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I don't know when it started, but a gust of unhealthy trend started to rush on the Internet. Although it is not good at it, it is deeply loved by young people.
Under the fanning of this unhealthy trend, young people began to resist marriage and were keen on being single, and even thought that those who advised them to get married had ulterior motives.
What's even more terrifying is that under the brainwashing of various toxic chicken soups, many young people even think that their parents are urging them to get married.
The more outrageous statement is that parents are jealous of their lives too well and carefree, for fear that their children will not suffer the hardships they have suffered.
I was deeply shocked by the power of poisonous chicken soup and felt deeply saddened for the parents of those netizens.
They love their children so much and worry about their children, but after drinking a few bowls of poisonous chicken soup, their children actually imagined them so unbearable.
Why do parents want their children to get married? Is it really for the sake of face and wants the children to suffer the hardships of marriage?
Of course not. In this world, 90% of parents are willing to give everything for their children, and everything they do is for their children.
They have experienced most of their lives. They know what is the most important thing in their lives, and they also know how terrible it is to be single to be always.
One day you will find that parents urge marriage is not selfish, but a true portrayal of "the parents love their children, and they will make far-reaching plans."
When I was young, I was not hurtful to be single, but the hard days came quietly after the age of 60.
What parents worry about is never your present, but your future.
After parents left, you are the only one left
" Hundred Years of Lonely " has a passage: "Parents are the curtains separated by us and death. You and death seem to be separated by something, and you have no feelings. Your parents are blocking between you. Only when your parents die will you face these things directly... Parents are a curtain separated by you and death. If you block you for a while, your closest person will affect your view of life and death."
A friend told me that in the past 10 years, he always felt that death was far away from him. It was not until his 75-year-old father suddenly passed away last year that he felt that life was fragile.
When a person suffers a major blow, his emotions will be temporarily blocked and his brain will be blank. During the days when he handled his father's funeral, he has been busy running around and has not had time to be overly sad.
But in the quiet days later, he couldn't help crying. He suddenly realized that he had no father since then, and never again.
Single, he could only rely on his 70-year-old mother for life. His father's departure made him understand that in the near future, his mother would leave him. After his mother left, he was the only one left in the huge house.
Now every time he thinks of that scene, he feels scared.
The true loneliness of a person never comes from living alone, but from people who are not only living alone, but also without any ties.
Working alone outside, away from home and relatives, but occasionally asking about your well-being, waiting during festivals and daily concerns are a kind of spiritual comfort.
But if you have no relatives in this world, your feelings are completely different.
Single you have lost all your parents, and from then on you will feel that you have been abandoned by this world, because in this huge world, no one cares about you or cares about you anymore.
Only when you reach that moment will you realize what true loneliness is.
After retirement, the days of being forgotten by the world began
For a person, the most terrible thing is to suddenly get idle.
When you were young, you would not feel too helpless even if you had no parents and were single, because you had a job and had to travel between cities every day.
Due to livelihood, you have to deal with people constantly and make money constantly. Although these things are hard for you, they also have certain benefits.
Because you are too busy, you don’t have time to think about everything, your life is fulfilling.
After retirement, you don’t have to go to work, have nothing to do, no one to talk to you, and no one cares about your joys, sorrows, and then you feel that you have been abandoned by this world.
When you were young, you still had friends, but at this age, your friends spent all their time on their family members. They may be helping to take care of their grandchildren, but you can only face the world alone.
Eat a meal alone, watch TV alone, face the cold wall alone, visit the park alone, and celebrate the New Year alone.
These things don’t sound very scary, but after you experience them personally, you will find that their lethality is huge, especially when you see other people’s family reunion, your heart will inevitably be empty.
No children, and eventually became a vulnerable group
Poisonous chicken soup often tells everyone that it is unreliable to raise children to prevent them from always being, because most of the children are now dependent on their parents.
But have you ever thought that the existence of children may not be just for the elderly to support themselves, but the most important thing is a sense of security.
To a certain extent, the human world and the animal world also have similarities, such as everyone joins each other.
Animals have teams to survive better, and humans have families to survive better, because everyone is a group animal.
Only when you have your own team can you have a certain deterrent force and avoid being bullied when you are old and weak.
Even if you live in a nursing home at the same time, the treatment of elderly people with children and elderly people without children is different. It is human instinct to bully the weak and fear the strong. I hope everyone will not understand this truth too late.
I am Ying'er, an original creator who focuses on the field of emotions.
