Introduction: No one wants to be hurt, but no one can avoid it. Don’t take other people’s maps and find your own way. Everyone is a unique scenery. You have to learn to believe in yourself, then learn to appreciate yourself, try to find your brightest side and present it in the sun. Life is your own, and besides the necessary commitments, you should live for yourself. "At the age of 34, he got a marriage certificate with his blind date partner. After marriage, he took care of cooking and washing clothes. I just called him to find a treasure." What's going on? Let’s take a look together!
self-reporter: Ms. Ji 34 years old
I think I have always been lucky. I have had a stable job since I graduated. Until now, I have not been disappointed in the workplace. I have been appreciated by my boss, respected by my colleagues, and been constantly promoted. It has improved my economy by several levels. When I was 25 or 26 years old, I thought that I would never get married in this life, and that I would just make money and spend it myself, and that I could just be able to support my parents' old age. Buying a car and a house for myself can make me feel safe. But when my parents urged them to get married, I also rude them all. Later, my mother told me that I didn’t have to get married, and I could try to fall in love. Since my parents said this, it is hard for me to refuse again, so I agreed to go on a blind date. In fact, there was a reason why I was unwilling to accept new feelings in the past.
In the past, when I had not graduated from college, my family was average, and my parents were just working. I had an older brother and a younger brother, and the family burden was quite high. In college, I talked about a boyfriend. His family was very good. His parents were from , and his family was very rich. I thought rich people would relax their minds and would not be entangled in the same way as being a good match. At that time, my boyfriend always encouraged me to face him and his parents bravely with him. It was really too easy for young people to think about it at that time. fine. I would dress more generously at my boyfriend's house, but in the eyes of his parents, I was just a shabby poor girl. Until one time, his mother insulted my parents in front of me, saying that our family was uneducated, and that my parents taught such an irresponsible child that he wanted to climb high, and that he said that he wanted to make money by relying on his daughter. Finally, I couldn't bear it and broke out, and the relationship ended.
Later, I worked wholeheartedly and had no intention of falling in love at all. During this process, there were many suitors, but I was always unbalanced and I was afraid that I would be like my ex-boyfriend when I met the next person. I don’t want my parents and I to be insulted again, and I feel that handling the relationship in love is also troublesome, and I deliberately avoid it. Just in July last year, I promised my parents that I would accept the relationship, so my parents asked a matchmaker to introduce my current husband to me. At first, I thought he was too dull! There was no romantic atmosphere or lifestyle, but I got a marriage certificate with my blind date partner. After marriage, he took care of food and was doing laundry, and I said I had found a treasure. Because I don’t know anything about housework, let alone cooking, when I was single, basically the cleaners helped me organize the house. Sometimes my parents couldn’t stand it and so they helped me organize it.
My husband and I were embarrassed at first, but we found that our interests and hobbies were the same. He is a man with practical actions and more real than language. At home, I basically don’t have to do anything, do laundry, cook, clean, he is proficient in everything, and then I. It feels like a waste. We have been married for half a year and he is particularly good at taking care of my emotions. I was also thinking about having a baby in May this year, but I didn’t know if my body could give birth. After being with him, I almost washed my hair without having to blow my hair. Usually, he cut my nails and accompanied me to the mall. Although he didn't know any beauty and clothing, he would accompany me to make a choice slowly, then pay and help me carry things. I enjoyed this feeling very much. Perhaps our fate comes late, as long as we get along, it is the best.
The author wants to say: no one is right or wrong in relationships, only come first and then come. The person who comes first may not be the person he loves the most; the person who comes later may not be the person who does not have true feelings.It is better to come early than to come quickly; it is better to come late than to come well. The two people who truly love each other actually have a common feeling, that is, they regret meeting each other too late. I hate myself for not meeting the other person earlier, I hate myself for not falling in love with the other person earlier, and I have no chance to meet the right person.
