Some time ago, Wenwen's father visited a university professor. She is in her 70s and is in good health. She lives with her daughter and has a retirement salary. She thought her life should be a peaceful life.
But when talking about her three granddaughters, she said with a sad face: I have nothing, just my three granddaughters are beautiful and can make money, but they don’t get married or have children. What do you think is this?
The teacher told Wenwen's father that she had two sons and a daughter. After her eldest son had a serious illness, he settled in another place, but he would send her living expenses every month and call her to greet him regularly, which was quite filial.
The second son lives locally and will go home to eat with her whenever he has time. Basically, the food and use of the second son buys it, and he is also very filial;
At present, the teacher lives with his younger daughter. The daughter divorced when she was in her 30s and raised her granddaughter with one hand. Now that my granddaughter has graduated from college, she is already making money at work. Since she is not married, her youngest daughter goes home to concentrate on spending time with her mother.
As the teacher said, her generation does not have to worry about retirement at all, and her children are all filial; but in the generation of children, if the granddaughters do not get married or have children, who will be filial to them?
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According to relevant data, Since 2014, my country's marriage rate has continued to decline, and in 2019 it hit a new low in 10 years, with less than 10 million registered.
So, the question is, why are more and more young women unwilling to get married? Wenwen’s father asked some girls born in the 1990s in the office, and their answers were very realistic!
92 Linlin said: I have talked to three boyfriends. Every time I talk about marriage, I will break up because of dowry, dowry, house, etc. I always thought that love is sacred and can withstand any material impact, but the repeated breakups have made me lose confidence in marriage...
" Strange Talk ", debater Yan Rujing said: bride gift is the cool-off period for marriage, which brings people with the same views together. If you think the marriage procedure is complicated, you don’t know that the trivialities of real life will be more complicated. There will be quarrels about bride prices before marriage, and there will be quarrels about water and electricity after marriage. If there is inconsistent view of money, it is destined to be unsuccessful.
95 Lili said: I have a very good best friend. I divorced some time ago. was because I was raped during pregnancy and almost died. This made me feel very unsatisfied about marriage...
Household violence , which is unbearable for any woman. Wenwen's father also hates domestic violence very much! According to relevant statistics, about 30% of married women have experienced domestic violence. Therefore, the "International Day to Stop Violence against Women" was also born.
97 Nini said: I talked about a boyfriend who is a manly and somewhat "mama's baby". He has a strong family background. When he was about to get married, the man's mother asked me to quit my job and concentrate on having children, and I won't go to work in the future. My boyfriend didn't say anything at that time, and I quickly broke up. My cousin lost his job after getting married. He revolved around her husband and children every day. Her husband was lazy. She had to do everything by herself, which made her very tired and wanted to divorce many times...
In Nini's words, a bad marriage in will completely force people to become crazy ! Many girls are unwilling to get married because they are not physically and mentally exhausted, but their mental fatigue.
In the program " Man Doing Housework ", there is a couple whose wife is as busy as a top, but her husband is playing games on the side. When I was hungry, I shouted that my wife would go to cook;
was eating ready-made food and was picky; after I finished the meal, I shouted that my wife would go to wash the dishes.
at the dinner table, his wife expressed her dissatisfaction with him not doing housework. At first, her husband kept defending him, but later admitted his mistake because he was afraid that his wife would not wash dishes later, so she was so angry that she couldn't beat him up.
Is the wife married to serve her husband? Marriage should have made the two people in better and better condition, rather than an extra "pig teammate" who pulls their legs.
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It is said that the post-90s generation is a sober generation in the world. They are born with good material conditions, have received a good education, and their parents are still young. Therefore, their views on marriage and love are very different from those born in the 1970s or 1980s.
Take Wenwen's father as an example. There are three siblings at home. The parents are both rural people and their living conditions are average, but the whole family is very happy.
Since we are sensible, our parents have always imagined our old age: After you three get married, the whole family will have 2 children, and we will have 6 grandchildren.
As the saying goes: A person’s growth is greatly influenced by his parents! The three of us siblings grew up with our parents’ imagination and were very persistent in getting married and having children, believing that it was a must-do.
But for the very personalized post-90s, most of them are only children in the family and have grown up under the care of their parents since childhood. At the same time, in the information age, I have long seen many helplessness in marriage, so I am no longer willing to enter.
In addition, the hardship of raising children, especially the sadness and helplessness of "widowed parenting", is also one of the reasons why many young people are reluctant to get married.
Wenwen's father once saw a "widowed parenting" mother online. Since the birth of the baby, she has been taking care of her children at home full time. The child is a "night owl". Not only does it have difficulty falling asleep, but he also wakes up at night. Every time she gets up to coax the child.
My mother-in-law lives next door and never gets up at night to help her. Her husband has to go to work during the day. In order not to affect his rest, she took the baby to the study to sleep.
Once, when my husband came home from get off work, he saw her sitting on the sofa feeding the baby, and he complained to her: is almost starving to death, why don’t you go to cook?
She explained to her husband that she didn't sleep well at night and her head hurts, so she asked her husband to cook. Unexpectedly, as soon as my husband threw the bag, he slammed the door and went downstairs to the restaurant downstairs, leaving the mother alone at home and crying.
Watching the video, listening to the helpless cry of the mother, Wenwen's father wanted to beat her husband through the screen. Who is this called?
Follow the video, a highly praised message attracted attention: Why do women in get married? To make yourself ugly? For endless housework? Women nowadays seem to no longer need men. They can make money, drive cars, and do housework. They don’t need marriage to gain a sense of security.
This may be the reason why more young people are unwilling to enter marriage.
Wenwen’s father has a colleague who is 32 years old and is still unmarried! In addition to work, I also work as a self-media and have a good monthly income. When asked about the reason for not getting married, she said: Now that work is easy, the self-media income is good, and she has money and time, so she goes out if she wants to go out to play; after getting married and having children, is she so carefree?
Even so, getting married or not, whether to be born or not, are the rights granted to citizens by Civil Code . But in Wenwen’s father’s opinion, living in this changing world, the power of two people is always greater than that of one person. Moreover, if you don’t have children, retirement is indeed a realistic problem. Even if you live in a nursing home, it is still different from an elderly person who has no children.
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