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I am Ye Feifei yff, a non-famous emotional instructor, who writes heart-wrenching emotional texts, hoping to bring you some spiritual comfort with warm words.
The old saying often says: "Thirty is like a wolf, forty is like a tiger."
This is generally used in love to express a woman's need for emotions and desire to get the love and care of a man.
However, looking at women in reality, they find that after they reach middle age, their emotional needs are no longer strong.
The reason is that in addition to the real pressure of life, it is more about the neglect and alienation of men.
In fact, many women after marriage are in an anxious period. They are not worried about life, but are wronged and painful for men's indifference.
The relationship between women has always been gradual and needs to continue to develop.
Under normal circumstances, women who reach middle age should be more expectant about emotions. After all, women at this period are already mature enough to need the texture of love.
However, just when women have expectations for men, men keep neglecting them, even feeling that there is no newness. They deliberately reject them, which forces women to endure and eventually endure the grievances alone.
After all, why do women become middle-aged and no longer need men? There are two reasons:
1. Men's long-term indifference and alienation have completely made women feel cold
When women reach middle age, if they do not receive the love of men, there will be a big gap in their hearts.
Originally, women of this period have matured physically and mentally, and have stronger expectations for love.
However, at this time, the man no longer loves women as he used to, and even becomes indifferent and alienated, eventually making the woman feel calm.
I have always heard of this example around me. My wife waits patiently for her husband to come back at home, eager to perform the "husband-wife ritual".
However, after my husband came back, he took a shower on his own and went to another room to rest, completely ignoring the woman's feelings.
At this time, women will definitely be unable to sleep all night, and even feel wronged and cry quietly. After a long time, they naturally have no expectations for intimate contact.
So, it is not that middle-aged women don’t expect the life between husband and wife, but that they are already heartbroken and have no expectations after being indifferent and alienated by men for a long time.
Generally speaking, women in middle-aged age have a very strong need for emotions, and they yearn for sharing sweet and romantic moments with their lovers.
However, men always use various excuses to perfunctory women, and even feel that the old couple is as close as before.
Even many men feel that their marriage is dull, they lose interest in women, and they are more reluctant to contact women.
In this way, men become interested and yearn for women outside. With an extramarital relationship, they will only be more repulsive to the women around them.
Therefore, women suffered great grievances, especially those who experienced betrayal. completely gave up on men, gradually got used to living alone, and no longer had any expectations for men.
2. After experiencing betrayal, they actively rejected men to get close to
Women have a lower emotional demand from middle age. Another reason is that after experiencing betrayal, they actively exclude men to get close to.
In a woman's heart, she feels that men are not worthy of love, and she dislikes them from the bottom of her heart, thus refusing to have an intimate relationship with men.
In marriage, once the relationship is flawed, women will definitely not accept it. Even if a man is willing to return sincerely, women will not be able to let go.
The man who once said he loved a woman for the rest of his life had a relationship outside of marriage in middle age. The woman instantly felt cold and would never believe what a man said again.
Whether emotionally or physically, women will not let men get close to , and basically the relationship is in a cold war.
In this case, women have no intention of solving their emotional needs. Whenever they see men, they will feel uncomfortable, and rejecting and rejecting men has become the norm.
Just like Ms. Liu, she and her husband have been married for twenty years and the children have grown up. She was originally very happy, but by chance, she found that her husband was ambiguous with other opposite sex.
For this reason, she and her husband communicated with each other heart-to-heart, hoping that their husband could return to their family.
My husband also promises to cut off the relationship outside, and keep his mind at home in the future and love her well.
However, in less than a month, Ms. Liu found that her husband was chatting and having an ambiguous relationship with other women, and her relationship was not broken at all.
That's it. Ms. Liu was completely disappointed and never wanted to see her husband again. As long as her husband came over, she would be particularly disgusted and would not let him get close at all. The relationship between husband and wife has completely drawn a clear line.
So, for middle-aged women, once they experience men's betrayal, they basically no longer have emotional needs.
No matter how strong the desire is, they will restrain themselves and devote all their time and energy to other aspects to improve themselves and give themselves stronger abilities so that they can be separated from men at any time.
Ye Feifei yff emotional message:
In summary, when women reach middle age, they no longer need men. It is nothing more than these two reasons:
The long-term indifference and alienation of men have completely disappointed women; after experiencing betrayal, they actively reject men to get close.
In reality, many women do not live well after marriage. It is not because their lives are not going well, but because they have too much grievance and pain in their emotions.
They long to find the feeling of love in their hearts, but men always disappoint them, eventually lose interest, and have no expectations for men.
Furthermore, women have a stronger pattern when they reach middle age. They know what they are pursuing and will not depend on men to live.
If men cannot give the emotional care they want, they will give up their fantasies and settle themselves and find a more positive life.
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