I have wine and tea. If you have stories, come to me.
Click "Follow" above and you will be mine.
Molière " Hypocrite ": "The person whose behavior is the most ridiculous is always the first to say bad things about others. "
Everyone loves face, but the degree of love for face is different. Some people can manage themselves well and only care about face under certain circumstances; while some people live for face all the time and care about face everywhere.
The more face-conscious a person is, the more shackles he will bear. They either care too much about other people's opinions and dare not do certain things; or after making a mistake, they make excuses for the sake of face and try their best to excuse themselves, trying to blame all their mistakes on others.
Perhaps you have loved someone who never admits that he has a problem, as if he is a perfect person. In fact, no one is perfect, he cannot be perfect. It is not difficult to infer that he is an incompetent person, and the superiority he expressed for the sake of face is just a cowardly performance to excuse himself and want to escape punishment.
Falling in love with such a person is upsetting enough. If his family is also the same as him, you definitely should not marry him, otherwise you will be surrounded by a group of hypocrites and destined to be isolated and helpless. The reader below has had such an emotional experience.
Letters from readers:
I didn’t want to make marriage like a transaction, but my marriage partner didn’t cooperate, so I had no choice but to bargain.
When he questioned me, he said all the sweet words and offered many attractive conditions. He also said that these conditions were the sincerity of his love for me: "I am only so generous to you in this life, which is enough to prove that I have both." Love you so much.”
As a woman, who doesn’t have a little love brain? Who doesn’t want to be loved more? When such a person appears in front of me, who is far higher than my standard for choosing a mate, I naturally feel that I am lucky and that I am destined.
However, it is in line with the old saying: " A man's mouth is a liar! In order to get a woman, a man can say any shameless thing. As for whether he will fulfill it, it depends on his mood. "
Chase This is the case with my man. After we get together, he always feels superior, as if he has fulfilled the conditions he set out. He thinks that since I have received his favor, I should obey him absolutely.
No matter if he said something wrong or did something wrong, he would never apologize to me. He would make me cry every time and give me a cold war every time. And if I made a mistake, he would like to hit me directly. A thousand words, until it made me cry and apologize.
Many people don’t understand why I don’t break up with him. It’s actually very simple, because I still fantasize about waiting for him to fulfill the attractive conditions he proposed. Of course, those conditions are only attractive to me, and may not be attractive to others, because they are all very common conditions, such as buying a house or a car.
I, who have never seen the world, thought too one-sidedly and thought that as long as he fulfilled his conditions, I would become a happy woman.
Sadly, when it was finally time to talk about marriage, he changed his mind. Although he was not the first to change his mind, it was his mother who changed her mind on his behalf, but the nature was the same, which not only proved that he was not a good person, but that their whole family was not a good person.
My mother-in-law not only did not agree to buy a house or a car, but she also asked me to buy a house or a car. She also said that she would not give me a bride price. The reason was: "There are many women who want to marry my son, and they are all 10,000 yuan better than you. Times! If you don’t do what I ask, go back to your parents’ house as soon as possible and don’t delay my son’s marriage to someone else! ”
When I asked him, he said that his mother had the final say and he couldn’t make the decision. Forgot to add something humiliating: "My mother is right, you are indeed terrible.If you, the poor one, want to surpass me, who is excellent, you must make sacrifices, otherwise it will be too easy for you! "
After being slapped hard in the face by reality, my dream was shattered. I didn't expect that after enduring it for so long, I got nothing in the end. I had to feel sorry for myself and had to ask myself to give up completely and not to be a piece of trash again. What a waste of youth.
When he came to see me again later, he did not admit his mistake and apologize at all, but still had a sense of superiority: "My mother agreed to buy a house, are you satisfied? Can you stop being a monster? "
I had already decided to give up. He said such irritating words, and of course I couldn't turn back. Now when I look at him and his family, I really feel that they are all incompetent people. Incompetent people. The more overwhelming the sense of superiority, the more uncomfortable it is, because given their conditions, they are not worthy of speaking out.
Donglin Xiting Emotional suggestions:
When people are confident, they will have a sense of superiority. It is a normal thing.
However, it is normal to have a sense of superiority based on a reasonable basis. If a person's sense of superiority far exceeds his own conditions, it means that the person has no self-awareness. , and he must be an incompetent person who has no clear positioning for himself.
Whether you choose love or marriage, you should stay away from such a person, because he can never really make you happy. The specific problem is like. The reader said that he always thinks he is great. If you are wrong, he will pursue you fiercely. If he is wrong, he will always bite you. Can you stand it?
No matter how many tempting offers such a person offers? , you should not be gullible, because the purpose of their tempting conditions is to give them nothing. They do not really want you to be happy, but they want you to bring him happiness. If love does not go in both directions, make it happen. Why use ?
The problem encountered by the reader is no longer a matter of "something needs to be discussed", because the attitude of the man and his family is clearly not to accept discussion. Although the man later pretended to compromise, based on his words. Judging from the tone, it is no different from "I will deal with you after marriage."
As long as a woman is not desperate, she should not be forced to marry this kind of person. Even if she is desperate, it is better to be single than to marry this kind of person. To make you happier than when you were single, there is no need to start .
