We envy those who can manage their marriage well, because many feelings are beautiful when they are in love, but when they are in marriage, they will change.
has become a firewood, rice, oil and salt, trivial matters, a fight that can never be finished, and a disgusting thing.
Happy marriages are similar, but unhappy marriages have their own misfortunes.
The marriages we envy are not achieved overnight, nor are they enjoying their achievements. They are the result of time and energy.
Psychological research shows that every couple's life is getting happier and happier, and there are actually methods.
No matter what happens, they will communicate in a timely and effective manner
Sha Yi and Hu Ke . This couple is also an enviable model couple in the entertainment industry. Their marriage is not as romantic as in the romance novel , but it has the fireworks that many couples want to have.
However, at the beginning, there were some minor conflicts in their marriage.
Sha Yi has no sense of participation in doing housework. If in real life, many people will complain, thinking that housework is their own, and the whole marriage is only related to themselves. In such a negative environment, the conflict between the two people will not only be resolved, but will become more and more intense.
So, Hu did this. She was not angry, nor did she let this dissatisfaction squeeze in her heart, nor did she yell at Sha Yi. On the contrary, she sat down calmly and communicated with Sha Yi, expressing her inner feelings, so that Sha Yi could clearly know what she was thinking in her heart and what she hoped the other person could do in the marriage.
As a result, Sha Yi gradually began to have a sense of family awareness and began to realize that he should fulfill his sense of family responsibilities in marriage, and there is also a reasonable and effective solution to the contradiction about "not doing housework".
So, many times, those sudden outbreaks are not the culprits that lead to the breakdown of marriage, and those trivialities in daily life are the culprits that defeat the marriage.
It can be seen that a good communication method can resolve many contradictions invisibly, and can also allow marriage to develop better in a positive emotional value.
Know how to be a sense of proportion and respect each other
The most taboo thing in marriage is to treat your lover as a relative, because we know that if a person is in a relatively safe environment, he will release his truest selves, including the good side and naturally the bad side. This explains why many people are very polite to outsiders, but give their bad tempers to the people they are closest to.
Because we know that relatives will not leave us because of our unreasonable trouble, we will also be unscrupulous and fearless.
However, the other half cannot be regarded as a true relative after all. He (she) has no blood relationship with us. Relatives will tolerate us infinitely, but lovers will not; relatives will not leave us no matter what, but lovers will.
What all relationships fear most is losing the sense of distance. Once you lose distance, you will hurt each other and treat each other as your own property, control each other's life, and vent all bad emotions on each other. In this way, the person who was unswervingly loved us will gradually get farther and farther away from us.
Writer Cai Jianjian once said: "Marriage is two intersecting circles. Beyond intersecting, you can follow your inner thoughts; within intersecting, that is the overlapping part of you. Every time you think you are indifferent to cross-border behavior, you will be a needle on the other person's body."
A good marriage cannot be separated from a sense of proportion, like a spring, it cannot be tightened or relaxed. Only by stretching and relaxing can it be guaranteed to be resilient.
Know how to keep your own space and achieve each other
Remember Cai Kangyong Before, he said this in the variety show " Talk about Strange Tales ": "The best matches in my impression include my own educational class, cultural background, etc.Different family backgrounds and social circles, there will be fewer and fewer topics of exchange for each other after marriage, which will eventually lead to the couple going further and further away. "
In fact, the best state of marriage in the true sense should be that there is always something to say between husband and wife, and the premise of this thing to say is that husband and wife can resonate at the same frequency and always stay at the same level, and will not cause too much difference, so that there will be no obstacles when communicating.
But in real life, there will always be such a situation that women stop growing themselves after marriage, and all their lives are left with three meals a day.
can’t finish housework, as well as husbands and children, their own lives are very few. As a result, the gap between them is getting bigger and bigger, and communication becomes very difficult.
Such marriages will become worse because they are dynamically out of sync with each other. Those good marriages are all developed by one person and the other person follows closely, so that they will not become intimate enough because of the huge gap.
