The moment of heart-wrenching may not be any reason, but it takes certain skills to manage any relationship.
Even if you have enough deep love, if a person does not know how to express his feelings and does not know how to maintain that relationship, no matter how much love you have, it will gradually be exhausted.
Fellowship is not an equivalent transaction. If you pay, you may not necessarily get the reward, and if you have a reward, you may not necessarily get the reward you want.
Xinyiwu once said:
"In love, the effort you put in is never proportional to the happiness you gain. The more you want to love, the less you won't get it."
Those self-righteous touches will eventually only move yourself; those too proactive efforts will eventually only make the effort cheaper.
In this world, everything follows the principle that everything will turn against the extreme, and the same is true for feelings.
The relationship without any effort is destined to not be rewarded, but if you want to gain a relationship and conquer a person, you cannot just know how to give.
Treating feelings is colder and easier to conquer the other person's heart.
01: Be colder, occasionally don’t contact
Suppose you are always taking the initiative in your dialog box. Maybe you still have a lot of enthusiasm now, but sooner or later, the enthusiasm will disappear and the love will disappear.
After all, you and I are both ordinary people, and my heart will hurt and my body will be tired. When countless disappointments accumulate together, you will choose to let go, and when countless passions are exhausted, you will choose to stop.
A person who is too enthusiastic is easily noticed at the beginning, but when the other person gets used to your enthusiasm and enjoys your efforts, he will begin to get bored and want to take the initiative to get out of the siege.
It’s not that your efforts are not sincere enough, but that the other party knows that they are loved and has begun a life of no fear.
So, when it comes to feelings, being colder and not actively contact each other occasionally makes it easier to conquer the other person's heart.
You must let the other party understand your importance, and you must let the other party understand how much you have paid, rather than always being in front of the unknown snail girl.
Occasionally, you can test the other party’s true feelings for you, and on the other hand, it can also give the other party a certain private space and give the other party some breathing space.
02: Be colder, do your own thing
In the TV series " My First Half of Life ", Luo Zijun was promised by her ex-husband to support her for the rest of her life, but later, she began to dislike Luo Zijun who had no career but was also her ex-husband.
As a full-time housewife, Luo Zijun has absolutely nothing to say about her family's efforts, but even so, her efforts have gradually been ignored.
Luo Zijun experienced a long period of lows after the divorce, which can indirectly reflect that she left too little time for herself in the past.
In fact, in any relationship, if you are willing to let go of everything and leave all your time and energy to the person you like, then you will easily become nothing.
You have to learn to be colder and do your own things well, so that you can have charm and have more confidence to pursue the love you want.
People should love themselves first and then love others, otherwise your efforts will easily become worthless and your sincerity will easily be trampled on.
As Carnegie said in "Women's Pattern Determined the Ending":
"The best way to love a person is to manage yourself well and give the other party a high-quality lover."
No matter who you meet, you must learn to manage yourself first, do your own thing well, and then love someone.
03: Relaxed and moderate, it is easier to conquer the other person's heart
In this world, almost everyone has similar problems, that is, they do not know how to cherish when they get it, and they will not regret it after losing it.
So, if you are loved, then cherish the other person's love. If you are the one who takes the initiative to love, then you must also know how to relax and moderately.
A heart, after being severely injured, even if you take revenge in the future, you still cannot heal the wounds left behind.
Whose love and sincerity are worthless? There is no need to leave your sincerity and love to those who are not worthy.
However, any failed relationship is not a person's fault. If you love someone without any bottom line, it will give the other party the opportunity to hurt you without hesitation.
Treat your feelings colder and know how to relax and moderately, it is easier to conquer the other person's heart.
Not everyone who takes the initiative is easy to get the other party’s cherishment. You have to make your initiative valuable and make your efforts precious so that the other party will look up to you and cherish your active efforts even more.
Conquering a person requires skills.
Calm down properly, which can not only keep yourself rational, but also make the other party treat their relationship more cautiously.
I am Aya, the writer of warm emotions. How lucky I can meet you in this life! Click to follow and let’s learn together!
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