Let me tell you, in this life, I can afford any setback. Some people think that I can’t stand it, and it’s useless to not be able to hold on, and it’s impossible to hold on. Even if I can’t stand it, I have to live my life.
I have seen depression . Have you heard of depression? A university student sent me a message, teacher, I am depression, I always want to commit suicide, take medicine, and want to talk to you, I asked him, I said, "What kind of depression are you?" He said I have dropped out of school for two years and took medicine at home to maintain it. He said I always think that death is better than living. You said I am a serious pathological disease. Later, I asked him, "Do you feel that living is painful now?" He said, "Yes, I said, have you been happy when you are alive?" He said I was happy, and I thought to myself that it was okay. I said when did you learn to live happily. He said when I was in junior high school, he said that our family was not very good at that time and the conditions were not very good, but he said that I was in junior high school, and I was still among the top students in the class. I said why are you not doing well now? After going to college, I’m sorry, you know that you are in the county. If you are in the top five, you will try , Tsinghua , I ask you which one is not the top five? You understand this. After he arrived at university, what he once proud of was his good academic performance. The fulcrum of his confidence in life disappeared after he arrived at university. Those who were admitted to university were good at studying. Moreover, the children in the city, children with good family conditions, not only studied better than him, but also danced better and sang better. When people went out to eat or participate in any activities, they would spend money smoothly and their family conditions were good!
Then you know, this child is uncomfortable and cannot stay in this environment. All the fulcrums that make him confident are gone. Finally, he goes home. After he returns home, he will be in this state. I told the child, I said, you have no disease. I said you are not a mental illness at all, but an imbalance in values. I said why you are happy in high school? It is because you feel better in high school than others, why I am happy in high school? You are not as happy as me in high school. Don’t look at your family’s life. You are not as good as me in your studies. I said you are just such a person. I said why you are not good at college. Your family’s conditions are not as good as others, and your studies are not as good as others, then you will be uncomfortable!
I said that people like you, if you learn Chinese culture in the future, you know how a person can be happy, it is better for others to learn than yourself. People's family is better than me, so I'm like this. I said now, I said I'm middle-aged and 40 years old. My colleagues are of the same age as me, my colleagues, I'm now an associate professor. Two of my colleagues have been professors. If I think they are about the same age as me, or even younger than me, they have been professors, and I feel uncomfortable, that is, I am sick, and I think I should be uncomfortable because I am narrow-minded and my colleagues have been professors. I sincerely wish you a blessing, because after your salary increases, after you become a professor, you have children, parents, you have more money, and you live a good life. I think this is a good thing. I say that all Chinese people live better than me, every family is richer, more wealthier than our family, and you live a better life. I say I am particularly happy that there is no war and suffering in the whole world, and every person in every world and every citizen live a happy life. This is my wish. I said, you boy, I said, what are your illnesses?
He is from the northwest. I said you live in the northwest, not as wide as the northwest. I said you stayed at home for two years after you were freshman year and took medicine. I said, "What did you do to your parents?" I said I was right, you would commit suicide every day, and your parents would be tortured by you for a long time and get seriously ill. Do you know? I said you are so selfish, who have you considered?
Later, the child said, he thought about it, he said, "You said it was very ugly, but he said you hit the pain point in my heart. He said that in fact, he felt that he was not as good as others and he was unwilling to accept it."
It is not as unacceptable as others. I said that I am not as unacceptable as others. How can this be done? People are better than themselves, so they should be happy. Do you think we should advocate this kind of life? I’m talking about this child because I’m doing well, but why is it uncomfortable? I’ll tell you about this child. Although I’m talking very badly, after more than half a year, the medicine has stopped and I went to school!
After talking about this, I suggest that everyone should receive education on suffering and setbacks. I tell you that I have seen too many people better than me in my life. My knowledge is better than me, my thoughts are deeper than me, and my friends are all officials, because I am not an official, and they have developed much better than me. So what's wrong, I sincerely wish them a blessing.
You must have this mind in your life. Okay, friends, how much hardship you suffer and how much blessing you will be. In this life, you must be trained.
