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I was pregnant for ten months and raised a child for several years. Only those who have been mothers know the sadness. Men are like decorations. Few people take the initiative to share the pressure. Even if they do , and very few...
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Because I gave birth to my second child, my mother and I stopped contacting each other. No matter how much I tried to persuade her, she just wouldn’t come to my house.
Even if he took my dad to Urumqi Medical College for medical treatment, he would not tell me.
In my mother's eyes, I am the most disobedient of the two children.
I don’t blame my mother, I know she does it for my own good.
But now, I can only knock out my teeth and swallow it in my stomach.
Who told me to believe my mother-in-law’s lies and insist on having a second child?
was still unsatisfied and gave birth to another daughter.
When I was preparing to have my second child, my mother warned me.
"You can't even keep your mouth shut, how can you raise two children."
"You can guarantee that you will give birth to a son. If you give birth to a daughter, no one will care about you then. I think Just cry."
After a year, my mother’s words came true. I really lived a life that was worse than even a dog.
My job is gone, my mother-in-law has gone away, and she is busy stumbling around all day long. Don't worry about the big ones, but the small ones.
As for shopping and dating, these are far away from me...
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I also admire myself. A salesperson with a high school level dares to have a second child.
My husband travels day and night and travels all year round, so he only earns a living.
Originally, the life of a daughter was quite comfortable. In addition to the mortgage, I could save two more.
But since I became pregnant with my second child, the prices of everything have increased.
The company where my husband works has also been affected by e-commerce and online shopping, and the treatment is not as good as before.
My parents-in-law often provide some subsidies, but they are limited to material support of firewood, oil, and salt.
When I gave birth to my first daughter, my parents-in-law were not very happy.
Because his family has been passed down through three generations, they all count on me.
My mother-in-law took care of my confinement, but she kept a dark face the whole time, and my mother took over for the second half.
not only took over, but also helped me raise my children.
My mother has always complained about this, but she just didn’t show it.
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Later, as soon as the second-child policy was announced, my mother-in-law came to my house quickly and encouraged me to have a second child.
said that she was retired and had plenty of time. She said that as long as I was willing to have a baby, she would like it regardless of whether it was a boy or a girl.
and took care of the baby for us throughout the whole process, so my mother didn’t have to be bothered.
Seeing that I was indifferent, my father-in-law also promised to buy us a large four-bedroom house, saying that it would be suitable for more people.
My husband, who was originally on the same side as me, can’t sit still.
His colleagues and classmates have already upgraded to bigger houses and bought new cars.
Only we still live in the small suite we had when we got married.
The conditions proposed by my parents-in-law are indeed attractive, except for the hardship of ten-month pregnancy and the heart-wrenching delivery.
I don’t need to worry about the rest.
After my husband’s pestering, I finally let go.
I tentatively told my mother.
didn’t expect to be scolded but didn’t say anything.
My parents chartered a bus from Kuitun to Urumqi overnight.
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scolded me as soon as I entered the door.
My husband was so scared that he quietly did not dare to speak.
I knew my mother’s temper, and I didn’t confront her at the time. I just followed her wishes. That's what
said about himself.
But in fact, as soon as my mother left, I secretly started the plan to create a baby with my husband.
When my mother found out, it was too late.
I remember it very clearly. It was National Day, and I went back to Kuitun with a slight belly.
My mother exploded as soon as she walked in the door, pointed at her stomach and started scolding her.
was scolding and crying, saying that I was a dead girl, a dead girl who was disobedient.
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It happened that my eldest sister also returned to her parents’ house, and she quickly dragged me into the bedroom.
"Why don't you listen to my advice? We are all doing this for your own good. My sister has been here before. Don't you know how hard it is for a mother to have many children? Both of you have unstable jobs. What if you encounter a bump in the road one day?"
My sister’s words really shocked me.
I only thought about having my parents-in-law to help us, but I didn’t think about what to do if something went wrong.
That day, my mother didn’t give us a good look, and the door closed with a bang.
My husband and I quietly said hello to my dad, put down our things and went back to Urumqi.
From that day on, my mother ignored me.
This is probably the longest time my mother has been angry with me.
Even when I graduated from high school and ran around in Urumqi, my mother had never been so angry.
But it was a done deal, the child had already taken shape, so I couldn’t bear to get rid of it, so I had to bite the bullet and give birth to it.
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During the pregnancy, the parents-in-law worked very hard to save their precious grandson.
My mother-in-law took the initiative to let me quit my job and raise my baby at home, and promised to give me 3,000 yuan a month for household expenses.
At first, my classmates and friends all envied me for having a good mother-in-law, but until I gave birth to my daughter, I never saw her transfer money.
My husband even said that his mother had saved everything for us, saying that he would give it to us sooner or later.
If I gave birth to a son, I might give it to him, but I just gave birth to a daughter.
My mother-in-law said that men and women are the same, but when I gave birth to my daughter, she complained about back pain or leg pain every day.
A few days after he finished speaking, he slipped back to Qitai.
The treatment was the same as when I gave birth to my eldest daughter. My mother-in-law ran away before the confinement period was complete.
She was still thinking about having my mother come as a replacement, but where would my mother come from?
Because of this, my husband also fell out and had a big fight with his parents-in-law.
No matter how noisy you are, you have to live your own life.
Looking at my little daughter who is a carbon copy of my husband, I couldn’t help but laugh again.
Maybe this is fate and destiny.
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Naturally, the confinement period was not good. My husband and I even said that foreigners did not have the confinement period.
It can be regarded as self-comfort. In fact, I felt extremely uncomfortable when I said this.
I called my mother's phone several times, but finally hung up.
During my pregnancy, my dad would occasionally call me to say hello and ask me to pay attention to my body.
My dad transfers some money to me from time to time. In fact, I know it was my mom who asked him to transfer it.
My weight dropped sharply after just one month of sitting. It wasn’t because I didn’t eat well, but because I was too preoccupied.
Only after I gave birth to my second child did I understand why the old man said that we should have a good confinement period.
I was just disobedient, and my bad mood directly affected my milk supply, which really made matters worse.
When I was raising my eldest child, I didn’t even feel it. I would hold him in my arms when he was hungry, and I didn’t spend much money.
This guy only costs RMB 300 to RMB 400 for a can of milk powder, which is not very good.
Needless to say diapers, miscellaneous things really don’t dare to settle accounts.
My husband also had mixed feelings and took the initiative to lower his living standards.
Smoking is the cheapest. After getting a haircut and getting a haircut card, it costs 10 yuan. I don’t want any style anymore.
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It is true that having one more baby will set your life back ten years.
My husband was so angry that he called his parents directly and asked when he would come to Urumqi to take care of the child. The answer available to
is that it will come immediately.
My husband was so angry that he took a few puffs of cigarette and said that his parents were unreliable.
I am angry and want to laugh.
My husband, who is usually an optimist, finally got pissed off.
When my second daughter was a hundred days old, I carried her back to Kuitun. My father was very happy, and my mother just looked at him.
My dad was so scared that he quickly retracted his hand.
Although it looked ugly when entering, this time, my mother cooked a table of delicious food.
I know she feels sorry for me.
She quickly pulled out two mouthfuls of rice and then helped me pick up my second daughter. I knew she wanted me to have a good meal.
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Tears of dissatisfaction flowed down instantly.
"Mom, the food cooked by grandma is so delicious." The eldest daughter's words hit my heart, and I quickly wiped away my tears.
"If it tastes good, eat more." I picked up a piece of braised pork and put it into her bowl.
It was only this time when I came home that I learned from my sister that during the months when I was pregnant, my dad had some health issues.
They actually went to medical school without telling me.
I would rather live in a small guest house than come to my home.
I feel extremely sad. Having a second child really breaks my mother’s heart.
She raised us two sisters and endured many hardships. She knew how difficult it is for women, and she didn’t want me to follow her old path.
But I just don’t listen.
has hit the wall and is still confident.
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I regret it sometimes.
I was relieved to see the two sisters playing happily. Maybe this is life and this is happiness.
finally managed to make it to the age when her youngest daughter went to kindergarten, but she encountered the epidemic again.
Life suddenly came to a standstill, and my husband also stopped working and stayed at home every day.
It’s really hard to live on one’s laurels, and my heart is still hanging, not knowing when it will end.
I am finally back to normal, but my husband can no longer travel on business, and his salary has been cut by one-third.
I sent my daughter to a kindergarten a little far away from home. It wasn’t that the education was good, but it was mainly cheap.
I started looking for a job again.
But the reality is cruel. College students are always hit by obstacles, let alone a high school student like me.
Before giving birth, I worked as a counter in a shopping mall, but now that the business is in a recession, the boss has no time to cut staff, so he can’t recruit more people.
After careful consideration, I finally bowed my head to life.
honestly found a job as a toll collector in the property management company of the community.
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I charge for climbing stairs every day, my legs are almost broken.
All the beautiful clothes and high heels were gone.
No sportswear or sneakers are suitable for this kind of work.
To be honest, it’s quite sad. Who doesn’t work hard to survive?
Besides, I have two children at home.
As I was working, I realized that the toll collector not only had to collect fees, but also had to do chores, weeding, spraying pesticides, and clearing snow in winter.
Sometimes I shed tears in grievance, but I am afraid of being seen.
If you don't do this, what else can you do? At least you have free time and can take care of your two children.
As for the nonsense that my parents-in-law said, as long as we are born, we will have nothing to do with anything, I have almost forgotten it.
Most of the time, when I quarrel with my husband, I just talk casually and enjoy myself.
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How can you do it without working? Everything costs money.
My husband’s salary alone can’t cope with it.
Although I don’t earn much, I still have enough for daily expenses. I can also take care of my two children, which can be regarded as saving another amount of money.
In the past few years, my parents-in-law have not cared much about us, except for symbolic red envelopes and clothes and shoes for the children during major festivals.
Don’t even think about the others.
As for the big house, no one has ever mentioned it again.
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I was pregnant for ten months and raised a child for several years. Only those who have been mothers know the sadness. Men are like decorations. Few people take the initiative to share the pressure. Even if they do , and very few...
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Because I gave birth to my second child, my mother and I stopped contacting each other. No matter how much I tried to persuade her, she just wouldn’t come to my house.
Even if he took my dad to Urumqi Medical College for medical treatment, he would not tell me.
In my mother's eyes, I am the most disobedient of the two children.
I don’t blame my mother, I know she does it for my own good.
But now, I can only knock out my teeth and swallow it in my stomach.
Who told me to believe my mother-in-law’s lies and insist on having a second child?
was still unsatisfied and gave birth to another daughter.
When I was preparing to have my second child, my mother warned me.
"You can't even keep your mouth shut, how can you raise two children."
"You can guarantee that you will give birth to a son. If you give birth to a daughter, no one will care about you then. I think Just cry."
After a year, my mother’s words came true. I really lived a life that was worse than even a dog.
My job is gone, my mother-in-law has gone away, and she is busy stumbling around all day long. Don't worry about the big ones, but the small ones.
As for shopping and dating, these are far away from me...
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I also admire myself. A salesperson with a high school level dares to have a second child.
My husband travels day and night and travels all year round, so he only earns a living.
Originally, the life of a daughter was quite comfortable. In addition to the mortgage, I could save two more.
But since I became pregnant with my second child, the prices of everything have increased.
The company where my husband works has also been affected by e-commerce and online shopping, and the treatment is not as good as before.
My parents-in-law often provide some subsidies, but they are limited to material support of firewood, oil, and salt.
When I gave birth to my first daughter, my parents-in-law were not very happy.
Because his family has been passed down through three generations, they all count on me.
My mother-in-law took care of my confinement, but she kept a dark face the whole time, and my mother took over for the second half.
not only took over, but also helped me raise my children.
My mother has always complained about this, but she just didn’t show it.
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Later, as soon as the second-child policy was announced, my mother-in-law came to my house quickly and encouraged me to have a second child.
said that she was retired and had plenty of time. She said that as long as I was willing to have a baby, she would like it regardless of whether it was a boy or a girl.
and took care of the baby for us throughout the whole process, so my mother didn’t have to be bothered.
Seeing that I was indifferent, my father-in-law also promised to buy us a large four-bedroom house, saying that it would be suitable for more people.
My husband, who was originally on the same side as me, can’t sit still.
His colleagues and classmates have already upgraded to bigger houses and bought new cars.
Only we still live in the small suite we had when we got married.
The conditions proposed by my parents-in-law are indeed attractive, except for the hardship of ten-month pregnancy and the heart-wrenching delivery.
I don’t need to worry about the rest.
After my husband’s pestering, I finally let go.
I tentatively told my mother.
didn’t expect to be scolded but didn’t say anything.
My parents chartered a bus from Kuitun to Urumqi overnight.
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scolded me as soon as I entered the door.
My husband was so scared that he quietly did not dare to speak.
I knew my mother’s temper, and I didn’t confront her at the time. I just followed her wishes. That's what
said about himself.
But in fact, as soon as my mother left, I secretly started the plan to create a baby with my husband.
When my mother found out, it was too late.
I remember it very clearly. It was National Day, and I went back to Kuitun with a slight belly.
My mother exploded as soon as she walked in the door, pointed at her stomach and started scolding her.
was scolding and crying, saying that I was a dead girl, a dead girl who was disobedient.
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It happened that my eldest sister also returned to her parents’ house, and she quickly dragged me into the bedroom.
"Why don't you listen to my advice? We are all doing this for your own good. My sister has been here before. Don't you know how hard it is for a mother to have many children? Both of you have unstable jobs. What if you encounter a bump in the road one day?"
My sister’s words really shocked me.
I only thought about having my parents-in-law to help us, but I didn’t think about what to do if something went wrong.
That day, my mother didn’t give us a good look, and the door closed with a bang.
My husband and I quietly said hello to my dad, put down our things and went back to Urumqi.
From that day on, my mother ignored me.
This is probably the longest time my mother has been angry with me.
Even when I graduated from high school and ran around in Urumqi, my mother had never been so angry.
But it was a done deal, the child had already taken shape, so I couldn’t bear to get rid of it, so I had to bite the bullet and give birth to it.
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During the pregnancy, the parents-in-law worked very hard to save their precious grandson.
My mother-in-law took the initiative to let me quit my job and raise my baby at home, and promised to give me 3,000 yuan a month for household expenses.
At first, my classmates and friends all envied me for having a good mother-in-law, but until I gave birth to my daughter, I never saw her transfer money.
My husband even said that his mother had saved everything for us, saying that he would give it to us sooner or later.
If I gave birth to a son, I might give it to him, but I just gave birth to a daughter.
My mother-in-law said that men and women are the same, but when I gave birth to my daughter, she complained about back pain or leg pain every day.
A few days after he finished speaking, he slipped back to Qitai.
The treatment was the same as when I gave birth to my eldest daughter. My mother-in-law ran away before the confinement period was complete.
She was still thinking about having my mother come as a replacement, but where would my mother come from?
Because of this, my husband also fell out and had a big fight with his parents-in-law.
No matter how noisy you are, you have to live your own life.
Looking at my little daughter who is a carbon copy of my husband, I couldn’t help but laugh again.
Maybe this is fate and destiny.
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Naturally, the confinement period was not good. My husband and I even said that foreigners did not have the confinement period.
It can be regarded as self-comfort. In fact, I felt extremely uncomfortable when I said this.
I called my mother's phone several times, but finally hung up.
During my pregnancy, my dad would occasionally call me to say hello and ask me to pay attention to my body.
My dad transfers some money to me from time to time. In fact, I know it was my mom who asked him to transfer it.
My weight dropped sharply after just one month of sitting. It wasn’t because I didn’t eat well, but because I was too preoccupied.
Only after I gave birth to my second child did I understand why the old man said that we should have a good confinement period.
I was just disobedient, and my bad mood directly affected my milk supply, which really made matters worse.
When I was raising my eldest child, I didn’t even feel it. I would hold him in my arms when he was hungry, and I didn’t spend much money.
This guy only costs RMB 300 to RMB 400 for a can of milk powder, which is not very good.
Needless to say diapers, miscellaneous things really don’t dare to settle accounts.
My husband also had mixed feelings and took the initiative to lower his living standards.
Smoking is the cheapest. After getting a haircut and getting a haircut card, it costs 10 yuan. I don’t want any style anymore.
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It is true that having one more baby will set your life back ten years.
My husband was so angry that he called his parents directly and asked when he would come to Urumqi to take care of the child. The answer available to
is that it will come immediately.
My husband was so angry that he took a few puffs of cigarette and said that his parents were unreliable.
I am angry and want to laugh.
My husband, who is usually an optimist, finally got pissed off.
When my second daughter was a hundred days old, I carried her back to Kuitun. My father was very happy, and my mother just looked at him.
My dad was so scared that he quickly retracted his hand.
Although it looked ugly when entering, this time, my mother cooked a table of delicious food.
I know she feels sorry for me.
She quickly pulled out two mouthfuls of rice and then helped me pick up my second daughter. I knew she wanted me to have a good meal.
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Tears of dissatisfaction flowed down instantly.
"Mom, the food cooked by grandma is so delicious." The eldest daughter's words hit my heart, and I quickly wiped away my tears.
"If it tastes good, eat more." I picked up a piece of braised pork and put it into her bowl.
It was only this time when I came home that I learned from my sister that during the months when I was pregnant, my dad had some health issues.
They actually went to medical school without telling me.
I would rather live in a small guest house than come to my home.
I feel extremely sad. Having a second child really breaks my mother’s heart.
She raised us two sisters and endured many hardships. She knew how difficult it is for women, and she didn’t want me to follow her old path.
But I just don’t listen.
has hit the wall and is still confident.
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I regret it sometimes.
I was relieved to see the two sisters playing happily. Maybe this is life and this is happiness.
finally managed to make it to the age when her youngest daughter went to kindergarten, but she encountered the epidemic again.
Life suddenly came to a standstill, and my husband also stopped working and stayed at home every day.
It’s really hard to live on one’s laurels, and my heart is still hanging, not knowing when it will end.
I am finally back to normal, but my husband can no longer travel on business, and his salary has been cut by one-third.
I sent my daughter to a kindergarten a little far away from home. It wasn’t that the education was good, but it was mainly cheap.
I started looking for a job again.
But the reality is cruel. College students are always hit by obstacles, let alone a high school student like me.
Before giving birth, I worked as a counter in a shopping mall, but now that the business is in a recession, the boss has no time to cut staff, so he can’t recruit more people.
After careful consideration, I finally bowed my head to life.
honestly found a job as a toll collector in the property management company of the community.
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I charge for climbing stairs every day, my legs are almost broken.
All the beautiful clothes and high heels were gone.
No sportswear or sneakers are suitable for this kind of work.
To be honest, it’s quite sad. Who doesn’t work hard to survive?
Besides, I have two children at home.
As I was working, I realized that the toll collector not only had to collect fees, but also had to do chores, weeding, spraying pesticides, and clearing snow in winter.
Sometimes I shed tears in grievance, but I am afraid of being seen.
If you don't do this, what else can you do? At least you have free time and can take care of your two children.
As for the nonsense that my parents-in-law said, as long as we are born, we will have nothing to do with anything, I have almost forgotten it.
Most of the time, when I quarrel with my husband, I just talk casually and enjoy myself.
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How can you do it without working? Everything costs money.
My husband’s salary alone can’t cope with it.
Although I don’t earn much, I still have enough for daily expenses. I can also take care of my two children, which can be regarded as saving another amount of money.
In the past few years, my parents-in-law have not cared much about us, except for symbolic red envelopes and clothes and shoes for the children during major festivals.
Don’t even think about the others.
As for the big house, no one has ever mentioned it again.
I often say to my husband: "You are the only child in your family. Your mother is so good at what she does. Aren't you afraid that no one will take care of her when she gets old?"
Every time my husband looks at me and says that I don't use the pot. , saying that I am a vengeful person.
I trembled slightly in my heart, "I don't hold grudges, it's obviously a trap set by the family."
I just couldn't say it myself. After all, it was my own child that I gave birth to, and my parents-in-law had no obligation to help.
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Fortunately, my husband and I got through it too.
If you persist a little longer, it will be easier for your little daughter to go to school.
thought that life would pass peacefully like this.
Who would have thought that with the introduction of the country's three-child policy, the parents-in-law and family could no longer sit still.
has been coaxing us to have three children since last year, and my father-in-law and mother-in-law took turns to bombard us.
Seeing that we were indifferent, they even moved out seven aunts and eight aunts from their family to serve as lobbyists.
This time, my husband was extremely determined. I looked at the white hair on his forehead and felt indescribable sadness in my heart.
In the past few years, a second child and an epidemic have caused suffering to both of us.
There are no flowers before and after, no love for each other, and no extra time to spend with my eldest daughter. The guilt in my heart is beyond words.
Don't even give me a big house, even if you give me a few million, I won't live again.
The unknown world is too confusing.
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has been grinding from last year to this year.
My parents-in-law never gave up, no matter how firmly my husband and I spoke or how ugly our faces were.
In the eyes of the parents-in-law, not having grandchildren means being unfilial and will make you unable to hold your head high in front of relatives.
I am convinced by my mother-in-law who talks so nonsense.
Seeing that we really gave up, my mother-in-law burst into tears, which scared my daughter so much that she crawled into my arms tightly.
I don’t know what to say or how to comfort her.
I don’t understand her world, and she doesn’t understand my embarrassing life either.
I don’t want to be busy giving birth to children every day in my limited life and become a production tool for his family.
My husband doesn’t want it even more. He says that having two daughters is enough and he doesn’t want to live too tiredly.
It’s not that we are too selfish or that we have no responsibility.
This generation of young people encounters too many unstable factors.
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If my husband and I both had stable jobs, maybe we wouldn’t have so many emotions.
said that if you don’t listen to the old man’s words, you will suffer the consequences before your eyes. This is true at all.
But you don’t have to listen to all the old people’s words.
Only people like my mother, who sincerely say good things to me, will listen to advice no matter what.
It took more than thirty years for me to understand the meaning of family and appreciate the painstaking efforts of my parents.
I made my parents worry when I was young, but when I got married, I still didn’t let them feel at ease.
Now I am repeating the same old path as my parents.
I wonder if my two daughters will give me peace of mind in the near future...
This is an emotional online story
It makes people feel very uncomfortable.
Only women who have experienced marriage, childbirth, and the struggle between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can appreciate what it's like.
Whether it is one child, two children, or three children.
It all has to be tailored to the individual. If you have the conditions, you can have a second child, and if you have the strength, you can have a third child.
But for now, I think it might be a bit difficult to have a baby.
First, times are changing, and young people pay more attention to the quality of life and their own status.
They will not risk today's happiness for tomorrow's things.
Even if a person gives birth to a child, he will leave it to the care of his parents, otherwise the child may be smaller.
There are very few mothers like this in the article who have no choice but to raise their children.
I can’t rely on my parents-in-law, and my parents are far away, so my biggest support is my husband.
As my sister said, there can be no mistakes at home, otherwise the whole family will be dumbfounded.
It is not unreasonable. A family must have the foresight and resistance to withstand disasters.
If you only listen to the rhetoric of your parents-in-law, you don’t have the strength.
Then life will really be "colorful".
Fortunately, this husband is quite reliable. Although he is not rich, he has normal outlook on life.
can make correct judgments between parents and wives. After everything
has gone through, I don’t think it’s all a bad thing. After all, she has welcomed a little life, and she is still a little princess who is the exact replica of the hero.
Only when you realize that life is not easy will you cherish your future life even more.
It’s not easy for two young people, come on! !
also hopes that all young people in the world can have the ability to control their lives and their destiny.
Live your life wonderfully, live your marriage happily...
Author: Xiaofeng
(Note: The pictures have nothing to do with the content of the article, they are all from the Internet, original articles, plagiarism is strictly prohibited, and violators will be prosecuted)
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for my husbandIt is not unreasonable. A family must have the foresight and resistance to withstand disasters.
If you only listen to the rhetoric of your parents-in-law, you don’t have the strength.
Then life will really be "colorful".
Fortunately, this husband is quite reliable. Although he is not rich, he has normal outlook on life.
can make correct judgments between parents and wives. After everything
has gone through, I don’t think it’s all a bad thing. After all, she has welcomed a little life, and she is still a little princess who is the exact replica of the hero.
Only when you realize that life is not easy will you cherish your future life even more.
It’s not easy for two young people, come on! !
also hopes that all young people in the world can have the ability to control their lives and their destiny.
Live your life wonderfully, live your marriage happily...
Author: Xiaofeng
(Note: The pictures have nothing to do with the content of the article, they are all from the Internet, original articles, plagiarism is strictly prohibited, and violators will be prosecuted)
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