately. Don't think that you have invested so much time and energy in it, and it would be a pity to just give up.
You know the most hurtful way to hurt someone? It’s not like I broke up with you and just fell out, we will be strangers from now on. It's the kind of smile that hides a knife and constantly stimulates your weakness with words.
Not willing to respond to your man, that's what. Enjoying the love and care given by women, but it is one-sided personal enjoyment.
So, at this moment, letting go is the best choice, giving yourself and life a good explanation and destination.
Reference: "Love Psychology"
