Text | Ms. Bai
"Zengguang Xianwen" has a saying: When you meet someone, you can only say a few words, but you can't give them all your heart.
When interacting with people, no matter how close or distant they are, you should pay special attention to what you say.
There are three sentences like this. You should not say them out no matter what.
If it is full of negative energy,
life will inevitably be dissatisfied.
When we encounter difficulties, it is human nature to feel unhappy and want to complain.
But these words can only be vented a few times when you are alone. If you really can’t help it, the most you can do is complain to your family.
If we talk about it further, it is really unnecessary.
We all know what happened to Mrs. Xianglin. At the beginning, people around her still had a little sympathy for her, but she kept repeating those few words over and over again, and over time, people got tired of her.
When dealing with people, remember not to say words full of negative energy.
The joys and sorrows between people are often incompatible. Instead of getting sympathy from others, your experience will probably only attract disgust.
The world of adults is not easy. When you encounter difficulties, just chew it and swallow it yourself. There is no need to tell outsiders repeatedly.
Because no one wants to be with a person who is full of negative energy all day long.
Showing off one’s own words too much
People with great wisdom all know one truth, that is, be low-key in life and do things in high-key.
There is an old saying: "The trees are beautiful in the forest, but the wind will destroy them." If a person is too outstanding, he will inevitably cause some unnecessary trouble.
Therefore, it is better to be as low-key as possible when interacting with others.
Don’t show off your little achievements everywhere.
The harder you brag about yourself, the more others will envy you and hate you.
As time goes by, you will find that the people around you are getting further and further away from you. No one will be willing to sincerely help you anymore. Everyone is impatiently waiting for you to overturn.
The relationship between people is so realistic.
If you want to get along well with others, you should learn to be modest and prudent, talk less and do more.
Nothing is worth showing off everywhere, just live your life well.
Gossip about others
If a person wants not to be disliked by others, he must not go around gossiping about others.
People who like to gossip usually will not end well.
But there are a lot of people who like to listen to the wind and rain. They heard some gossip from somewhere and started to add fuel to the fire and spread it everywhere.
What these people like to discuss most is other people’s private lives, such as the discord between husband and wife of a certain family, the unfilial children of a certain family, the debts of a certain family...
In short, they can talk about things that do not exist at all. And he is convinced of it.
They are often proud of this. They feel that they are well-informed and everyone must love to interact with them.
But the reality is that there may be people who like to join in the fun and listen to these gossips, but everyone knows very well in their hearts that such people cannot have deep friendship at all because they don’t have a few truths in their mouths.People like
will eventually be isolated by everyone.
As the saying goes, disaster comes from the mouth.
If you want to have a good interpersonal relationship, you must understand that there are some things that really cannot be said.
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