Love in youth is always ignorant and romantic. When the love begins, with expectations and curiosity for feelings, they express sincere enthusiasm for each other. You don’t have to consider many realistic issues and enjoy the happiness of the present.
However, when faced with the test of society and life, the innocence of the past will be much less, and more about the efforts to survive, constantly striving to improve the quality of life, and strive to get a stable life.
And middle-aged men will have different experiences in life and relationships. At this time, their career will also be in a period of stability. If you want to have a family to rely on, you will not look for freshness and excitement at this stage.
They have a relatively mature concept of marriage and love. They will no longer let their feelings arbitrarily, and their choice of marriage is no longer as ideal as they were before. It is more of a realistic problem.
In fact, the marriage that middle-aged men want is often very realistic. They usually want the following patterns of marriage.
1: Each performs its duties
Many people enter marriage, without preparation and experience, and when running a family, it seems very chaotic. Both of them cannot find their respective positions. It will be very difficult to get along with each other, causing trouble for each other.
And such a marriage atmosphere is simply a disaster for middle-aged men. Many middle-aged men hope to achieve something at work. If it is due to the rising period of career, they need to focus most of their energy on work, but when they get home, they have to deal with a messy marriage.
Therefore, middle-aged men want marriages that perform their own duties, so that two people can find their respective suitable positions. When running a family, one person will dominate the inside and the other person will dominate the outside, and help each other, and the whole atmosphere will be very good. Marriages like
are icing on the cake for middle-aged men. They can have a strong backing when working outside. To put it bluntly, middle-aged men will want to take good care of their family’s partner and avoid their worries.
The idea is very realistic, but it is also very real. Marriages soaked in food, rice, oil and salt need to deal with these realistic problems.
If both of them only care about love and do not care about life at all, then even if they love each other, there will be no good result in this marriage.
And middle-aged men cannot pursue impulsively and people who are inappropriate to them as they were when they were young. After all, they are here and have no time and energy to squander. They can only find a down-to-earth home down-to-earth.
2: Give each other moderate freedom
Some people say "marriage is the grave of love", because many people love each other at the beginning, but when they entered marriage, they still remain as sweet as they wanted, but over time, they become suffocated.
In order to keep each other, two people will have a strong desire for control and possessiveness. At the beginning, this is nothing, but they will become bored over time. After all, feelings are not the whole of life, and if you lose yourself, everything will become boring.
After all, every relationship has its shelf life. As we spend together day and night, the freshness of the past will no longer exist. No one can always maintain the initial enthusiasm, so if marriage becomes a bondage, there is no way to have a long-term future.
And the marriage that middle-aged men want is to rely on their own future. Therefore, for the long-term development, they want to give each other a moderately free marriage. Such a marriage is comfortable and there will be no greater pressure.
Everyone will have different views and feelings in their lives. It is impossible to be occupied by marriage. If you focus on marriage, it is easy to have many conflicts. Therefore, a mature marriage should give each other some space to keep your love.
The continuous confidence in life often comes from love. If you immerse yourself in the affairs you like, you will have a little more tolerance and kindness. Even if you face the ups and downs in your relationship, you will not retreat because of this, and the relationship between the two will become more firmer.
3: Support and understand each other
The life of middle-aged men is equivalent to having half gone. Without the original immatureness, they have become more mature in their relationship. At the same time, they are lonely at this stage, and they strongly want to find a suitable partner to give themselves a stable destination.
And many times, feelings are uncontrollable. At the beginning, I like them without regard for myself. As I get along slowly, I will find that neither of them thinks they are. Such errors will lead to the breakdown of their relationship.
Therefore, the marriage that middle-aged men want is more realistic. They will not pursue romance too much, but hope that they can support and understand each other.
The support and understanding of the other party is equivalent to affirming their own abilities and behaviors, which will also give them greater motivation to continue to ride the wind and waves on the road ahead, and even if they encounter setbacks, they will not retreat easily.
This courage and perseverance comes from the other party's support and understanding, and this way of getting along can give each other's marriage a happy future.
