The old man is the backbone of the family. When the old man is around, the children will gather around him. When the old man leaves, the brothers and sisters will also disperse.
After the old man passes away, the following phenomena appear, which indicates that his descendants will go downhill.
1. Disputes over family property, brothers and sisters falling out, are the beginning of the decline of future generations.
One of my neighbors, Lao Zhang, has a son and a daughter. Both his son and daughter work in state-owned enterprises. Lao Zhang’s wife left a few years ago, leaving Lao Zhang alone. When Lao Zhang’s daughter got married, Lao Zhang sponsored part of his daughter's money to buy a house for him.
Lao Zhang’s son has also been working. When Lao Zhang bought his big house, his son also contributed money. The father and son lived in the same house.
A few years later, his son fell in love and got married. Lao Zhang made a down payment for his son to buy a house. Arrangements were made for his two children. Lao Zhang also retired. It should be said that he was able to live a peaceful life.
Unexpected events happen to people. Lao Zhang suffers from cancer and needs someone to accompany him and take care of him when he undergoes surgery radiotherapy chemotherapy.
The children took turns taking leave to take care of the sick Lao Zhang at home.
No one could have imagined that 20 years ago, his son and daughter lost their jobs during the layoff storm.
The son lost his job and the family's life was struggling. The daughter-in-law filed for divorce. The son left the house and left the children and the house to his ex-wife.
My son went to the south to work in order to make money. It’s all up to the daughter to take care of her father.
The daughter takes care of her father by herself. Sometimes she is too tired, so she asks her son-in-law to help. The son-in-law proposes to his father-in-law that when you are old and sick, we will be responsible for your care and support until the end of your life. After you leave, your property will be transferred to us. under the name.
Lao Zhang fell ill in bed alone and needed someone to take care of him. His son was working far away in the south, and he was not sure what kind of success he would have. In desperation, Lao Zhang agreed to his son-in-law's request, and his daughter provided for her until the end of her life. Owned by daughter.
After his son worked in the south for a year, he returned to his hometown and lived with his father. The son did not earn any money, so he found a small factory in their local area and started his working career again. The son, daughter and son-in-law took care of the seriously ill Lao Zhang.
Lao Zhang's health was getting worse and worse. Before he left, he asked his daughter: After I leave, can your brother still live here? The daughter told Lao Zhang: After you leave, our family of three will move to your house, and our house will be used by our younger brother.
Lao Zhang breathed a sigh of relief, and left that afternoon.
After finishing Lao Zhang’s funeral affairs, my sister told my brother, you move to our house first, and I will renovate this house. My brother moved to my sister’s house, and my sister spent three months renovating the old house. Newly renovated.
My elder sister and her family moved into Lao Zhang's old house, and my younger brother lived in my elder sister's old house. Just after living there for a month, my brother-in-law found his younger brother privately and asked his brother-in-law to pay the rent.
My brother-in-law started paying monthly rent to my sister. My sister felt sorry for her brother and gave a 20% discount on the rent. My younger brother's job has never been very smooth, and he has to pay child support for his son, making it difficult to make ends meet financially. My sister was often in arrears with rent. As time went by, my brother simply stopped paying rent.
My younger brother refused to pay the rent, and my brother-in-law quit his job. My brother-in-law sold the house in anger, and my younger brother was kicked out and rented a house elsewhere.
From then on, the sister and brother lost contact and forged a grudge.
html Many years later, my younger brother's son was going to college. He couldn't afford the tuition, so his ex-wife came to visit him.She reminded her brother: "You should own half of the house your father left behind. You can go to court and get back half of your property to support your son in college."
The younger brother said: "My sister and brother-in-law took care of my father until he died, and my father promised to give them the property."
's younger brother's ex-wife said: "Is there any written evidence? Were you present at the time? Do you believe what they say? In total, I took care of your father and got a property for a year and a half. Isn't it too cheap for them? You Zhang family The authentic son and grandson received nothing, is this reasonable?"
My brother suddenly realized.
The younger brother filed a lawsuit in the court, demanding an equal share of the property left by his father.
The court made a fair decision, and each person owns half of the property.
My sister cannot afford to buy half of the property, and my brother cannot afford to sell half of the property.
is stuck like this.
My brother simply quit the rented house and moved directly into the property left by his father. My sister and brother-in-law had no choice.
Just like this, my brother is alone, my sister and brother-in-law are a family of three, living in a large house with three bedrooms and two living rooms.
The two siblings see each other every day without looking up or down, and neither of them pays attention to the other.
My younger brother’s son’s school fees have not been raised either. My brother's ex-wife often quarrels with him. My brother and sister often quarrel over who has more bills for water, electricity, and property management.
Once my brother-in-law and younger brother got into a fight, and my sister called 110 to report the incident to the police. Both the brother-in-law and younger brother were warned by the police.
They are still living like this. How will they solve it in the end? No one knows?
2. Brothers and sisters go their own ways and never interact with each other again. This is the beginning of the decline of this family.
Brothers and sisters connected by blood, broken bones and connected tendons, there should be a support for each other, and no one cares about the other? If we no longer interact with each other, it means we have lost a connection.
3. Having children and grandchildren sitting on nothing is the beginning of the decline of the family.
My parents have accumulated some savings and are able to support their family and even save some fixed assets. His children and grandchildren no longer want to go out to work and play at home every day. Their parents take care of their food and drink, and their grandchildren are taken care of by their parents. For a son like
, when a daughter's parents leave, problems will naturally come to her door.
The inheritance left to your children is not just money and fixed assets, but also what should be left behind: giving them a strong will and quality and the ability to survive on their own.
