Do you have friends like this around you? You are not living well and your family is in trouble, but you help your friends time and time again. With selfless help, your friend can live in his house for free for a year and a half. They never pay for rent, water, electricity, or even living expenses themselves. The most important thing is that their friends have lived here for so long without any indication. Everything is so natural, and there are not just one or two such friends. Almost all of his friends Went to stay at their house.
Last Friday afternoon, my friend Jiaojiao came over to play at my house because she had something to do and she was very close to my house. Since we hadn’t seen each other for a long time, we gossiped and chatted together after dinner, and suddenly we talked about the situation at her house. She was worried. She said: "Her husband's friends came over again and they had to live in a house." When their family got married, they bought a small three-bedroom apartment in Pixian County. Not long after they moved into their new home, their world had not been together for long, and her husband had to live in it. My friends said they came to Chengdu to work. Since they had no job and no income, it was difficult to find a house. They went to their husbands and explained the situation. Their husbands were also loyal and allowed the friends to live in their home first, and finally stayed in their home temporarily, saying that they had found a job. Jiaojiao then moved out, and Jiaojiao thought that she would naturally move out when her friend found a job, so she agreed. After all,
is my husband's friend, so it's not easy to gain his face. But two months, three months, four months passed, and I found a job, but I still haven't moved out, and instead, another friend came, I just kept living there. In the first month or two, his husband's friend also offered to pay the rent, but his husband refused because his husband thought that you hadn't found a job yet and didn't have much money, so he wanted to wait for you to find a job. He just moved out without charging his friend's money, and he was considerate of his friend!
Who knows, I have been living like this until now, and I have no intention of moving out. During the period of living again, I said that if I eat with them, I will pay for the living expenses. Everyone is still on the same page. He calculated it and said that your living expenses are too high. , it was too expensive. Jiaojiao’s husband said that if you don’t like the price, just move out. His friend went out to look at the house, and finally thought about it and decided not to move out. He just continued to live in it as a matter of course, occasionally buying groceries. something.
But recently, her husband's friend came to join him again. The original three-bedroom apartment was now full, and two of the rooms were given to friends for free. Jiaojiao had told her husband many times about this, and it was noisy. So many times, her husband just told Jiaojiao that he wanted them to move out, but did not take any concrete action, and ultimately failed.
Jiaojiao said that her husband was so kind-hearted that he treated them as friends and helped them when they were in trouble. Jiaojiao felt like she had raised several sons now, and they paid for all the household expenses. He still has to pay living expenses to his parents every month. This year has been very difficult for them. His job is unstable. His husband's previous company ran away with the payment, and he still owes more than 10,000 yuan in unsettled wages. He has to pay for the mortgage every month. Living expenses, water, electricity, gas, and social security fees are all a big expense.
To be honest, these friends are so unreasonable and don’t understand them at all. They obviously have jobs, but they don’t go out to find jobs and still live for free. They feel so at ease and don’t feel guilty at all. On the contrary, they feel They are at a disadvantage by living here. It is so difficult for Jiaojiao and the others now, but they have not expressed anything at all, saying that they will share some of the rent or water and electricity bills. Even daily necessities are theirs, and they will not share anything that can be shared. Buying it with your own money, the most important thing is that it makes other people's homes smoky and smells of cigarette smoke. They are still trying to get pregnant and have children, but they are exposed to second-hand smoke every day. How dare they want it? How shameless is this friend? I treat you as a friend and know your difficulties to help you, but what about you? Do you really think of them as friends? Don’t even want to be friends like this!
Helping you is out of love, but not helping you is justifiable. They have no obligation to let you eat, drink and live at home for free. In the long run, it will affect other people's lifestyles. Not only will their feelings not increase, but they will also increase their losses. The burden will also affect the relationship between husband and wife.
On the other hand, Jiaojiao’s husband is the same. He has learned from the past. He has a friend who has been living in his house for free for a long time, and he also takes in another friend. This is your little home, not your friend’s shelter. Why do you want to do it again? Helping them endlessly, blindly helping, knowing clearly that it will make your wife unhappy, is really a friend-helping monster, this is really a friend, if you really treat you as a friend, I will not disturb you like this Long.
Jiaojiao is the same, too soft-hearted, everything depends on her husband. It is obviously her own house, she is obviously not happy living with them, she obviously has the right to refuse, but she doesn’t say anything and still lives there reluctantly. At the same time, if the attitude is not tough, in the final analysis, it is her connivance that makes her husband take in his friends again and again. There is nothing wrong with helping friends when they are in trouble, but it is inappropriate for you to not make progress after you have help. There is no reason to help anymore.
Now she is very upset, saying that she doesn’t know how to send them away. Hey, there is a saying that it is easier to ask gods than to send them away! If it were me, I probably wouldn't have such friends. Even if I did, I would definitely not let them in. If they come in and don't leave, I will ask my husband to tell me. If he doesn't tell me, I will take action on my own. Yes, let’s make it clear.
How should you do it?
