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Forbidden zone for marriage: extramarital affair.
So how to avoid entering the restricted area? Although Zhuzhu is unmarried, she has heard of it and has also heard of it. Of course, she is also afraid of her husband's extramarital affair in the future. So before getting married, it is also good to learn about it. She just sorted out and wrote it out. She took it as a warning with everyone and prepared for the future.
In general, I think there are three ways of marriage that can easily lead to entering the marriage restricted area and causing extramarital affairs.
01. The couple has been separated from each other for a long time
This is the highest reason for the divorce rate according to statistics, and the extramarital affair caused by separation from each other is the main reason.
I, a junior high school classmate, Hai Li, ranked fifth in the family, and the sixth brother is finally the boy my parents want. When Haili was 20 years old, she worked in a factory in Guangdong and met a boy from Xiangxi . She was a young man working as a hardworking worker on a construction site. She didn't know much about it, so she got together and started talking about marriage.
Later I asked her why she was so impulsive at the beginning. She said that she didn't think much about it and thought that if she had a bad life, she would get a divorce.
I heard that Haili's parents got married and had a drink. They went to the man's house in Xiangxi. They never went there again and asked for a lot of bride gifts. When they got married, they were given a few quilts.
Haili married to Xiangxi, and later followed her husband to work in Fujian and Zhejiang. Haili was responsible for cooking for her colleagues. After half a year of cooking, the environment was really hard, and she returned to Xiangxi's in-laws' house when she became pregnant. In the next few years, she gave birth to three boys in a row.
I asked her why she had to have so many children, and it was more difficult for your husband to have a rural area in western Hunan. She said that his husband told her that he wanted a girl.
Hearing this, I once suspected that the man was afraid that Haili would leave and let her have so many children to tie her up.
Because I have children at home and take care of them, basically during the seven or eight years, the couple lived in a long time in a long time, and their relationship was originally zero-foundation. Later, Haili told me that her husband felt uncomfortable and disgusting when she touched her, and often, she just completed the task.
And because of the many children and the pressure of life, her husband doesn’t earn much, so Haili has to find a job by herself. In recent years, she has been working in the Guangzhou toy factory. She can support herself and will also go back to Xiangxi to see her children during the holidays. However, Haili always goes back to her own Chenzhou home for the New Year.
is also in the stage of divorce negotiation. Although I don’t have any questions about the specific reason, through her chat with me, I can vaguely feel that it is most likely that his husband is in a situation in another place.
This is an example that Zhuzhu has truly seen. If you can predict that your future life will be separated from another place for a long time before getting married, you must consider it carefully and must solve the problem of not being separated after marriage.
Otherwise, it is easy to have a tragic marriage like Haili.
02. Strong violence
First of all, let’s talk about common macho violence. When encountering unpleasant things at work and troubles in life, they like to go home and vent their anger on their wife, or even beat and scold their wives at will. Facing the food carefully prepared by his wife, he overturned it on the spot, scolding his wife for not making money, and so on.
You should know that a injured woman is the easiest to be broken. If your wife doesn't care about you, if you give it to others, and if this continues, it will be the warmth you should have given you. If others give it to you, your wife's love will naturally be given to others.
There is also a kind of violence, which is cold violence.
One month a week, or even half a year, two people don’t say a word. This is cold violence.This will cause great mental harm to both children. After a long time of coldness, no matter how good the relationship between husband and wife is, no matter how hot the heart is, it will become cold.
Cold violence is both parties and has responsibility, and it is also an important fuse that may lead to extramarital affair.
03. Working environment in the flowers
I believe this is easier to understand. When we see many celebrity gossip news about divorce, we know that the working environment atmosphere is very easy to cause the situation we are discussing today.
Everyone is a person with desire. There are relatively few people who can not be completely immune to the environment and can walk by the river without getting wet their shoes.
So, if the husband I am looking for in the future is a working environment in the flowers, such as internet celebrity companies, model companies, health clubs, etc., then I will definitely ask him to change his job, no matter how high his income and salary there is, because this determines our happiness and safety after marriage.
So, the above is compiled by Zhuzhu Thinking, three married lifestyles that can easily lead to extramarital affairs. In the world of love, women are born with a sense of crisis and always hope to kill them in the cradle to protect their happy home.
I hope this article can remind all unmarried and married friends that they can cross the same boat for a hundred years and sleep together for a thousand years. All love and happiness can be possessed because of cherishing. Among billions of people, it is extremely rare and extremely lucky to have two people who can enter the marriage hall. We must cherish and manage them well.
I hope you cherish your marriage and always make new things. Every time you read it, you will get different results; I hope you cherish your marriage and the more you taste it, the more you taste it, the teapot is like a love nest, water and tea are men and women. When a bowl of fragrant scent is poured into an elegant room, you can always feel warm and intimate and become happy when they are together.
Finally, I hope that every unmarried person can see the forbidden zone of marriage clearly and avoid letting himself regret it for life; I also hope that every married person can accompany each other, love each other, understand each other, and have a happy and fulfilling marriage life.
Author / Liu Zhuzhu
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