Should the house bought by the in-laws be settled in the name of the son, or in the name of the parents-in-law?
Regarding this issue, it is really a matter of opinion. Logically speaking, it is understandable that the house purchased by the husband's family with a down payment is in whose name the husband's family wants to settle it. It is their freedom and right.
But if the house bought by the husband’s family still requires the daughter-in-law to repay the mortgage, then of course the daughter-in-law also has a share in the house. It's not that the husband's family has all kinds of calculations and precautions, and in the end they dislike the daughter-in-law's material snobbery.
01. The house is all in the name of his parents
Before Wu Bin and his wife Xiaonan got married, the couple had discussed that each family would contribute half of the down payment in their names, and they would repay the mortgage together after they got married. But when Wu Bin went home and discussed it with his parents, his parents were unhappy and said that the woman's name should not be written in the marriage room, but should be written in his own name.
So, my parents did not agree, and they bought the wedding house before receiving the certificate, and the real estate certificate was also written in the names of the parents. When Wu Bin told his wife about this, she had a big quarrel and even proposed to break up.
Wu Bin tried his best to win back his wife's heart. It was only when they actually got married and their parents discussed the marriage that the wife learned that the wedding house was directly written in the names of her parents-in-law. As for Wu Bin himself, he had no house or car in his name.
The parents-in-law were so angry that they persuaded their daughter to break up, but the wife did not agree. Later, Wu Bin and his parents proposed to compensate his wife with a gift of 100,000 yuan, but his parents-in-law gave up.
02. After three years of marriage, my wife resisted her parents-in-law and had a child.
I thought that after giving my wife a gift of 100,000 yuan, my wife would live a peaceful life with him. After all, according to their parents' plan, they are not willing to pay even 100,000 lottery tickets. If it weren't for the concern that their son was already too young, the parents would have had to compromise.
After the couple got married, the wife's attitude has always been lukewarm, and she seems to have no interest in anything. Every time Wu Bin took his wife back to his parents' home, his wife never called her mom or dad, she only called her uncle or aunt no matter who she was in front of or behind.
My parents had some opinions, but they didn't hold on to them because they thought they were right first. But the wife did not give up. Although she received a gift of 100,000 yuan when she got married, her wife always believed that Wu Bin's parents had been plotting against her and she felt insecure. Therefore, every time Wu Bin proposed to have a child, his wife refused.
In the three years since their marriage, my wife has been lukewarm about the couple's life, and she has also resisted having children. Seeing that he was not young and his parents had always longed to have a grandchild, Wu Bin tried to tease his wife many times, but she also refused.
03. The man regrets endlessly: The wife does not repay the loan, does not support the family, and does not have children.
The wife not only does not agree to have children, but also does not agree to repay the mortgage and support the family. In the first year when Wu Bin was unemployed and had no income, he discussed with his wife and asked her to help pay off the mortgage for three months and also advance living expenses for three months.
But the wife not only disagreed, but also used the real estate certificate in his parents’ name to argue the matter. The wife's intention was very clear. Either the real estate certificate was in her and Wu Bin's names, she would agree to pay the mortgage to support the family and have children, otherwise there would be no way out.
In the end, Wu Bin had no choice but to ask his parents to pay for it for several months before he got over it. Later, the wife even took the initiative to propose the AA system, where each parent takes care of themselves and keeps their own wages, and no one owes anyone anything.
Wu Bin thought his wife was joking. After all, which couple could tell the difference so clearly? But when his wife made everything clear to him in the rest of her life, Wu Bin knew that his wife was serious. He wanted to discuss with his parents about adding his name to the real estate certificate, but after their parents heard about his wife's indifference, they were even more reluctant, saying that a daughter-in-law who only cares about your house is not worth keeping.
Seeing that he was getting older and his wife's thoughts were becoming more and more difficult to guess, Wu Bin jumped up and down anxiously. He really wanted to compromise, but his parents wouldn't give in, and there was nothing he could do against them.The wife also refused to compromise. There was no name on the real estate certificate and she refused to pay anything.
Wu Bin regretted it. If he had known that his wife was so stubborn, he should not have teamed up with his parents to buy a house without telling his wife. Now it seems that the real estate certificate is in the name of his parents and has been preserved, but he has also lost his wife's heart.
04. Her husband’s family plots against her daughter-in-law.
For a woman to be married, her husband’s family’s various calculations and precautions against her are the most fatal blow. Although she also understood very well who paid for the house and whose name was written on it, she always believed that her husband's family was plotting against her and that she had no guarantee or sense of security in this marriage.
The calculations of the husband’s family will alienate the daughter-in-law. Even though the daughter-in-law is very aware of the selfishness of her husband's family, she just can't get over the psychological hurdle.
A man should originally stand on his wife's side, but he also chose to be selfish. In order to save his house, he stood on the opposite side of his wife. In this case, how can his wife still be with him?
Today’s topic:
Do you think Wu Bin’s wife is right if she doesn’t pay off her mortgage, doesn’t support her family, and doesn’t have children?
Pinellia explanation: Analyze marriage emotions and teach you to understand human nature!
