When people reach middle age, life is very difficult. They need money to eat, drink, sleep, and everything.
When you get home, there are a group of people who rely on you, but you are helpless.
In order to make a living, we have to be busy, work intensely, travel in a hurry, and make time for sleep.
As the saying goes: "Leisure must be savory; busyness must be valuable."
When we observe and think carefully, we will find that a busy life and a very leisure life are different.
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is in the wrong direction, and all the busyness is meaningless.
During the Warring States period, Su Qin worshiped Guiguzi as his teacher and learned a lot of Taoist ideas.
After he left Guiguzi, he started busy writing materials, deeply interpreting the relationship between and among the seven countries, the current situation, the employment mechanism, etc., and wrote 100,000 words eloquently.
finished writing, and Su Qin was busy selling off his property. Then I went to Qin State and met with King Qin several times, but he was not reused. In the end, he worked around for several years and sold his carriage and clothes before he could return home.
In the Eastern Jin Dynasty, Zhou Shao was very talented and was born in a family of military generals. Minister Yu Liang found Zhou Shao in admiration, hoping to become an official in the same court.
Zhou Shao's ambition was to retire, and he avoided meeting Yu Liang many times.
After Zhou Shao followed Yu Liang out of the mountains, he made great contributions in the Battle of Ruxukou and the Battle of Shiting.
One night, Zhou Shao suddenly sighed: "I am a real man, but I was teased by Yu Liang." After saying this, he became extremely sad and angry.
Su Qin overestimated his abilities in his early years; Zhou Shao was led by others throughout his life. Not only were their efforts successful, they also set themselves up for failure.
goes against the efforts of the times and is difficult to make progress.
In the era of wars and wars, the king hoped to dominate one side and meet military talents who could help him make profits. At this time, if you try to promote "techniques for farming and ways of enjoying the people" to the king, it will be difficult to succeed.
In times of peace, you encourage kings to go to war and stir up trouble. People will think you have "bad intentions" and if you succeed, you will also be a sinner.
acts against his will and becomes more and more chaotic as he gets busier.
Some parents over-discipline their children. The child wanted to study law, but his parents asked him to study history. The child entered law school according to his parents' wishes, but he had no interest at all and his academic performance was a mess. When parents realize that their children need to change their major, the child is already seventeen or eighteen years old and has basically finalized his career.
Some people enter the society and work in factories casually. After working for several years, I found that my income was not satisfactory and I had not learned any skills. After entering middle age, due to the pressure of life, I don't dare to change jobs, so I can only endure it in a muddle-headed manner.
There are also some people who frequently change jobs, looking up from one mountain to another. Either on the road to unemployment or on the way to find a job. The busy figure is distressing and puzzling.
As the saying goes: "Whatever the pattern is, so is your fate." The truth is that the direction is correct. If the pattern is too small and you only consider immediate interests, then busyness will become a matter of consuming yourself.
In life, if there is no merit, there is no need to talk about hard work. Complaints are useless, only achievements are useful.
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is in the right direction, and even when you are free, you are moving forward.
Many people envy Su Dongpo. They also think that he was a wandering man throughout his life, was demoted many times, and was extremely busy. In fact, he has a lot of free time. Otherwise, how could he study food, often go to friends' houses to drink, and invite friends to climb mountains?
The famous saying "You can live your whole life under the mist and rain" was written when there was a drizzle while playing in Sand Lake .
"The taste of the world is pure joy" describes his feelings about going out with friends to pick and cook wild vegetables.
When life is not busy, you can carefully ponder articles and appreciate the taste of every meal.
A famous minister of the Eastern Jin DynastyXie An lived in seclusion in Dongshan, Shanyin County, Kuaiji County for a long time. After he became an official, he was very calm and admirable.
For example, once I went to sea with my ministers and encountered a huge wave. Everyone was panicking, but he didn't move.
Not busy, it does not mean doing nothing, but a very determined person and knows the skill of "making a big difference".
Maybe you think that the direction is right, that is, act according to the ideals of childhood. In fact, it is not like this, but "adapting to circumstances and taking advantage of the trend."
The direction is fixed, but people are flexible.
When you find that you are going in the wrong direction, adjust immediately. Once you have figured out the direction, you will be on track again. Just like Su Dongpo, when I went to Huangzhou, Huizhou , Hangzhou, and Hainan, although life was hard, life was good and there was always endless fun.
If you encounter ups and downs in your life and everyone around you is busy, stay calm and deal with the current affairs in an orderly manner. Just like Xie An, every section of the road is designed by oneself. You can advance or retreat.
"The Tao Te Ching" says: "The sage is cherished by the emperor."
A powerful person has beautiful jade in his heart but is ordinary in appearance. Don’t pursue superficial prosperity, but pursue inner calmness. Slower, but faster.
Middle-aged people, when they give full play to the role of their family members and make reasonable arrangements, they work together; when they find the secret to work and are good at cooperating with colleagues, they become de facto leaders.
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"Everything has its limits." In life, you must always find a balance between busyness and leisure. Don't be too busy or too idle.
Looking at a unit, high-level people are in the office building, strategizing; low-level people are busy in the workshop. But high-level people earn more, and the company cannot do without them. People at lower levels can be replaced at any time and earn much less.
If you are very busy right now, working overtime, and still not getting attention, it means you need to adjust yourself.
In life, 80% of the problems require money to solve, but the way to make money is not to do it recklessly, but to do it skillfully, or even to borrow the strength of others.
After middle age, being calm and steady is your own confidence, your family's sense of security, and your children's pride.
Therefore, actively adjusting and settling yourself is the greatest foresight and wisdom.
Author: Commoner.
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