text/Hua Yaoguan
Everyone has different views on marriage, just like there are a thousand Hamlets among a thousand readers.
Some people are realistic, believing that marriage will eventually be full of food, food, oil and salt, and feelings will always fade, and they need to endure it again and again.
, and some people are idealistic, believing that marriage should be about snuggling with each other, and truly respect each other and support each other.
Everyone is in a different environment, so the choices and answers given are different. In fact, as long as it suits you, it doesn’t matter.
Just like there are countless couples in the world, some couples have strong men and weak women, and some couples have women who manage the family. As long as they are suitable for each other, a marriage can be established.
Of course, some couples get along with each other are not suitable for them, so they may be separated halfway.
often, those couples in the world who can live their whole lives have "commonities", and these commonalities will make them go further and further.
Someone once asked, what is the most important thing in a relationship?
Someone’s answer is: Three views.
We cannot deny that a marriage is composed of many factors, but the three views are one of the most critical factors.
Two people with different values cannot reach the end.
Just like the popular saying before, "What I see is the beauty of the sea, but you say there are corpses in the sea."
When two people become husband and wife, the two have a relationship of "one prosper and one loses together".
At this time, all couples need to maintain their relationship through communication, so as to move towards a further future.
And the three views are the content direction of communication. If the two people talk differently and their thoughts are not on the same channel, the problem will never be solved.
is like two people in parallel time and space, and they will never be able to understand the other person’s true thoughts.
Couples need to live a lifetime relationship.
Therefore, communication between husband and wife is also extremely important.
When a couple has the same views but does not like communication, regret will become the norm.
It is obvious that the two of them can go to the end, but their relationship has stopped due to minor problems such as communication, and it is too late to regret it in the future.
Just as a netizen said: In fact, true marriage is nothing more than mutual understanding and mutual dependence and support. You can remove all your defense and fatigue at home without disguise. A simple meal, a light, and a person waiting for you can be very happy.
No matter how good a couple is, there will be times when conflicts arise, and communication is the best way to solve problems.
Dramond once said: "If you don't want to reason, you are stubborn; if you don't know how to reason, you are fool; if you don't dare to reason, you are slaves."
In love, you also need to learn how to reason. Only by saying it out can the other party know your true thoughts.
Yang Jiang and Qian Zhongshu are always praised, but looking at their love actually has many flaws.
Although Qian Zhongshu is a very talented person, he is a novice in life. He can't cook and wash clothes, and even walk.
But Yang Jiang tolerated everything about him and took care of his food, clothing, daily life, and they helped each other together for a lifetime.
In them, in addition to seeing a consistent view of the three views and effective communication, they also have mutual tolerance and understanding.
No one’s love is perfect, but some couples can just go on together.
Although others are not optimistic, as long as they like the way they get along with each other, their relationship will last forever.
After all, feelings are your love and my will, and you are with yourself, not others.
As long as you feel that he is the right person and can live in harmony with you, it will definitely be a good marriage.
Marriage is inseparable from food, rice, oil and salt, and people's personalities and interests are also different.
So, marriage is actually a true portrayal of "seeking common ground while reserving differences".
Just like some people like to cook, some people like to eat; some people like to exercise, some people are more home-friendly...
These are all difficulties that can be overcome. On the contrary, two people with different personalities and interests will become more interesting together and have a complementary effect.
Whether a marriage can continue depends on the efforts of two people. If it is not a matter of principle, most marriages can actually be beautiful.
A friend once complained about her husband. She said that her husband doesn’t like taking a bath, so he often smells smelly, which she dislikes; but she also said that her husband brings her delicious food every day, and he is really considerate.
In fact, these shortcomings and advantages do not conflict in marriage. Although no one is perfect, everyone also has the value of his existence.
But if the husband does not like to be clean and the wife refuses to listen to her all year round after preaching, which seriously affects her wife's life, then this relationship will definitely not be able to continue, because this is already other problems after the communication is fruitless.
The husband may have different ideas from his wife, believing that people do not need to take a bath frequently, which is a matter of three views; the husband may also be selfish and too lazy to wash, thinking that his wife's emotions are not important, which is a matter of understanding.
A couple who can truly live their lives must have the common characteristics of "consistent views, willingness to communicate, and mutual understanding".
As long as one of them is missing, the relationship will fall apart one day.
The beauty of life has a great relationship with the people you get along with.
Therefore, when choosing the important person you will work with for the rest of your life, you must be very cautious and never get married for the sake of getting married.
