As the old saying goes, "The hearts of parents in the world are pitiful."
Song Dynasty Lu You 's parents were very angry when they saw their son being affectionate with his wife Tang Wan all day long. They thought that their son was not doing his job properly and did not study hard to obtain fame. For this reason, the mother was determined to force her son to divorce. Although Lu You was divorced, he cared about Tang Wan all his life, and from time to time he wrote some poems to express his thoughts, which led to the famous " The Hairpin Head Phoenix ".
In fact, since ancient times, parents have felt that everything they do is for their children. However, they do not know that some decisions seem to be for their children, but in fact they harm them. Today I will talk about a modern case. A Hunan girl went home to get married. Unexpectedly, this was a trap set by her parents.
Ten years of youth, the most youthful time
came to the spring of 2004. Lily, a girl from a village in Hunan, and Awei from the next village met because of a wedding banquet. Awei is handsome, sunny and positive, while Lily is beautiful, generous and kind-hearted. The two are gradually attracted to each other and finally establish a relationship.
It is a very beautiful thing for two young people to fall in love in their best years. However, after a year of getting along, the parents of both parties gave their own opinions.
Lily is the only daughter in the family. Her parents are healthy and her family is happy, but Ah Wei's family situation is very special.
Ah Wei is also an only child, but his mother is bedridden, and his grandmother also has mental illness. The most terrible thing is that his aunt has no one to take care of her since she became hemiplegic, so she also lives in Ah Wei's home. In other words, if Lily gets married, she will no longer be faced with the relationship between us when we were passionately in love before. Instead, Ah Wei will have to go out to make money to support the family, and Lily will stay to take care of a room full of patients.
In fact, Ah Wei had told Lily about the situation at home a long time ago. Lily didn't care about it. She felt that as long as two people love each other, there is no difficulty that cannot be overcome.
However, Lily's parents immediately opposed it after learning about the situation.
The old couple had worked so hard to raise their daughter, and they usually held it in their hands. How could they now go to someone else's house to be a mother-in-law? Therefore, after both parties met their parents, Lily's parents refused to allow them to continue. Especially her mother, who tried her best to persuade Lily that she had been carried away by love and that it would be too late to regret it when she was exhausted.
Since ancient times, parents have generally made the final decision on their children’s marriage. Even in today’s society, this custom still remains in some rural areas. Indeed, what parent doesn’t want their daughter to have a good marriage? After all, they have lived for most of their lives, have seen and heard a lot, and their attitude towards marriage has changed from the initial longing to the later daily necessities.
Therefore, parents always want to use their own experience to warn their children how to choose marriage, and they even do not hesitate to beat the couple.
Ah Wei's father naturally didn't force him when he saw the other party's attitude. He secretly persuaded his son not to have any wishful thinking. How could Lily marry into a family like theirs with such good conditions?
However, Lily has a stubborn temper. She doesn't care what her parents say, she just wants to marry Awei. Lily's strong resistance finally ushered in a desperate counterattack by her parents. In order to prevent their daughter from jumping into the fire pit , her parents locked their daughter in the house for three months.
Lily is a smart girl. Seeing that her resistance is fruitless, she changes her strategy and pretends to show that she is willing to cut off contact with Awei. In fact, she plans to steal her household registration book and elope with Awei.
Sure enough, the parents were fooled.
Lily, who was free, immediately found Ah Wei and told her the plan. Although Ah Wei hesitated, he still agreed. So the two decided to meet at the County Civil Affairs Bureau the next day and then go work elsewhere. After they have children, they will come back, so Lily's parents will have no chance to object.
However, Lily did not know that everything they did was under the control of Lily's parents.
The next day Lily did not wait for Ah Wei, but instead waited for He Fu, who had played with her since childhood.
He has been away for five years, but he has been waiting for the news of his death.
He Fu is the son of a neighbor and has played with Lily since he was a child. During the relationship between Lily and Awei, Lily introduced He Fu to Awei and they played together when they had nothing to do.
Now I didn’t see Ah Wei, but He Fu came. Lily was very surprised and asked: "Why are you here?"
He Fu immediately replied: "A Wei told you that you were going to work elsewhere, and I also I wanted to go. But today he said he had something to do, and he was afraid that your parents would find out if he called you on your phone, so he told me and asked me to go with you first, and he would come to us after he finished the work."
Lily didn't believe it, and immediately. He took out his cell phone and dialed Ah Wei's number. Sure enough, Ah Wei on the other end of the phone gave a positive answer and said that he would go over after finishing his work.
In this case, now we can only leave with He Fu first. The two of them boarded the train to Guangzhou.
After arriving in Guangzhou, Lily kept urging Awei, but Awei always delayed for various reasons. Five years passed in a flash, and Ah Wei either said that his grandma passed away, or that his father was sick and couldn't leave.
In fact, Lily also knew in her heart that it was unrealistic for Awei to leave a whole family of patients behind and come to Guangzhou. But even if you don't come, you still have to give an attitude. html In the past 45 years, it was Lily who took the initiative to contact Ah Wei, and she would hang up the phone every time before she could say more than two sentences. She gradually felt that Awei had betrayed their love.
On the contrary, He Fu, who was around her, was very considerate to her, asking for her every day. He also said that he loved to spend money randomly and gave all his wages to her for safekeeping. Especially when he was sick, He Fu was always by his side. This made Lily feel grateful and happy.
Later, He Fu confessed to her that after five years of getting along, Lily was warmed up by even a stone. Finally, Lily agreed to He Fu's request and agreed to go home and get married with him. However, Ah Wei was still lingering in her heart, so after Lily returned home, she wanted to see Ah Wei again.
Unexpectedly, his parents told him that Ah Wei had passed away due to an accident a few months ago.
Poor parents, set a trap
Lily was very excited when she heard the news. She couldn't believe her ears and immediately asked what happened. It turns out that Ah Wei worked several jobs to earn money for his mother's medical treatment. Due to lack of sleep, he dozed off at work and caused an accident.
Lily couldn't believe it and immediately came to Awei's home. However, Ah Wei's father gave a definite answer. Lily was in a trance. She felt that it was her fault. If she could face difficulties with Ah Wei back then, she would not have such an ending.
At this moment, Awei's friend Li Hong happened to pass by. He saw Lily and cursed, saying that Lily still had the nerve to come back.
Lily didn't know why, so Li Hong told the whole story.
It turned out that Awei was indeed planning to elope with Lily, so Awei found some friends such as Li Hong and He Fu to explain it because there were three patients at home and he hoped they would help take care of them in the future. Li Hong agreed without saying a word, but He Fu turned around and told Lily's parents.
It turns out that He Fu had a crush on Lily for a long time. He didn't want Lily to go with another man, so he chose to tell the truth. For this reason, Lily's parents found Awei's family and threatened their lives. Ah Wei had no choice but to submit. After this incident, her parents felt that He Fu was good. They had watched her grow up since she was a child, and they were also sincerely good to their daughter.
So Lily’s parents together with He Fu set a trap and let He Fu replace Ah Wei.
In fact, after Lily left, Ah Wei's family situation improved. Grandma passed away the next year, and her aunt was taken away by her son. But even so, Ah Wei felt like he had lost his soul because he missed Lily. He was listless all day long. He had an accident a few months ago because he was distracted.
In other words, Ah Wei's death was all caused by He Fu and Lily.
The style of painting suddenly changed, and Lily passed away.
After hearing this, Lily immediately returned home to break off the engagement.However, she looked much older and her parents apologized and knelt down. Lily couldn't bear it and finally married He Fu.
Lily got married, and the big stone in her parents' hearts was finally relieved. However, what happened next completely exceeded their expectations.
After getting married, He Fu seemed to be a different person. Whenever he saw another man talking to Lily, he would have a fit and eventually even take action. The most serious one directly broke two of Lily's ribs.
Lily had a stubborn temper. She knew that everything today was caused by her parents, so she gritted her teeth and never told her parents until she couldn't bear it anymore. She drank a bottle of paraquat and passed away.
It can be said that Lily used death to prove the wrong choice of her parents.
Lily's parents never dreamed that it would end like this. However, it was useless for them to regret and break their intestines at this time. If they had not set up a trap to beat the mandarin ducks, Awei would not have died, and his daughter would not have died of anger.
What’s the point of talking about this now?
Profound thoughts, worth savoring
Such tragedies are not uncommon in Chinese history. For example, Lu You, who I mentioned before, failed to succeed in the imperial examination after she and her wife divorced. Without Wanrong's bond at this time, her parents could only stare blankly as they could find no other reason. On the contrary, Lu You missed Wanrong all his life, and he did not forget to write a poem to express his regrets until he closed his eyes.
Lu You's tragedy is that his parents hope that Lu You can pass the scientific examination and shine on his family. Lily's tragedy is that her parents don't want themselves and their daughter to be dragged down by their son-in-law's family.
Actually, looking at this issue from another angle, the reason why parents interfere unscrupulously in their children's marriage is simply because marriage is a derivative of parents' interests, and parents hope to exchange the happiness of their children for the interests of the family.
Even though today's society advocates freedom of marriage, the constraints of money and status still exist.
So Lily’s parents had a typical arranged marriage, and because of the strong public pressure on women in ancient times, this kind of marriage was relatively stable. But in today's society, it is difficult to maintain harmony, which will cause a series of social problems.
In fact, if Lily's parents respect their daughter's choice, even if her daughter does not have a good life in the future, they can at least help her behind the scenes. Because the arranged marriage involved a trap previously set by her parents, the daughter refused to talk about her sufferings and ultimately chose to use death to prove her parents' ignorance.
This is indeed sad.
Reference: "The Biography of Lu You"
