If you want a woman to be unable to live without you, most men’s subconscious behavior is to throw money at her!
In fact, this method is like " licking the dog" , and it cannot prevent a woman from leaving.
Is the world’s richest man “Bill Gates” rich enough? His wife eventually chose to divorce him.
Psychologists have conducted surveys on couples who have been together for more than 7 years. found that many people will suffer from "emotional fatigue"
This kind of emotional "disease", if not treated, will often lead to the collapse of marriages.
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Psychologists have discovered through some happy and long-term marriage relationships that there is more or less the "abandoned cat effect" in these relationships!
What is the "abandoned cat effect"?
The abandoned cat effect is about a cat that originally lived in a warm family, and its owner was very kind to it. It often gets angry at its owner unscrupulously.
Once it was abandoned by its original owner, it was allowed to survive in the wild for a period of time. was later adopted by a kind person.
It will be completely different from the original cat. Basically, it will behave better and more sensible than before. The fundamental reason for
is that it is afraid of being abandoned again!
This effect is the same in a long-term relationship.
If you have been giving unconditionally to a woman, being obedient, and experiencing the "hints" of the years.
She will only get used to your efforts, and will often take your efforts for granted, and criticize you for occasionally not doing as well as before.
Because she has already "labeled" you in her heart, believes that you can only be nice to her and cannot ask for anything from her.
But if your kindness to her becomes erratic and occasional "surprises", it will make her value you more.
If you still treat her wholeheartedly from time to time, appropriately express "dissatisfaction".
will also boldly choose to "let go" when she is unreasonable and arrogant.
On the contrary, it will arouse her attention and make her afraid that you will leave her, because she has become accustomed to your kindness.
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Reasonable application of the "abandoned cat effect" is a "coup" to keep your relationship evergreen.
When your enthusiasm does not get feedback from her, or she slowly doesn't care about your enthusiasm.
Then you need to control your behavior, reduce the frequency of contact, or not contact her temporarily.
Improve yourself, make more friends, exercise more, and make more money.
Let your life be enriched and don’t revolve around one woman.
Show her your new life inadvertently from time to time.
Let her not see through you, but also let her know that she is not your only choice and realize how good you are.
Only in this way will your weight in her heart increase.
This will let her know how to cherish you and value you.
Colleagues Xiao Liu and Dadong originally had a happy marriage, maybe because their lives were too dull.
Xiao Liu gradually got tired of this kind of life, began to yearn for the colorful life outside.
With such thoughts, no matter how good Dadong is to her, he will never be able to please her again.
The more this happened, the more panicked Dadong became, and the more he worried about Xiao Liu leaving him, and began to treat her well without any bottom line.
Unexpectedly, Dadong's behavior made Xiao Liu look down on him even more, and his desire to leave him became stronger and stronger.
In the end, Xiao Liu could not stay, and the marriage came to an end.
After Xiao Liu got divorced, after hanging out with those men for a while, those men gradually stopped coming out.
When she wanted to stabilize and reveal her desire to get married, these men suddenly disappeared without a trace.
At this time, Xiao Liu realized how good Dadong was to her and wanted to return to Dadong.
But when she found Dadong, Dadong had already found the other half who cherished him.
Xiao Liu had to make do with marrying a man whom he had previously despised. But in life, he was much better to him than Dadong.
Dadong used to be so kind to her, but she dismissed him. After going through some things, she was obedient to a person who she didn't like before.
This is the sequelae of the "abandoned cat effect".
So, when there is a relationship problem, the two of you have to think about how to solve it. Don't try your best to keep her, be good to her.
Such behavior will only speed up the other party's departure. Let go appropriately and make the other party feel ignored.
Of course, everything has two sides. If it is overused, it may go in the opposite direction, and the gain will outweigh the loss.
Real feelings need to be managed carefully. Only by using some means appropriately can love heat up and make the other person cherish you more.
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