A cousin who has worked in the police station for ten years told me: "Maybe most people feel that rape should be a stranger who has become lustful to a woman and thinks that rape should happen between strangers, but the fact is not like this. Acquaintance rape is as high as 80%. "
Maybe everyone is also surprised by acquaintance rape, but in real life, acquaintance rape accounts for the majority.
Fangfang (pseudonym) was targeted by three friends after a dinner and followed her home. One of the friends forced Fangfang to have sex with him while she was taking a bath, while the other two failed to rape her.
"I never thought these friends would have unreasonable thoughts about me." After that, Fangfang had not recovered and still didn't believe that this kind of thing would happen to me.
In fact, this is a very real case of rape by acquaintances.
case review:
Fangfang is an mother and fetal solo (single), but her fate is very strange.
After graduating from college, his high school classmate Wang Qiang (pseudonym) suddenly confessed to her, saying that he actually liked Fangfang very much in high school and wanted to be with Fangfang.
But that was forced to put the relationship aside under the pressure of the college entrance examination, parents and teachers.
Fangfang also had feelings for him, and later, under Wang Qiang's crazy pursuit, he agreed to be together.
Fangfang and Wang Qiang have some common friends, all of them are their local high school classmates.
One day, Fangfang went to Zhang Feng (Fangfang and Wang Qiang’s high school classmate) hotel to find Wang Qiang, but Wang Qiang was not there, Fangfang wanted to go to Zhang Feng’s house to wait.
But at this time, Wang and Chen invited Fangfang to dinner. Fangfang felt that waiting was also waiting, so it would be better to have a meal first. Zhang Feng, Wang and Chen discussed raping Fangfang after the meal.
So, he took the initiative to drink. Fangfang drank a lot. After the meal, Fangfang returned to Zhang Feng's house to rest. Chen found that Fangfang was gone, so he followed Fangfang to the room, wanting to have sex with Fangfang, but Fangfang shouted and resisted desperately, and finally broke free from Chen's claws.
Fangfang hurriedly returned to Zhangfeng Hotel and asked Zhang Feng to send him home. Zhang Feng had a plan in his mind and wanted to take Fangfang in one fell swoop, so he said that Wang would send you back.
Before leaving, Zhang Feng also reminded Wang to find a suitable opportunity to take Fangfang.
On the way, Wang pressed Fangfang to the ground and wanted to have sex with her, but this time Fangfang was lucky and broke free again.
Then Fangfang ran back to Zhang Feng's house to hide. Wang quickly told Chen and Zhang Feng and Fangfang that they had escaped and asked them to find them quickly.
They started to look for each other. Wang found Fangfang first, and the atmosphere was in his heart. When he saw Fangfang, he kicked her into the puddle.
Then, the three of them arrived and sent Fangfang to Zhang Feng's house for a bath. The three of them began to conspire again. Wang suddenly broke into the bathroom and touched Fangfang, wanting to have sex with him, but Fangfang shouted and struggled.
After hearing this, Zhang Feng hurried to the bathroom and took Wang out of the bathroom.
At this time, Zhang Feng couldn't help it. Fangfang was not so lucky this time, and Zhang Feng finally succeeded.
Finally, Zhang Feng was brought to justice.
Why do acquaintances rape so many times?
. Rape of acquaintances is more likely to succeed
If the person who rapes is an acquaintance, the perpetrator will be very familiar with the victim's personality and behavior, be able to make a judgment on his behavior, and find a very suitable opportunity to start. At the same time, it is also very likely that because they know each other well, the criminals hold important information or secrets of the victims as threats, thereby coercing the victims, and eventually compromise due to helplessness.
. Acquaintances are highly secretive in rape, and the victims are not very alert to acquaintances
Just like the real case above, Fangfang still did not recover after the incident.
"Ah, have Zhang Feng and the others really become evil in me long ago? I thought we were just normal friends." Fangfang said afterwards.
Acquaintances, as criminal suspects, often hide themselves before committing a crime, do not express the intention of the crime at all, and the victim cannot detect it or prevent it. On the other hand, after the incident, the exposure rate of such cases was relatively low, and victims were generally unwilling to call the police, and they were usually chosen to bury them in their hearts.
3. It is difficult to determine the evidence collection
. Because it is an acquaintance, the definition of the relationship between each other is often difficult to determine. If they are different from each other, it is usually impossible to assess whether it violates the intention of the victim and cannot be investigated and evidence collection.
What is the terrible thing about rape of acquaintances? Why is it said that rape of an acquaintance is a hundred times more terrifying than ordinary rape?
. Many victims did not notice that this was also rape
Surveys show that nearly 30% of acquaintances rape victims did not realize that they had been raped. Nearly half of the people did not tell anyone else that they had been raped, but chose to swallow it silently, so that the matter was sank to the sea. However, as victims, they were obviously in pain and could not find a solution.
. Social public opinion will put a lot of pressure and harm victims
There is really no way to unify the thoughts between people. When it comes to rape of acquaintances, especially those with old-fashioned ideas, they usually accuse the victims of "Why didn't you find out early?", "Just contact with such people less," "Why do you drink?", "Why don't you rape others? It's definitely a problem for you, and your relationship is definitely not clean." The words
are undoubtedly a huge blow to rape victims who have suffered great harm, and they are all overwhelmed by spitting stars.
In short, in the eyes of some people, they were raped because of the victim's own reasons. They don't care why the perpetrator wants to rape them, and just pours dirty water on the victim.
3. The psychological pain that is difficult to relieve after rape of an acquaintance
Because it cannot be said, the pain and pain held in the heart will turn into anxiety, depression , flashbacks, nightmares, etc., and will have a negative impact on future interpersonal relationships.
After all, he is an acquaintance. The victim usually has to meet him and pretend to have nothing to do, which is very stressful for them. The whole process of being violated is like a nightmare, destroying them in memory all the time.
Many victims can never get rid of this psychological curse.
4. Acquaintances usually do not rape only once, they are all habitual offenders
. Because in acquaintances, victims rarely call the police and choose to endure and endure being bullied, the perpetrator will be more unrestrained and unscrupulous.
After all, they are acquaintances. Many victims can be raped by the same person several times for many years and can be raped by the same person several times.
How to avoid being raped by "acquaintances"?
. Keep a safe space distance from the opposite sex, do not cross the boundary
If you are not a couple, don’t protect ambiguous relationships, or show yourself when you live. It is best to keep a certain safe distance with very close friends.
Because we cannot fully trust anyone, we must be cautious. Bad people will not write bad things on their faces. If you add one more mind, you will have another layer of protection for yourself.
. Learn to identify red flags
When someone is too close to you and feels crossing the line, if he suggests having a drink with you, or going to a quiet area, to a hotel, restaurant, bedroom and other areas with very high privacy, this is a terrible warning.
We must pay more attention to these dangerous signals. We must be careful when recognizing them and learn to refuse.
3. Develop risk response plans in advance
anti-wolf spray, small stick, pretending to make a phone call and other tips can be learned.
pack contains anti-wolf spray . When you encounter a pervert, you can directly take it out and spray it on your face.
writes a small stick with you, and you can take it out and boost your courage when you meet a bad person.
4. Respond with cleverness and act according to the situation
Victims can say something that makes people afraid or worry to scare away the invaders.
"I have asthma and I am afraid of being stimulated. If I get sick, I may die. Don't take the risk!"
"I have a heart disease and it's easy to have an acute attack. It's a problem to be frightened."
Try more to his pain points. You can try more and scare more. Maybe you can hit his vital points.
is written at the end:
Rape is a dark memory for everyone, and it is difficult to erase the hatred and resistance to rape.
We must be vigilant against acquaintances and any other form of rape, be fully prepared and protect ourselves.
I hope there is no evil in the world and more righteous ways! No one wants to discuss or mention issues such as
sexual assault, but it is because of this atmosphere and low acceptance that many victims have silently endured a lot.
