Marriage goes to divorce, and it is painful for everyone in marriage. Everyone who enters marriage hopes to live together for a lifetime. However, love and being loved, promise and being promised cannot be eternal.
There is marriage, and there will naturally be divorce. Marriage is to find the end for love, and divorce is to find the end for hatred.
If the marriage is unfortunate enough to reach divorce, no matter what the current situation is, these three preparations must be done well.
First point: Preparation for retirement
Prepare for everything, don’t think of a solution before imminent. It is much better to be prepared for anything than not to be prepared, especially for the elderly care.
Elderly care is a big deal, and it takes a lot of time and energy to prepare in advance. Every step after middle age is closely related to elderly care, especially after divorce.
Why do people get married? In addition to the mission of reproduction and reproduction, the main reason is to find a partner and a partner who will go to old age.
Young couples are companioning when they are old. From this sentence, we can see how important the companionship of the elderly is.
If you divorce, you will have no companion in your later years. Many people may say, won’t you have a marriage? But in reality, most divorced people would rather live alone than find a partner. Marriage is enough to be in once.
If you divorce, you can no longer remarry, but you must be prepared for retirement and give yourself enough confidence and capital to retire in your old age. Only such a divorce is meaningful.
Second point: preparation for loneliness and helpless
A very heartbreaking fact is that most people will not live too well after divorce, and most of their lives will be lonely and helpless.
First of all, it is the incomprehension of parents and relatives, and then it turns from incomprehension to the incomprehension of the iron, and finally it turns into contempt and indifference. And there are people around you. After knowing that you have divorced, your attitude will change.
Failure of marriage From a certain perspective, it is actually a failure in life. Life is realistic and snobbish, and most people will despise the losers.
Relatives will despise you because you have a bad divorce, and brothers and sisters will also look down on you because of your failure in marriage and stay away from you.
After divorce, you will find that there is no one you can rely on, and when facing difficulties, you are the only one. Therefore, after divorce, you must be strong inside and strong in order to cope with the loneliness and helplessness of life.
Third point: Preparation for dying old age alone
Divorce is equal to dying old age alone, and this proposition has a high probability of existence. Because most people will not remarry after divorce, and there are also people who remarry, but they can be happy even in their later years, and they will eventually die alone. Therefore, divorce is almost the same as dying of old age alone.
When you bravely take the step of divorce, in addition to being prepared for retirement, you must also accept the preparation for a lonely life. In your later years, the divorced person will most likely live alone, live alone, and leave alone.
Summary:
Divorce is a choice. Since you have made a choice, you can only face it. Whether it is lonely or helpless or full of difficulties, you can only face it. Resolve the difficulties bit by bit and live a better life slowly.
When everything stabilizes, you must start preparing for the rest of your life, prepare for retirement in advance, be strong inside, face various difficulties in life bravely, and be prepared to live alone and end your life alone.
