Where there are people, there is a chain of contempt;
And where there are people, there will be some people looking down on you.
is "looking down upon" by people, just like human desire.
When you make 5k a month, you think you make 10,000 a month;
When you drive a car worth 200,000, you will still envy those who drive a luxury car worth 500,000 yuan.
The more you have, the more you want to have; people's desires will become stronger as they increase.
Similarly, when you are not doing well, you feel that everyone around you look down on you;
When you are doing well, you jump out of the circle that looks down on you and enter a new circle, you will find that there are still people looking down on you.
No matter which circle you are in and what kind of person you become, there will always be people above you who are better than you.
always compares, always feels "a dwarf".
being looked down upon will have an impact on our emotions.
So, what are the symptoms when the other party looks down on you?
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What are the symptoms of a person looking down on you?
First: Deliberately "targeting you"
This reminds me of a story.
Netizens shared his own personal experience.
His family is in good condition. His parents have been in business for decades and have several cars at home.
Not long after he learned how to drive, he drove a used car that cost tens of thousands of yuan.
Once, he drove to an office building to do business and planned to drive the car in; unexpectedly, the security guard saw his car and refused to let it in.
Immediately afterwards, he drove a car worth hundreds of thousands of yuan behind him. The security guard asked "what to do" and put it in directly.
Netizens were stunned, leaving only messy.
Results The next time, he drove the million-dollar car at home, he was the same security guard. He didn't ask, and just put it in.
When others look down on you, they will deliberately target you.
For example:
In the company, some people collectively target you and isolate you;
In social, you are also deliberately targeted by others.
is targeted, which means that he is contemptuous of you, indifferent and arrogant.
2: Ignore everything about you
Have you ever experienced this?
sat with everyone for dinner. When others talked, they responded, were taken seriously and listened to.
And every time you speak, someone interrupts you, and no one cares what you say or do.
The same thing, he will accept the suggestions made by others;
If you make similar suggestions, he will ignore you directly. "Ignored" of
means that the other party looks down on you.
"People's subtle words are light".
In his subconscious, he thought you were inferior to him, so he didn't care about everything you said.
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Why do others look down on you?
First: Inner "pride" and "prejudice"
The personality, life experience, Family education is like this.
They are used to being arrogant, being domineering, and being used to looking down on everyone around them.
In his subconscious, he believed that he should be the center of social interaction and that everyone's attention should revolve around him.
This itself is a kind of arrogance and prejudice.
They not only look down on you, but also look down on everyone.
Whether people who live better than him or are worse than him are all looked down upon by such people.
2: The difference between circles and environment
This reminds me of a consultation.
The boy left me a message saying:
"I graduated from an undergraduate degree. Although it is not a good school, after I returned to my hometown, I looked down on the people around me very much; they have no education, not much education, have poor abilities, are short-sighted and are prone to emotionality. I think what should I do if I get more and more out of place with them?"
can understand the feelings of this boy very well.
can also be understood as he looks down on the people around him, but this is more of the opposition and contradiction caused by people from two different worlds.
What you have to admit is that in most fields and in most environments, there are gaps between "class" and "level".
Just like the science fiction novel "Beijing Folding", those who live in different spaces.
But for these people, they don’t have a trace of awe at all.
"The Great Gatsby", there is a passage:
"When you want to criticize anyone, remember that not everyone in this world has your superior conditions."
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What should I do when people are looked down upon?
First: Examining one's own heart
Dazai Osamu Before his death, he wrote a sentence:
"The human heart is irrespectable."
If you always feel that people around you look down on you, or you feel that some people look down on you, try asking yourself:
"What is my life for?"
is for yourself, for your family, or for others to "look at you"?
People live for themselves and have nothing to do with others.
You are doing well, others want you to have problems;
You are doing badly, others laugh behind your back.
But how many people will come out to help you? Will those who look down on you really help you when you are in trouble?
If you understand this principle, you don’t care about this.
It doesn’t matter whether others look down on you, what’s important is that you have to look down on yourself.
2: Keep a sense of boundary with the outside world and live your own life well
You must stay away from any person or thing that makes you feel uncomfortable in time and keep a sufficient distance from them.
This is the "sense of boundaries" in social interaction.
The other party always belittles you and accuses you, why do you still have to get along with him?
It is obvious that love is torture and painful, and you have no future, why should you force yourself?
must let yourself go.
You must live your own life well, whether it is good or bad, not for others to see, but for yourself and your family.
You just need to go through it at your own pace and strive to be better than the previous stage, which is enough.
Today's topic:
What would you do if someone "looks down on you"?
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