It is very comfortable to interact with mature people. Don’t worry about intrigue between each other, don’t worry about embarrassing scenes, don’t worry about being looked at by wearing “tinted glasses”.
The more you interact with mature people, the more you can influence our words, deeds and thinking habits in a subtle way, making yourself more mature, and eventually become a "mature person" in the eyes of others.
Therefore, first of all, we must distinguish whether a person is mature through the following three points. Understand the characteristics of those who are worthy of close friendship and give yourself a good role model.
is always improving yourself
True maturity requires ability as the core, and maturity shown by lack of ability is empty shell.
Ability requires continuous accumulation and learning, so mature people are always learning, not only in school and work, but more in daily life, because they can always learn corresponding skills when they need it in life.
corresponds to them. The learning ability they show during the communication with people. Mature people are usually good at observation and analysis. When they meet someone better than them, they will summarize the advantages of each other in various aspects and try to use them for their own use, and accumulate the small amount to make the more. It is reasonable that they will become better if this continues.
Excellent emotional management
Emotions are innate, but not everyone has good emotional management skills.
Because emotional management is actually against human nature, just as seeking profit and avoiding harm is human instinct, while emotional management is to prevent us from being dominated by emotions and make ourselves better.
Emotional management ability affects everyone's logical thinking, personal ability and learning ability. Learning is a long process, from elementary school to university, you will experience countless difficulties.
Why can some people grow up more and more courageously? That's because every time negative emotions come, he can manage and resolve them in time.
People with poor abilities will let negative emotions accumulate and eventually be crushed and give up. The level of education and ability are positively correlated, and are also positively correlated with emotional management ability.
This is why most of the top students in everyone’s impressions have clear logic and calm thinking, which is why they have good emotional management skills. So we need to regard emotions as a tool to fulfill interests, rather than an excuse to release instinct without control.
Lofty ambitions, and ordinary life
When my parents and teachers asked about our dreams, they always had professions such as scientists, policemen, doctors, etc. When we truly grow up, we realize that the so-called dreams of those days are nothing more than the world in the limited cognition of ignorant children.
In the world of adults, there are more food, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea. It is not that we are deprived of the right to have dreams, but that reality has forced us to temporarily put aside our dreams and pursue a more stable life.
In the eyes of mature people, dreams are certainly there, but in the end they are just seasonings for life, a beautiful imagination of the future, and they cannot fill their stomachs. So when they face the choice between dreams and reality, they often choose reality. After all, only by enriching reality can we improve the possibility of realizing our dreams, and down-to-earth is the necessary condition for lofty ambitions.
Maturity has always been just a process
instead of a definite result
universal hot water is boiled from cold water
The universe was just an infinitely small singularity
But it created the beautiful galaxy in summer night
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