Three years of the epidemic, my life has had ups and downs, comparable to the bloody scenes of TV series.
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In August 2019, my youngest son was born, and my husband and I went from being a family of three to a formal family of four. At that time, he worked outside the country and usually came back every Friday night and drove back to the company on Sunday morning. Because I felt sorry for him and knew that it was not easy for him, I never worried about his family affairs.
I took care of myself during the entire pregnancy period, and even when I had a baby, I contacted my brother to send me to the hospital. At that time, he was still a responsible husband. He knew that I was going to give birth, so he quickly asked for leave and rushed back. When I gave birth to my youngest son, he asked the doctor outside and said that no matter how much it costs, it would be fine as long as I could make me suffer less.
He was not at home when I was in confinement, but he would tell his mothers to try their best to take care of me. At that time, I really felt very happy, and looked forward to the scene of the four family holding hands in the future. It’s a pity that the picture I’m looking forward to will never appear.
In December 2019, when the epidemic just broke out in Wuhan, I received a call from a mistress. She told me that she had been with my husband for more than half a year. She said that they loved each other and said that my husband had long stopped loving me. She hoped that I could be smarter and voluntarily quit from this loveless marriage.
My youngest son was less than four months old at that time, and you can imagine how big a blow this incident had to me. I first pretended to be calm, and then forced myself to be generous and retain him with the humblest attitude. I hope he can take care of our relationship between husband and wife for many years and our relationship between us and our relationship between two children, and we can break up with the mistress and return to the family. But he was hesitant, and sometimes he said he wanted to live a good life with me, and sometimes he said that he really liked the mistress, and that he didn't love me, and that his marriage to me had long been in name only.
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I can't figure it out. Since he doesn't love me anymore, since he feels that my marriage with me is in name only, why do you still have to have a second child? The purpose of his intention to get pregnant again was not to have both children, but to distract me and give him more opportunities to date secretly with his mistress?
I was in great pain during that period and was in a very bad mood, but because he couldn't face me, he chose to escape. I have never seen him again since December 2019 and until the outbreak of the epidemic here in March 2020. He didn't answer the phone call him or sent a message back. I was forced to go crazy, but he blocked me and rented another house outside to live with the mistress.
Four months later, in July 2020, he suddenly contacted me and said he wanted to return to his family. I gambled, and with what his parents said for him, I convinced myself to forgive him. It turns out that men like him are not worthy of forgiveness. Less than half a month after he returned, he left home again and ran away with the mistress. He knew very well that after he left this time, our relationship had completely broken down. He began to file for divorce with me and left without hesitation.
In the following year, we made an appointment for divorce five times and went to the Civil Affairs Bureau three times. The first time was that the photo was unqualified, the second time was that the agreement was unqualified, and the third time was that the mistress called him when he was in the Civil Affairs Bureau. His joyful expression angered me and made me regret it on the spot. At that time, my qi and blood attacked my heart and had a thought: I will never leave you, I will drag you to death. As long as I don’t leave, you will always be scumbags and mistresses.
When he saw me go back on his word, he became angry and left me in the Civil Affairs Bureau, and then we began a life of separation in name only. Unlike the first time, I no longer have any expectations for him. Although I have " Marriage Certificate ", I treat myself as a divorce. I try to start my life with a brand new, single mother.
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was difficult at the beginning, and there were many problems and troubles, but I gritted my teeth and survived it.My youngest son was three years old and I sent him to kindergarten. My life finally became easier and I finally had time to calm down and rethink the divorce.
Originally, we both recognized the divorce, but we did not achieve harmonious unity in terms of the ownership of the house, the custody of the child and the maintenance of the child. To put it bluntly, he did not agree to the conditions I proposed, and I did not agree to the conditions he proposed. After several months of negotiation (the less pleasant one) finally reached an agreement on the divorce. How specific are the conditions? It means that the things I bought at home belong to me, and the things he bought belong to him, so he will tell you how to come to my house.
Last week, at around 6 o'clock in the evening, he sent me a message saying that he wanted to come to my house to get things, mainly some of his personal belongings and documents. I was taking the child to dinner when I replied to the message and asked him to come upstairs to get it. I didn't expect that he was so thick-skinned, and I didn't expect that the mistress was so thick-skinned that the two of them came upstairs together.
was quite harmonious at the beginning, and I didn't plan to deal with the mistress, but she was shameless. She felt that she was a winner and showed off her power to me in every way. There are several meanings inside and outside, such as don’t bother with your ex-husband after divorce, don’t use your children to disturb their lives, and for example, many things in my family belong to her and her ex-husband. Only when my ex-husband doesn’t care about me can I get so much. It's unbearable. You stand on my territory and say these unruly words to me. Why are you looking for a fight? I took action, she fought back, and then we fought together. My eldest daughter was frightened and cried when she saw her younger brother, so she helped me hit her. My expectant ex-husband can only fight and not get started. I scolded him and was called out by the mistress, which was also a headache.
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We have not finished printing yet, and the sound of soldering iron sheets came from the bottom of the building. When they realized it, our building was blocked and could not go out. Even though he negotiated with the mistress in various ways, he only said that he could not enter or leave. Later, my ex-husband discussed with me that he was willing to pay the rent and lived in my house temporarily. I agreed to him, but I was unwilling to let the mistress live. Helplessly, he had to make concessions again and make concessions to the divorce conditions again, giving me some more benefits.
, you can imagine how embarrassing it is! My children and I should eat and drink. The child has a good relationship with his prospective ex-husband. After all, he is a biological father and son, and he is under the same roof. In order to have a place to accommodate him, the prospective ex-husband has to please the child in various ways. As for the mistress, she stayed in that hut all day and didn't come out. Whether it was her prospective ex-husband talking to me or her children, she had to argue with her prospective ex-husband. At the beginning, my expectant ex-husband was still tolerant, and then he quarreled with her, and he started to do something in the past two days. I regret not stocking up on melon seeds, otherwise I could watch the show with melon seeds.
To be honest, such an environment has a great impact on the child, and his prospective ex-husband has also seen the impact on the two children. He is currently living in the living room and is separated from the mistress. He told me that he would break up with the mistress after the lockdown was lifted. As for whether I can forgive him or whether I want to divorce, I will listen to me.
Marry, I will definitely divorce. I can't forgive the hurts of the past, especially when I saw him and the mistress. As for the relationship between him and the mistress, it is their business, and I don’t bother with it. Originally, I was still angry, but seeing their way of getting along and seeing the mistress being beaten, I felt a lot of resentment. From now on, I will live a good life with my two children.
Finally, what I want to say is that life is similar. Men who can be hooked away by mistresses are not good men. It is important to seize the interests and manage yourself and your children well. By the way, I didn’t think that the mistress was allowed to live in the concession conditions given by the prospective ex-husband, but the staff in the community helped to mediate. They said that during the epidemic, let us think about everyone and not create chaos in the building. Otherwise, based on my temper, no matter how much concessions the prospective ex-husband makes, he will drive the mistress out.
