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Author | Yang Xiaomi Editor | Xiaochen
Source | When I met Xiaomi (ID: yujianxiaomi2015)
I gave birth to a child. Within 3 months of disappearing, my good friend Mr. Xiao Li gave it to me. Surprise, in a short period of time, love has been updated twice.
(About Mr. Xiao Li’s love story series, I have updated 4 articles. If you are interested, you can click on the collection # Mr. Xiao Li’s Love Story# to take a look)
In order to gossip about his latest love story, I took advantage of the afternoon, Qiuqiu After sleeping, I ran out to have afternoon tea with him, took my computer and came back with a bunch of gossip, hahaha.
01
He had a girlfriend, whom I knew, and we were all friends. suddenly asked him to borrow 20,000 yuan, saying that he would pay it back after his salary was paid next month.
His first reaction was to call the other party to see if it was sent by him. It was not a scam. It was definitely sent by the other party.
Then, he asked why he borrowed money? Is a family member sick and in urgent need of money? Neither is
, so what’s the reason?
The other party didn’t say the specific reason, but he said he was in a hurry and wanted to make some changes. Mr. Li did not answer the call and said that the money will not come out until next Wednesday. Can you wait?
This is an obvious rejection. Mr. Li must have 20,000 yuan on hand.
has already talked about this, and the other party said forget it and ask other friends.
Xiao Li always said that it is not a question of 20,000 yuan, but a question of whether to borrow or not.
His main purpose is to confirm first whether the other party's family members are sick. If he is in a hurry to pay a hospitalization fee and really doesn't have enough money and needs time to transfer it out, he will definitely borrow it at this time.
As for the other party, he didn't say anything, so he would have some other guesses.
Because we are in our 30s, we may be short of 200,000 yuan, but it is unlikely that we will not be able to get even 20,000 yuan. Credit cards and other channels can turn over 20,000 yuan no matter what.
Someone who borrows 20,000 yuan is very suspicious. It is very likely that for some reason, he has fallen into a financial crisis and cannot borrow money.
Not even a day had passed since his ex-girlfriend borrowed money. Another girl, whom he had known for only a few days, asked him to borrow 20,000 yuan. He saw it and deliberately did not reply. After a day, he did not reply. He had already been I deleted my friend, hahaha.
▲ Another girl he knew asked him to borrow 20,000 yuan
I don’t know where he met so many girls, but they couldn’t escape one keyword: money.
02
He also just met a girl who works in finance. The two of them have a common language about investment. Then, the other party told him a story and shared it with everyone. It was quite fun.
This girl said that she used to be a second-generation rich man. A few years ago, her family went bankrupt and she owed a lot of money. That year, her brother went to study abroad and she sold her house in Qingpu, Shanghai. , for him to study and to pay off the family's debts.
But this house didn’t have much money, 5 million, which couldn’t cover such a big patch. It was really hard during that time.
Now that her brother has graduated and is alone in New Zealand , she doesn't need to take care of him anymore. But she still has to continue to lighten the burden on her family.
then sent a screenshot of the loan, which was about more than 70,000 yuan, saying that there is no shortage of this money now, but he will not pay off the money at once, and he has to remember the life of many debt collection calls every day.
Finally, I emphasized that what I said above is not false at all, saying that I "will not lie to others, nor will I lie to others."
Mr. Li asked why his family went bankrupt? The other party said that he started as a cable factory and later became a hotel. The capital chain was broken and the hotel failed.
After listening to this story, my first reaction was that it was quite inspiring.But a few years ago, if a house in Qingpu could be sold for 5 million, why would it be a large flat? Why would you buy a house in such a remote place?
Mr. Li also had the same doubts as me. He did not ask this question, but he doubted the authenticity.
Their relationship developed very quickly. Xiao Li always said that they walked together in the first week, and went to a hotel to book a room in the second week. Then the above story came about. He felt that 5 million was the only number in this story. What do you think? They all looked like quotes, which made him uncomfortable.
Mr. Li judged that the other party’s words were full of water. The person born in 1996 is unlikely to be a rich second generation, because at this age, her younger brother went abroad to study. According to the growing environment she described, most of them went to international schools. The children who went to such schools generally had good English, and obviously I feel like she doesn't understand English very well.
He lamented that apart from the above story, being a girlfriend was pretty good, and the two of them had a lot in common on investment.
I asked a question, how do you know it?
Mr. Li met this girl when he was practicing golf in June last year. At that time, the girl was in membership sales, and later moved to the financial circle.
Xiao Li always feels that her two jobs are quite interesting, either directly contacting money or directly contacting rich people.
The so-called stock insider information she provided to Mr. Li was valid. Mr. Li judged that it was not necessarily obtained at work. Maybe she had a boyfriend who was engaged in this business and took her to do it casually. No. A serious trader who relies on himself.
Because of the story this girl told Mr. Li, the relationship came to nothing.
03
I have written several love stories of Mr. Xiao Li. Have you found a common point? The patterns are similar.
The girls around him all hope to change their destiny through men, or make some money from a short relationship, and Xiao Li always becomes a fish in their pond.
But this time I found that he has made progress. He used to deceive himself and others to find true love, but now he can't.
I really feel that Xiao Li never does serious things. The girlfriends he has are basically the same type: girls who want to take shortcuts.
is either a sales girl at a luxury store, or someone he met while sailing on a yacht in Sanya. There are also models, internet celebrity anchors, and golf membership salesmen...
They all want to develop a relationship with him. , behind "emotion", there is the fragrance of money.
I have no bias against careers. I also know many staff from the stores I frequently go to. Many professional sales of luxury goods are all about serving customers well, improving performance, and delivering goods in time for normal activities.
But Mr. Li... But speaking of it, people can stare at him like that, and they may also stare at other customers. I think this in itself is problematic.
The city of Shanghai is known as the Magic City. There are really many temptations. Coupled with the current Internet, we can see the lives of many so-called rich people. Many people mistakenly think that I can live like that.
Then, many girls want to find a rich man to change their fate.
To be honest, rich men are not very good at it now. They just have a group of people around them staring at them, and they seem to enjoy it.
Objectively speaking, there are many rich second generations. It is really not difficult to spend tens of thousands of dollars to buy a bag, eat and play together.
But if you ask him to spend millions, his father will break his legs.
The rich second generation may be stupid, but their parents are smart people, otherwise they would not be rich.
Just like Mr. Li, as a rich second generation, it is difficult to get money from his parents.
He has done well in his own business and has suffered losses before, but now he is very vigilant and will just spend a small amount of money. If he has a big appetite, he will quickly share it.
Have the fate of these girls who only choose rich men to date changed? not easy.
First of all, the success rate is low.In a short-term relationship, you may want to make some money, but you won't be able to save the money. It is very difficult to maintain beauty, medical beauty , buying bags and clothes are all big expenses. Some money was squandered.
During this process, I also lost my sense of normalcy and my ability to make money steadily by myself step by step.
Xiao Li and I always said that I am bored listening to the stories of your girlfriends.
He feels the same way himself, but he is completely convinced and cannot do it at the moment, so he will just mess around for now.
I want to say, There are shortcuts to many things in life, but it does not include one thing, which is that you cannot stand on your own and hope to change your destiny by relying on others.
Anyway, from what I heard, some people may get married successfully, but it may not always be good. Especially with the economic situation in recent years, there is no telling when they will go bankrupt.
Instead of focusing on finding a man you can rely on, it is better to become a person you can rely on.
Yang Xiaomi: Founder of self-media [Meet Xiaomi], author of the book "Monetization from Action", a Shandong native with a psychology degree, settled in Shanghai, went from ordinary employee to marketing director, and started a business in 3 years, sharing workplace experience and Growth Story
