Mr. Gao from Tianjin and Ms. Guo from Hainan met each other in a coffee shop because of a concert, and then they fell in love, which lasted for five years.
Five years later, when the time came for the two to talk about marriage, Ms. Guo hesitated. Why?
This started five years ago. At that time, Ms. Guo was a harp performer in the symphony orchestra and came to Tianjin to perform. Mr. Gao happened to watch the performance and he took many photos at the scene.
After watching the concert, Mr. Gao and his friends went to a nearby coffee shop to drink coffee. Unexpectedly, Ms. Guo also came here to drink coffee after the performance.
Mr. Gao saw what a coincidence and said, "I just watched your performance and took a lot of photos. Can you add us on WeChat and I will send you the photos?"
It was such a coincidence that the two of them joined WeChat. Ms. Guo was in Tianjin for a month, and they kept in contact. Mr. Gao’s meticulousness made Ms. Guo very tempted. Within a month, both of them felt that they were not enjoying themselves. , and then the two of them met for a trip to Xi'an.
That trip to Xi'an made Ms. Guo even more excited. Shortly after returning, she made a particularly bold decision to resign from Hainan and travel thousands of miles to Tianjin to meet Mr. Gao.
From the beginning, Mr. Gao thought that this might be a romantic love experience with no future. He did not expect that Ms. Guo would come all the way to him.
This surprised and surprised him, and also made him feel the seriousness of the matter, because he had a secret that Ms. Guo didn't know yet, that is, he was already married.
When Ms. Guo found out that Mr. Gao was already married, she felt a great gap in her heart. Now that it had become a fact, she did not break up because of this matter.
However, the fact that Mr. Gao had a marriage has become a knot in Ms. Guo's heart. Over the years, whenever two people have conflicts, Ms. Guo will make an issue of it.
In the past five years, they have experienced a lot. Mr. Gao's business failed, and Ms. Guo never left. The two of them have worked hard together until now. Ms. Guo is already twenty-nine years old, and Mr. Gao is thirty-five years old.
have reached the age of marriage, but they don’t have their own wedding room. Even for the wedding ceremony, Mr. Gao’s cousin said, “It’s already the second marriage, what more ceremony is needed? Let’s just have a meal to express it.” ".
This made Ms. Guo feel very unhappy, because she was the first to get married, how could there be no ceremony? For this reason, she has been hesitating, should she get married?
For girls who marry far away, you must remember: do not marry far away without these three conditions.
1. Don’t marry far away if your heart is not strong enough
Marrying far away is a kind of courage, but you can’t afford nothing but love. Only by matching the other person’s abilities and having a strong heart can you calmly face everything in the future.
Don’t just revolve around your husband, children, and the stove. Cultivate your own interests and strive to improve yourself. Be good enough and leave no one without letting you fall into an abyss.
Your parents and friends all hope that you will be happy if you marry far away, but your own happiness must ultimately be achieved by yourself.
2. If life does not develop, you will not marry far away.
Writer Mr. Qi said: Marrying far away is a lonely journey. I advise you to keep a return ticket. You can use it, but you can't live without it.
I have seen such a story: There was a cousin who I had not seen much since she could remember. My grandma said that back then, she fell in love with a young man from other provinces and wanted to marry him, in a small and remote county. Life is endless suffering.
She was originally a talented child, very good at drawing, and she also had a dream of being a designer. After
got married, she found that the profession of designer did not exist there at all, so she relied on her connections to find an easy job with a monthly salary of more than 3,000.
The job is easy, but with such a small salary, I can’t save any money at all.
After having a child, her family asked her to quit her job to take care of the child, and she agreed. However, every year when the Chinese New Year was approaching, her parents who were far away in her hometown were looking forward to her returning home, but she couldn't even afford a bus ticket, so she simply didn't. Went back.
Happiness in marriage is given by your husband. You have to give yourself the confidence in marriage.
3. Don’t marry far away if you don’t have an independent house
Although the third condition seems very practical, I think it is necessary, because marrying far away is different. When you marry far away, you are isolated and helpless. There is no one around you and no one. People speak for you.
You have nothing but a place to live. This is the most basic thing. You are not the kind of person who says "you must have a house to get married."
However, it is necessary to marry far away. No matter how young you are, you should have a house of your own to settle down and live in.
Whether you can maintain your financial and spiritual independence after marrying far away; whether this man is worthy of your marrying far away, and whether you can bear the consequences of an unhappy marriage.
A girl who understands these points will not have a bad life no matter where she gets married.
I hope you have the courage to marry far away and the ability to make yourself happy.
