"I gave up my career and became a full-time mother. My life failed."
"I have a glorious career, but I lack companionship for my children for a long time. Am I a successful mother?"
"I am in the workplace, but I have been searching for it and can't find a sincere relationship. My life is incomplete."
"My appearance is not refined enough, my figure is not proud enough, and I am born to be successful without others."
What kind of life is called success for women? This era has too high demands on women, and love, family, career, beauty...it seems to be impossible to lose. Girls themselves are also influenced by this consciousness and live a depressed and exhausted life.
success should never be defined by the outside world. Success should always be the recognition in everyone's heart.
Enjoying the happiness of being a mother is a kind of success.
gains a sense of accomplishment in the process of nurturing children, which is a kind of success.
Being yourself leisurely in a society where material desires are rampant is a kind of success.
overcome all obstacles in the workplace, which is a kind of success.
Being the heroine in front of love is also a kind of success.
As long as you have determined your direction and keep running, you will be able to achieve your own success.
Although there is more than one definition of success, how to achieve success is the same thing to practice.
01 Tread your jealousy under your feet, and confident people can succeed
The essence of jealousy is inferiority. Although it is human nature to have jealousy, if you want to become a truly confident person, you must tell yourself: "You can envy, but you cannot be jealous or hate."
controls jealousy. If jealousy comes knocking on the door, you might as well try these small methods consciously.
Ask yourself. Seeing the extraordinary achievements made by the other party, you might as well ask yourself more: "Am I willing to give or even sacrifice some aspects in exchange for the same achievements as him?"
encourage yourself. Tell yourself that other people’s success does not mean your own sacrifice. You can achieve a better life through hard work. Treat the other person as your role model and goal and encourage yourself to keep moving forward.
praises the other person. Recognition and jealousy are twins, and jealousy is actually disguised recognition. So why not turn the recognition in your heart into praise and praise for the other person?
02 Talents with spiritual independence can succeed
A spiritual independence is a person who has no "reliance" in a dictionary. No matter in any environment, she can take good care of herself and be self-sufficient.
Spiritual independence needs the nourishment of the environment. The more affirmed and loved the child, the easier it is to grow into a spiritually independent individual. If you are lucky enough to grow up in a family that can give you enough love and affirmation, you are of course extremely lucky. But if you are not lucky and you have not encountered such a growth environment, please give yourself enough love and start raising your inner "inner child".
When you need to make a decision, don’t rush to ask for help from friends or relatives, and leave yourself time to solve problems independently;
You should find a hobby that can bring happiness and happiness, and learn to entertain yourself;
Learn to be alone and learn to control your emotions.
By doing the above three things, let yourself grow again from the heart, let yourself make independent choices, take responsibility, and enjoy the satisfaction and sense of accomplishment brought by free life independently. Let your inner self grow and be independent slowly.
03 Only by managing the relationships around you can you succeed
Friendship relationships, family relationships, parent-child relationships, romantic relationships... Everyone lives in various relationships. Only by handling various relationships well can you have a happy and successful life.
Learn to choose friends, learn to be tolerant and understand, learn to grow up yourself in parent-child relationships, learn to love and be loved...
All of these we can find methods and inspiration in "Out of the Win" counterattack of Sister Ding. No matter what kind of definition of success you choose, I hope you can be determined without distraction. Everyone can achieve success because there is more than one definition of success.
