Common routines used by third parties: stimulate the original wife and please the cheating man and seek the upper hand. How should we fight back?
Many original partners are not inferior to mistresses, but their mentality is not as good as mistresses, and their ability to control emotions is not as good as mistresses.
In fact, most mistresses use the same routine to deal with their original wife: stimulate their original wife and please the cheating man. The Blue Party has dealt with many cases like
, so let’s share one of them, how to counter the original partner.
In this case, Ms. Lu, a wife of the Yuan Dynasty, has been married to her husband for thirteen years, and her husband cheated on a mistress who is three years older than her.
The mistress divorced and took her child, working as a clerk in a private company. The child went to elementary school, ordered meals at school at noon, and went home by himself at night.
Many people don’t understand why women who have divorced and have children and who have unhappy marriages have to be third parties.
In fact, the reason is very simple, because life is too hard, I want to find someone to rely on and make myself less difficult.
After the mistress and Ms. Lu’s husband started an extramarital affair, he quit his job and stopped working, and began to take special care of the children at home.
Before being a clerk, three thousand a month, and a cheating man can give three or five thousand a month. The mistress naturally has to catch the cheating man.
So later, the extramarital affair was discovered. Ms. Lu found the mistress and asked the mistress to leave.
threatened the mistress not to break up and wanted to go to her son's school to make a fuss, and the mistress was unwilling to break up.
The mistress's attitude is that I live by cheating on a cheating man and it is impossible for me to leave a cheating man.
But I never thought about getting ahead, and I knew that a cheating man would not divorce and marry her.
So if you want to live in peace with a cheating man, the mistress will not be a monster, and Ms. Lu should not cause trouble for the mistress.
Ms. Lu of course was unwilling to do so. She looked for the mistress several times and even waited for the mistress at the gate of the mistress’s school.
This action also successfully angered the mistress. The mistress began to make trouble and began to fight back.
She used the routine to stimulate the original wife Ms. Lu, and let Ms. Lu lose control of her emotions and starts to have conflicts with the cheating man.
Then pretend to be wronged in front of the cheating man, please please the cheating man, and expand the conflict between the two.
For example, Ms. Lu went to the school gate to wait for the mistress's child, but the mistress did not impulsively make a fuss with Ms. Lu.
The next day, he used the excuse of being uncomfortable and asked the cheating man to help pick up the child.
A cheating man doesn’t usually pick up his children, but he ends up picking up the mistress’s child.
How could Ms. Lu be able to withstand it? She pointed at the cheating man and scolded him on the spot.
A bunch of parents were watching over there. The cheating man felt very embarrassing, so he pulled the original wife and said he would talk about it after he went home.
The original wife was afraid of cheating, so she naturally didn't want to miss the opportunity. She stood there and didn't leave, and scolded the cheating man.
In the end, the man cheated away with his mistress's child and did not go home that day. Ms. Lu sent a message and called, but the man cheated on him did not answer. The next day, she replied to Ms. Lu and said she wanted to divorce. When Ms. Lu came to talk to Lan Fang about the situation, she said angrily that it must be the mistress.
The mistress deliberately asked the cheating man to pick up the child, which made her angry, making the cheating man unable to get out of Taiwan.
The man cheated on him and went to find a mistress. The mistress encouraged the man to divorce again, and the man cheated on him and agreed.
is actually like a mistress. She tries every means to stimulate her original wife, making her cheating man and having a big fight with her husband.
Then the mistress took advantage of the situation and stepped on the original wife in front of the cheating man, and pleased the cheating man, making him feel that the mistress is better than the original wife.
The mistress can find the opportunity to get ahead. If it doesn’t work once, the mistress will do this kind of thing a few more times.
constantly stimulates the original wife, causing the emotionally out of control to have conflicts with the cheating man. The mistress takes the opportunity to warm up the relationship and seek to find it but has not sent it back.
Don’t the original wife know about the mistress’s routine? In fact, the original wife knew very well, like Ms. Lu, she actually knew the tricks of this mistress.
Even if I didn’t expect it at that time, I calmed down and could figure it out that I was tricked by the mistress.
But the mistress will use this routine next time. What will happen to the original partner? It was still the same hit.
Because I can't control my emotions, I can't accept that my husband is kind to my mistress, and I can't stand that my mistress shows off her power.
Does the mistress know how she is causing trouble? It's clear, but this trick is easy to use, it works quickly, and it's been tried and tested.
So where is the mistress winning? It is definitely not in this routine that everyone knows, but in terms of mentality and emotional control.
Like Ms. Lu’s case, Ms. Lu is causing trouble for the mistress and even threatens the mistress’s child.
The mistress is that she has a good mentality, can control her emotions, and does not have a head-on conflict with her original wife.
is a rational and calm start to trick the original man. The methods are not very clever, but they are just good results.
Because the original wife indirectly cooperated with the mistress's routine, the mistress stimulated Ms. Lu, so she got angry and had a fight with the cheating man.
If Ms. Lu can control her emotions, she will not make trouble and leave with the cheating man with the child.
Then tell the cheating man that he is waiting for the mistress every day. The cheating man is still going to pick up the mistress’s child. Are you not afraid of knowing it?
guides the cheating man to think about it. The mistress is tricking him and using him to suppress the original wife.
No one wants to be used by others, especially those who cheat, they always feel that they are controlling the mistress themselves.
If you find out that the mistress is the leader, and the mistress pretends to be both him and his original wife, he will never continue to have an extramarital affair with the mistress.
So this mistress routine is actually very easy to crack, and the focus depends on whether the original partner can do it.
First of all, you must control your emotions. Even though you know the mistress’s routine, don’t jump in.
It is indeed difficult to control emotions. This is not a reason why you don’t do it and follow the mistress’s routine.
Think about the result of your inability to control your emotions. You will be forced to divorce by a cheating man in the future.
The mistress successfully takes office, lives in your house, spends your husband's money, and shows off your power to you. Do you still think it is difficult to control your emotions?
Secondly, it is not too late to start controlling your emotions at any time. Don’t always hit yourself and feel that your situation is helpless.
A man divorced and married a mistress. This decision is not so easy to make, and it is even more so easy to make.
The original wife will not get in the mood, and the cheating man will be shaken. After all, the price of divorce is too high.
If the marriage can continue well, most cheating men will not choose to divorce.
The cheating man doesn't want to divorce, so the original wife can win time for herself to deal with the mistress and kick the mistress out.
Finally, the original wife must learn to reverse the tricks of the mistress.
The mistress is used to using this method and thinks it is effective. If a cheating man doesn’t want to divorce, the mistress will continue to use it.
On the one hand, the original wife cannot let the mistress achieve her goal, control her emotions, and do not make trouble.
On the other hand, we need to guide the cheating man to see the mistress's routine clearly, because the mistress also brought the cheating man into the trick.
No one wants to be led by the nose. The mistress keeps using others and will definitely shoot himself in the foot in the end.
At the end of the article, remind the original wives that if you can see through the mistress’s routine, you must learn to counter-routines.
If you don’t know what to do, you can follow the blue party and send me a private message to me and I will help you analyze and give you suggestions.
I am Lan Fang, a marriage maintenance teacher who focuses on the separation of third parties.
