The reader wrote to me and said:
is not that I am stingy, but that my strength does not allow me to be generous, because I have worked hard in the city of work for more than ten years and still live a life of renting a house.
My attitude towards life: Have a house of my own in the city of work, which is an explanation for myself and my children; my wife’s attitude towards life: Life is short, so enjoy it in time.
In fact, when I first got married, my monthly salary was paid to my wife on time, but she took my salary and often had a lot of fun with her neighbors. In the end, I really couldn't stand her extravagance and waste. In recent years, I have been in charge of my salary.
also tried to get his wife's salary card, but his wife refused.
Now, my wife will still take her salary and squander with her neighbors. Every time I argue with my wife about this, she will say: 1) I spend my money now; 2) If you don’t have the ability to buy a house, can you blame me?
Every time this happens, I feel that I live a very cowardly life, and I also feel that my wife is not the one who lives with me sincerely.
Muzili Emotional analysis:
There is such a couple. They are both stingy and can "get cheap" at the company, and they will definitely not implement it at home. Because they can reach a consensus on the stingy level, they do not think the other party is too much.
Some things cannot be judged by right or wrong or whether they should be judged, but they need to reach a consensus between husband and wife.
The main contradiction between you and your wife: different ambitions, so if you can't stand her daily behavior, she will also feel that you are not understanding.
In this case, you have only two choices: either tolerate or divorce.
can be seen that you really want to be a person who makes a lot of money, and you must have worked hard for it. What is the result?
There are many inspirational words about life and emotions, and there are also many chicken soup. Gradually, we will find that those words that seem to inspire us are actually not practical at all in our actual life. Even so, some people insist on saying inspirational words. Perhaps, some more inspirational words can still give people spiritual encouragement at a certain moment of loss.
Your life continues, and you will feel that as long as the wish to buy a house is not fulfilled, depression will continue to accompany you.
However, although your wife speaks badly, she is also sincerely expressing her self-esteem. For example: some retired elderly people choose to travel all over the country with their wages; some retired elderly people save money every day and help their children take care of their children. I want to ask, what kind of life state is the lifestyle you should have?
is among the above, what can be told is: 1) Don’t try to change your wife’s lifestyle; 2) Consider the pros and cons after divorce, and think that compromise or withdrawal is what you should do. If you choose to persist in your marriage, you should show your understanding of your wife's life style; if you cannot compliment your wife's life style, then letting yourself go is the best strategy.
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