We always think that being filial to our parents and accompanying them is something in the future, and we have enough time to do it. The reality is that our parents left before we were ready. Filial piety and companionship can no longer be achieved.
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When you reach a certain age, you suddenly realize the greatness and irreplaceability of family love
Have you ever read a book called "Time in the World"?
The author of this book, Ji Xianlin , felt deeply about this. He loved his mother, but he only stayed with her for six years. Like us, he wanted to wait until he had made some achievements before he could consider being filial to his mother. Unexpectedly, the reality was cruel and his parents could not wait until that day.
We will also deeply regret after our parents pass away. Why didn't we go home more and spend more time with them when our parents were still alive, even if it was just to have a meal or take a walk with them.
After losing his mother, Ji Xianlin realized the value of family ties, and he told us in the book that parents are our most important relatives in the world. There are many kinds of feelings in the world, such as friendship and love. Only family ties come from blood relatives. Only family love is selfless and great. It comes from the unconditional dedication of our parents and relatives to us.
When I read this book and saw this chapter, I couldn’t help but shed tears. I looked at the book and saw that Ji Xianlin was unable to see his mother for the last time. He felt regretful and painful. I thought about whether I was also with Ji Xianlin. Similarly, I used the excuse of being busy working to make money to support my family and did not spend more time with my parents.
It wasn’t until my father passed away three years ago that I hurriedly flew back from other provinces. Although I saw my father for the last time, I still had regrets. No matter how much I regretted, it was useless.
However, it is the existence of family love that gives us dependence and belonging in this world. In the long journey of life, we will not feel lonely and helpless.
Perhaps many people do not realize the importance of family affection, ignore this sincere emotion, and neglect their parents and relatives. They make friends and are busy for friendship; or they are busy working on their own careers and have no time to spend with their parents. When I reached a certain age, I suddenly discovered the greatness and irreplaceability of family love.
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Family love cannot be delayed. Missing it will be a lifelong regret
The famous CCTV host Sa Beining once said that he is usually busy with work and cannot often accompany his mother. He is thinking about waiting for the day when he is free. I will go back to eat with my mother, and when I am not busy at work, I will take my mother on a trip. Unfortunately, before that day came, his mother died of a cerebral hemorrhage. Sa Beining said that his debt to his mother had become a pain in his life.
He looked through the chat history on his mobile phone. He spent a lot of time chatting with colleagues and friends. The chat history with his mother only had a few sentences, not even a voice message. After her mother passed away, Sa Beining realized that family love cannot be delayed. Missing it will be a lifelong regret, and there is no way to make up for it.
He has always kept his mother's WeChat account. Whenever he encounters something he wants to say or words he has no chance to say, he will send them to his mother's WeChat account. He wants to use this method to make amends and repay his mother for the family affection he owes. . Except for Ji Xianlin and Sa Beining, I believe that many people who have lost their parents have this kind of regret and pain.
It is the most heartbreaking thing in life to have a son who wants to be filial but not to be treated as such. The older you get, the deeper you feel this kind of heartache. Just like Ji Xianlin, when his temples were gray, he came to his mother's grave and cried like a poor child.
He often dreams about an old dog raised at home. The old dog lay loyally on the ground, looking eagerly at the door, waiting for Ji Xianlin's mother to come back. Ji Xianlin said that he did not believe in reincarnation, but after his mother passed away, he was willing to believe that one day in the future, he and his mother would meet again somewhere.
From Ji Xianlin’s story and Sa Beining’s experience, I hope that those of us who still have the opportunity to love our parents well and treat this family relationship well can cherish this emotion, take action, stay with our parents, and let them Live your old age in peace.
Today, by telling you about Ji Xianlin’s childhood life, we know the importance of family love to Ji Xianlin. Coming from a poor family with little to eat, he is forever grateful to the Juren grandma who gave him half a steamed bun.
He left his hometown with his uncle when he was six years old, and left his mother to study abroad. He left for fourteen years. In these years, he only returned to his hometown three times. He missed his mother and looked forward to graduating from college soon. When he became rich, he took his mother over to live with him. Unfortunately, when he was 20 years old, Ji Xianlin lost his mother forever and did not even see her mother for the last time before she died. . This incident became a permanent scar in Ji Xianlin's heart. He regretted and blamed himself, wishing that he should have left his mother behind, leaving her to suffer in the emotion of missing her son. He did not see his son until his death, and died with hatred.
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Family love is the final destination in life
Ji Xianlin’s story tells us that we must cherish the love between our parents. While our parents are still alive, we should go home more often and spend more time with them. Help our parents with small things, such as washing dishes and cooking, and accompanying them. Take a walk, chat about daily life, take your parents for regular physical examinations, care for and be filial to your parents in every detail. Don't wait until you lose your parents to blame yourself and regret again. It doesn't make any sense anymore.
My mother now lives alone in an old house in the countryside. My brother and I took her to the city. After living there for a few days, she couldn't stay anymore. She clamored to go back to the countryside, saying that our building was too high and it was too hard to go up. , was originally very weak and had been suffering from diseases for more than ten years. My brother now goes back to visit my mother basically every week. My sister is also in the village near my mother’s house and goes there to visit every day. I also take time to go back.
Before we go back, we have to call my mother. Every time we drive back to the village entrance, I see my mother standing at the village entrance from a distance. Her frail figure feels like she will fall if the wind blows, and I feel very sad.
But my mother was very happy. When she saw my brother and I, her wrinkled face showed a happy smile, and our hearts felt much more at ease.
The most important thing is that because my mother is still here, I will always have concerns in my heart. Although our small home is warm, when we return to our mother and the old house in the countryside, our feelings are different. The house is simple, but seeing the vibrant vegetables and corns that my mother planted in the yard, seeing her sick and thin body, and seeing her smile makes me feel satisfied, because family love is the final destination of our lives. .
We must all have the same experience and pain as Ji Xianlin and Sa Beining. We also hope that we will still have the opportunity to love our parents well and treat this family relationship well. We can all cherish this emotion and take action to accompany our parents. By your side, let them spend their remaining years peacefully.
We must understand that when our parents are here, our lives have a destination, and family love is the destination of our lives.
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