When we are in love, we often deliberately keep a certain distance from each other. Men do this to show their gentlemanly attitude, and women do this to show their own self-esteem and self-love. This kind of closeness and separation is a relatively subtle barometer of the relationship between lovers.
Once the relationship becomes a husband-wife, as time goes by, both parties will gradually reveal their original appearance, and the previous sense of distance will disappear, and both parties will become inseparable partners. This kind of companion runs through the emotional and physiological levels. However, if the sense of distance is still brought into marriage for a long time, I believe no one can tolerate or even understand this "quirk". Too simple respect for each other will be counterproductive and bring serious disasters to the marriage.
Ni Fang (pseudonym) and her husband Liang Yuan (pseudonym) have been married for 3 years, but the couple has been sleeping in bed until now. This made Ni Fang feel very dissatisfied and asked a mediator to uphold justice for herself.
Speaking of inner pain, Ni Fang had a lot of words to say. She said that in the three years since her marriage, the couple had lived no more than 10 times. She even said that her husband Liang Yuan was so simple that she was just a piece of wood. When talking about the specific reasons, she felt even more amused.
Because her husband Liang Yuan told his wife that he would be so hot that people would die of life for husband and wife in summer and freeze to death in winter, Ni Fang proposed to turn on the air conditioner, but Liang Yuan flatly rejected it, saying that turning on the air conditioner for husband and wife is too power-consuming.
Ni Fang then said that she took the initiative every time. If she didn't take the initiative, she might have been a widow in the past three years. Even so, sometimes when she saw herself taking the initiative to ask for it, the honest and dull Liang Yuan was so scared that she cried loudly, which really made her feel embarrassed as a woman.
When the mediator heard that it was a marriage dispute involving the couple's life, in order to facilitate the reconciliation of the conflict between the two parties, the mediator carefully asked about the causes and consequences of the conflict between the young couple, and asked to restore the original situation as truthfully as possible.
The husband Liang Yuan defended and claimed that he was also wronged. If he took the initiative to ask his wife for a love affair, if his wife did not agree to her request, he would feel embarrassed and didn't know how to deal with the next scene.
This explanation made the mediator laugh out loud: "What are you worried about? Since you are all your wife, it is human nature to interact normally between husband and wife. You think too much and be too polite."
Just as the mediator turned his head and asked Ni Fang for details seriously, Liang Yuan's mother, Aunt He, came out to smooth things out for her son, and said that she understood her daughter-in-law's difficulties and dissatisfaction, but she also knew her son. son Liang Yuan is naturally timid and introverted, and is really not very enlightened in this regard.
At this moment, Ni Fang suspected that her husband had a brain problem with the mediator. She explained that before getting married, Liang Yuan had a car accident on an electric bike, so when the two were on a blind date, she specifically asked Liang Yuan if there was any brain problem. As a result, Liang Yuan swore that his brain was normal and could clearly count from 1 to 10.
When she heard her husband's promise, Ni Fang said that she believed Liang Yuan should have no problem with her brain, but The mother-in-law on the side admitted that her son had undergone three brain surgeries. To be honest, there are some problems with her brain.
Putting aside the problem with Liang Yuan’s head, Ni Fang said that her husband’s honesty and dullness made her speechless. Once she took the initiative to kiss her husband, but her husband Liang Yuan was frightened and cried. She thought that the woman was too scary and seemed to leave a psychological shadow. From then on, she began to sleep with her wife in a separate bed.
Seeing that her husband is so dull, Ni Fang, who has no moisturizing, often sulks and loses temper for no reason, which makes Liang Yuan feel very depressed. He said to the mediator: "The husband and wife should be more kind. I don't know why she always gets angry for no reason, and I didn't mess with her."
The mediator tried hard to hold back the urge to laugh, and seemed to almost have internal injuries. He instructed Liang Yuan that since he was a husband and wife, the two of them should sleep on the same bed and the same bed. It is definitely not appropriate to separate the bed. suggested that Liang Yuan should not be too concerned about turning on the air conditioner and electricity. The air conditioner must be turned on when it should be turned on, otherwise his wife would definitely be angry.
As he said, the mediator pulled Liang Yuan to their bedroom and demonstrated that as long as the quilt was laid thickly, the two would not feel cold when they sleep together. I hope Liang Yuan would not refuse to take the initiative to get close to his wife on the grounds of cold weather.
At the same time, the mediator also suggested that his mother-in-law, Aunt He supervise the young couple, Allow both parties to sleep in separate beds. Once they find out, they should be corrected in time. Furthermore, the mediator encourages Liang Yuan to give his wife a hug and resolve his knot with his actions.
Hearing this, The dull Liang Yuan hugged his wife hard and hesitated that he would consider his wife's emotions in the future and try not to make his wife angry. The couple looked at each other, and his wife Ni Fang also showed a long-lost smile.
Liang Yuan and his wife Ni Fang had a conflict due to the problems of husband and wife's life. Although it sounds incredible, it does have a certain representation of marriage conflicts. The wife accused her husband of being unfamiliar with the charm, while the husband defended himself as being introverted and lacking enough initiative. Both parties had their own reasons. Because, there are indeed certain difficulties.
To be fair, there are some abnormalities in what husband Liang Yuan did. It seems that the nature of a man is not fully reflected in him, but the wife’s demands and performances before and after is not seen at the moment. In this case, as a wife should be more proactive and responsible, and the husband’s introverted personality needs to be considered.
In marriage, men do not necessarily represent initiative, women can also exert initiative, especially for men like Liang Yuan who are too honest and dull, the wife can completely eliminate the restraint and shadow in the other person’s heart by increasing their initiative while increasing communication with her husband. Once both parties You can truly know each other and believe that your husband will let go of that "politeness".
As a husband and wife, each other needs to understand each other. Sulking cannot solve the problem. Every family has its own special circumstances. Some people should still be more responsible for the marriage. In getting along day and night, the other party will definitely feel their efforts and tolerance.
To a certain extent, marriage is a process of continuous integration between husband and wife. In this process, both parties constantly adjust their attitude, or find a unique way of getting along between the two through communication and negotiation. As long as they do not give up on each other, with the mentality of solving problems, there is no marriage conflict that cannot be resolved. Only if we are willing to embrace each other sincerely.
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