Introduction: In the eyes of many people, a rich pension and sufficient pension savings can lead to a happy old age. But real life is far from that simple.
71-year-old Uncle Ma can receive a pension of 7,000 yuan every month and has a savings of 400,000 yuan. People around him are very envious of him. But he lived a very hard life, and none of his three children wanted to support him.
71-year-old Uncle Ma’s self-report
My name is Ma Sheng and I am 71 years old. When I was young I worked in a company. I worked very hard every day and soon became a leader. After working for many years and making great contributions to the company, I can receive a pension of 7,000 yuan after retirement.
Due to years of frugality, I still have 400,000 in my bank card. Others are very envious of me and think that I live a prosperous life and will not have to worry about it in my later years. But I really regret it. I used to take money too seriously. As a result, precious family ties were lost. Now the children are unwilling to raise me.
When I was young, I was known as a tough guy. I can say that I don't give a damn about anything. My wife is a full-time housewife with no income and has to take care of three children. I always scolded her for spending too much and kept checking her monthly bills.
and also asked her to replace many daily necessities with the lowest quality ones, which would be cheaper. My wife is also full of resentment towards me because of this. It's just that she has no income, so she dares to be angry but dare not speak out. Our family eats vegetarian dishes with little nutrition all year round, and rarely eats big fish or meat. The three children often beg me to buy some good vegetables and snacks to eat.
I thought the children were too ignorant, so I rejected them directly. As time went by, the children became very depressed and unwilling to talk to me. The family atmosphere became even worse as a result, and I felt very uncomfortable. So I often drank to relieve my sorrow. Every time after drinking, I would uncontrollably hit my wife and children with my belt. After I woke up, I realized how much I had done. There was fear in the eyes of my wife and children. I apologized desperately, but the mistakes I made were irreparable. My wife has wanted to divorce me many times.
I knelt down with her and begged. Only then did she reluctantly forgive me. Later, all three of my children went to college.
But I feel that the tuition fees I have to pay are too much, which is a bit overwhelming. So I said I had no money and refused to let my little daughter go to school. I thought that my daughter would get married after all, so why would she read so many books? My youngest daughter couldn't resist me, so she had to drop out of school and go out to work. The two sons chose the university farthest from home and did not want to come back.
Year by year, the children have grown up. They also have their own little home. When my son gets married, he wants me to help him with money. But buying a house or a car as a bride price is really not a small amount of money. If I promised my two sons, all my savings would be wiped out. My son asked me for help, saying that if he didn’t buy a house or a car, a girl wouldn’t want to marry him.
But I still cruelly refused. I said: "My money is used to save my life. I really can't help." The two sons could only leave disappointed. The eldest son's wife was determined to marry him, but the younger son's daughter-in-law didn't hold on and left.
My wife scolds me for not being a human being. But I can't help it. I helped my son, but who will help me in the future? No one can tell what the future holds.
I thought I could spend my old age peacefully with my wife. Unexpectedly, my wife was diagnosed with a tumor in the hospital. She was hospitalized soon after. All kinds of medical expenses and hospitalization expenses add up to a lot. But I don't feel bad, after all, I am treating my wife's illness. In order for my wife to feel more comfortable, I also spent a lot of money to hire a caregiver.
The children also came to visit my wife one after another. The doctor said that the total cost of follow-up treatment would be almost 300,000 yuan. I feel like the sky is falling. The fee was so high that it almost wiped out all my savings. But without treatment, my wife's life could not be saved. The children scraped together money but only had tens of thousands of dollars. I thought about it all night and discussed it with my wife. My wife also understood me and said she didn’t want to burden me. I was so cruel that I didn't treat my wife, but took her home. Take good care of her every day and spend her last days with her.
Not long after, his wife passed away. I was so distraught that I locked myself in my room every day. Unexpectedly, my two sons said that I killed their mother because of my cruelty. My two sons said that I was the most ruthless person and even punched me.
From then on, my two sons never wanted to talk to me again. I never take my grandson to see me during holidays or make phone calls. I am the only one living alone in this world.
On the other hand, the old man next door only has a pension of 2,000 yuan per month and has very little savings. But the children are very filial and come to take care of the elderly from time to time. The room was full of laughter. I really regret why I take money so seriously.
Later I accidentally suffered a stroke and became paralyzed. I called my children with the last glimmer of hope. Unexpectedly, my children said, don’t I have a lot of pensions and savings? You are so rich, I believe you can take care of yourself. Then everyone said that they were very busy at work.
I really had no choice, so I packed my bags and went to a nursing home. Living in a nursing home is extremely painful for me every day. How can a caregiver compare to a relative? They have no human touch at all. If you ask them to do more, they will be given extra money. Moreover, the nursing home was so lifeless that I felt particularly depressed.
Although I have so much money, I am really not happy. I wish I could die soon!
