Introduction
What people fear most when they get old is that their children cannot be with them, and their spouse also leaves them. Because life alone is difficult, living alone for a long time will make you feel depressed and have no interest in life. In order to make your old age more colorful, many elderly people will find a companion to support their elderly care.
Remarriage is also a matter of luck. Some elderly people are very lucky. They find the right person and live a harmonious and beautiful life without having to worry too much about their children. However, there are also some elderly people who are very unfortunate. Their marriage does not bring happiness, but countless contradictions. Over time, even the little bit of feelings before marriage has been consumed.
70-year-old Mr. Mo said frankly: "I chose to find a wife to remarry and support her in my later years. On the surface, it seems very happy, but in fact it is hard to say." What's going on? Let's listen to Mo next The story of the uncle.
Self-reporter: Uncle Mo
I am 70 years old this year, and I have retired for ten years in a blink of an eye. It feels like a blink of an eye. Time flies really fast. When I first retired, my life was enviable. At that time, my wife and I lived at my son's house. My wife was responsible for helping with the children, and I helped with housework. The two of us divided the work and worked together, so we wouldn't feel that there was much. Hard.
Because we both have pensions, the total income of a month is quite large, so we give our son’s living expenses, and we don’t care about this little money. My son and daughter-in-law also took our help in their hearts, and were polite to us. My son and daughter-in-law were filial and my grandson was well-behaved and sensible. My wife and I felt that living in my son’s house was very happy.
But since my wife passed away, my life has not been as beautiful as before. Because my health was much worse after my wife left, and I was hospitalized for a while. Later, the doctor prescribed some Chinese medicine for me to go home and take care of my body slowly.
Chinese medicine smells bad, and my daughter-in-law dislikes her very much. She thinks that I have made the house smell everywhere, which makes her feel very uncomfortable. I know that my daughter-in-law is dissatisfied and she will wait until they are not at home to boil medicine. And I will also do a good job of ventilation and try to make the smell of the house smaller, but my daughter-in-law still looks for trouble everywhere.
She often disliked me for not taking good care of my children. If my grandson had a bump, the first thing my daughter-in-law blamed me was the one who said that I only care about having fun on my own every day and did not take good care of my children. There are many such contradictions, and I can say that it will not stop for hours. Later, I couldn't stand this anger, so I went back to my own home to take care of my old age.
After returning to my hometown, I met Fangli with the help of my friends. Xiuli is five years younger than me. My friend kept saying good things about Fangli in front of me, and I thought we were quite suitable, so after a brief understanding, we got the marriage certificate. Maybe some people think we are a bit too hasty, but at that time I thought everyone was aware of the truth, and my friend also thought Fangli was very good, so getting a certificate was not casual.
I have a wife who knows the warmth and coldness by my side, and my life is indeed more enjoyable. Fangli has a good temper. She is kind when she talks to me, not at all. I think this is an advantage. Some women of our age have a very irritable temper and speak like a quarrel. I think such a woman is very unpolite. I don’t like it. It’s great like Fangli. The two of them have business and quality, and their lives are beautiful.
We actually made three rules before we got married. Our own money was under our control and we could not get mixed up. However, if we gave it voluntarily, we would say it separately. I am responsible for supporting my family, and I will pay for my living expenses. At the beginning of every month, I will give my living expenses to Xiuli, and Xiuli is responsible for doing housework.
It seems that Xiuli has lost money. In fact, I will give Xiuli some pocket money every month. She is the main person in charge of housework, and I am not the kind of person who does nothing. I usually help you. .
On the surface we really live a happy and fulfilling life, but in fact no one knows the pain in my heart. Xiuli is very nice to me, but because of marrying her, I have more troubles.
She has an incompetent son named Awen, who is 38 years old this year. Most people have a stable life at this age and have achieved some success in their careers. But Awen is just a lazy person who has not studied for a few years, so he naturally can't find any good job. No matter what job Awen does, he doesn't last long. I have introduced him to several jobs before, but he stopped working for three months. Sometimes I blame me for finding him for being too tired.
Sometimes he would go to the factory to work without money, but he would basically work daily and get a salary every day. How could such a person be able to support his family? So Awen's wife had already run away a few years ago, and now Awen is the only one who lives with her daughter.
He got married late at the beginning, and now his daughter is only four years old. Xiuli couldn't care about them, and every time Awen asked Xiuli for money, Xiuli would give her more or less. Xiuli's monthly pension is about 2,500 yuan. In addition to the pocket money I give her every month, she can earn about 3,000 yuan a month. Not much of this money is spent for herself, and it is basically spent on it. Wen and granddaughter.
I just got married to Xiuli, and Awen borrowed money from me several times, and it added up to about 10,000 yuan. Awen never mentioned this money again. I know that it is probably the one I have to take. I don't want to pursue those who don't come back.
Later, Awen's appetite became bigger and bigger, and he was not satisfied with the money he had for Guang Xiuli every month. I often come to our house to ask us for help. In fact, as a stepfather, I have done my best. Since I got married to Xiuli, I have also spent a lot of money on Awen.
Awen is not my son after all, and I can't spend all my pension money on him. But every time Xiuli cried and begged me, asking me to give me some, which is really difficult for me.
Xiuli is indeed a very good wife. She takes good care of me after we are together, but this kind of thing is not big, and I can't continue to subsidize it like this forever. Every time I refuse, Xiuli won’t say anything, but she will use cold violence against me. She doesn’t do anything at home every day, just wait for me to worry about it, and ask me to go to the living room to rest at night.
I can still tolerate it once or twice, but I can't accept it even if I have too many times. My friends all think that Xiuli is a virtuous woman and takes good care of me, but in fact I really have troubles and don’t know who to tell me about my hardships.
Now we have been in a marriage for more than a year. I really can't live up to it now and I already have plans to divorce. I can't blame me for being cold-blooded, mainly because Xiuli is really too confused. Awen is so big, and she still helps her endlessly. It's okay if you don't think about yourself, but you have to drag me into the water and affect my old age.
I definitely can't agree. I had already told Xiuli about my thoughts two days ago. Xiuli heard that I was going to get a divorce and lost her temper in front of me for the first time. He also said that if I wanted to divorce, I had to prepare her a mental loss fee of 100,000 yuan, otherwise she would never leave her.
I really didn't expect Xiuli to have such a side. I have paid enough. I will definitely not give this 100,000 yuan, but I will still find other ways to divorce the marriage.
I hope the elderly must not be as blind as me before looking for a partner. They should observe and understand more, and do not listen too much to others. Even if they think the other party is very good, they should first take a while to evaluate the other party, and then consider whether to get the certificate. . Otherwise, getting a certificate in a hurry will only make your life messy and annoying.
