Author: Binghe
TV series " The Legend of Condor Heroes ", there is a very miserable woman, Qiu Qianchi.
While she was pregnant, her husband hooked up with the little maid at home.
After she was betrayed by her husband, she knocked down the crocodile pond crypt and waited for eighteen years since then.
She has always been very strict with her husband, but because of a moment of negligence, her husband stole the fish.
Qiu Qianchi was very regretful. Many years later, she saw her daughter and repeatedly reminded her:
"You must keep a close eye on Yang Guo. Husband, just one zhang, you can't leave ten zhang!"
wrote this, I really want to ask for our wives: What is husband? "
is the husband within one meter, is it true?
In marriage, the best couple cannot go out one meter away.
is too far away, too close, and it cannot be husband.
is thousands of miles away, and close can be divided into these three types:
01. People close to
Everyone says that distance produces beauty, but sometimes it is not the case.
In fact, distance can defeat marriage.
A wife who has been separated from her husband for a long time once said something that makes people remember:
"I never thought that our eight years of love was completely wiped out by two years of separation. Until he came back, I became unaware of him, and he was even more polite and restrained to me. Chatting usually ends in an awkward situation. "
Eight years of deep love between husband and wife, but in two years it was wasted.
What is the reason for the distance between wife and husband?
is not so much a distance, but rather a gap created by distance, which defeated the relationship between husband and wife.
I remember a long time ago, a very popular story on Weibo :
A couple who had been in love for eight years broke up. After the girl went abroad, she was I found a foreigner abroad.
After a moment, there were many news online.
Many netizens stood up and scolded the girl for being unrestrained, and even showed photos of her new boyfriend, cursing them for being careless.
A few days later, the girl stood up and said:
"Indeed, we have been in love for many years, but whenever I have a high fever and are unconscious and can't even recognize people, and when I stand on the streets of ice and snow, I can't even find a taxi, it is my current boyfriend who parked in front of me in time. "
After saying that, everyone was silent.
Love needs warmth, and marriage is even more so.
In marriage, husband and wife need company, and it is cold to be missing.
This person has warmth, is truly by your side, giving you warmth and strength, rather than greetings without warmth in WeChat.
Once in a TV series, he saw a girl crying at the other end of the phone and saying, "I really want to hug you." "
I think, on the other end of the phone, there is nothing but powerlessness, but sighing.
distance, which makes people feel lonely and lonely.
The most terrible thing about
is that after marriage, the heart becomes hard after being lonely for a long time, and love becomes cold.
02. Money is close to
When a man truly loves a woman, he can't help but spend money to buy her gifts.
Seeing a woman smiling happily when she received the gift from him, the man felt it was very worth it.
So, sometimes he agrees with this sentence: Wherever the money is, the heart is.
A former wife in the backend of the official account left a message saying that he and his husband are quick I can't go on because of money.
My husband's monthly salary is 50,000, which is not poor.
She said that after the two got married, all the expenses at home were AA.
As long as I go out and spend money, my husband will pay the bill this time, and she will definitely pay the bill next time. My husband's accounts are very clear and calculated very clearly.
After having children, the same is true. After so many years, they have almost reciprocated and no one owe anyone.
This wife has always felt that she is very independent in finance and is proud of it.
However, years of marriage proves that this is not something to be proud of, but that my husband is not loving enough at all.
Because, once she asked her husband, if I have a terminal illness, I need a lot of money, will you help me? My husband replied indifferently, I don't know.
Such a true answer, but it is very desolate.
The answer directly pierced the wife's heart.
At that moment, she felt that she was too stupid.
finally understands that in marriage, men who are unwilling to spend money on you will not be willing to treat you in the future, let alone support each other and grow old.
Everyone says that talking about money is vulgar, but sometimes, money is the minimum standard for measuring a person's love for you.
Those who love you will definitely regard you as more important than money; those who don’t love you will regard you as more important than you.
Zhang Zhilin's wife is a person who particularly likes to buy bags. As long as there is a new bag on the shelves, Zhang Zhilin will definitely buy it for his wife home as soon as possible. Although
is very expensive, he also feels sorry for the money. However, as long as your wife likes it, he feels it is worth it.
In an interview, ZHANG Zhilin said: If there are only three days left in life, what he is most worried about is that Anita Yuen is not enough to spend. If she says she can spend enough, he will feel at ease.
So, money is hidden in a person's heart.
is far away, and your heart must not be close.
03. Xinjin
often hear this sentence: If a couple lives in the place for a long time, the relationship between the two will be defeated by distance and time.
After all, it is still the distance between the couple’s heart.
Someone once asked me why I would shout loudly when I talk to my husband after having a child?
I told her: The hearts of two people are far away, so they need to shout.
When couples are in love, they are just whispering and rubbing their ears; when the distance between the heart is far and there is a barrier, normal communication will only speak loudly.
In fact, the relationship has faded and is unwilling tolerate it.
There are so many emotional problems between husband and wife. To put it bluntly, is a question of whether two people are in their hearts.
Two hearts, as long as they get close, big things are trivial matters.
Two hearts are far away, and even the smallest things can be an excuse to separate.
What is marriage?
Marriage, means that two people have their hearts on you. If you feel pain, your partner will also feel pain; if you are happy, your partner will also be happy.
Marriage is to hide you from rain on rainy days and to protect you from hot days.
Between husband and wife,
is the first person to appear when he is sick, rather than a few cold and heart-wrenching words;
is always worried about your safety and will be responsible for you;
is not easy to win the person, once Xu Ruo is fulfilled;
is the one who loves, and will definitely be fulfilled;
is the one who loves, and will remember every Valentine's Day and every anniversary;
is the one who loves, and is not a hand-off manager at home, but is doing it yourself.
Therefore, if you want a marriage that you never get tired of, your heart cannot be too far away.
The so-called husband is not too close or too alienated.
The best relationship between husband and wife is to let each other stride forward, and to rely on each other and accompany each other.
I think that within , the people, money, and heart are close, the best distance.
