Preface:
In terms of sex, men are forever more mature than women. Maybe this idea is colorful, or maybe he is empty. But both men and women have needs in this regard. It does not mean that they have such an idea, that is, it is unsightly.
The famous scientist Mr. Simov from Oxford University in the United Kingdom once wrote a very best-selling book. The title of the book is "What is in a man's mind besides sex?" ", Mr. Simov said, this book will reveal the true thoughts of men.
When this book was easy to sell at that time, it gathered a lot of popularity. Most people bought this book with curiosity. The most surprising thing is that the best-selling level of this book once surpassed other popular books such as " Harry Potter ".
Even so, when this book was bought back, many people didn't think of it. The more than two hundred pages in the book are actually blank, which can also be understood as a book with no words.
When I bought this book, many readers thought that Mr. Simov's actions were implying? Are men so hollow in nature except for their sex lives? Are men's hearts and souls really that unbearable?
So today we also take this curiosity to see how other psychologists view this problem?
1. Mr. Freud’s view
Sigmund Freud In the Freud's theory of sex, it is mentioned His central idea is that each individual being in action,The ultimate motivation is actually an inner instinct. This instinct is defined as "sexual instinct" for the time being, but it can also be called "libido".
Of course, we have to clarify that this motivational instinct has nothing to do with the age of the individual. Even a newborn child will still have this instinct.
So after this, Mr. Freud also made further analysis and investigation based on this view. He tried to conduct an in-depth analysis of each individual's instinct by adopting free association and related technical means.
The conclusion of the study is that an individual’s sexual awareness will rise during adolescence and will reach a peak. When encountering the opposite sex, it will also have affection, and men will also be on this basis. The opposite sex establishes a certain mentality of association.
This is the result of research on adults. Of course, Mr. Freud put this sexual view on babies, but it has not been recognized by other psychologists, and it has even been opposed by many parents.
2. Analyze from the perspective of evolutionary psychology
Analyze from the perspective of evolutionary psychology. When some teams are studying individual development, they found that this research proposition has two Concepts, one emphasizes the concept of "survival", and the other emphasizes the concept of "reproduction", which is also the law of "survival of the fittest" often mentioned in nature today.
Here we can solve a simple example;
When two individuals want to establish a certain stable relationship, they will find a more suitable living environment for themselves. In addition, when two individuals are suitable for each other before, they will develop into a partnership, which is also for their offspring to live a better life.
Here we can emphasize that reproduction is to pass on one's own good genes through the next generation, and also to allow one's own family to have a better life continuity.
Everyone knows that there are many differences in the relationship between the sexes, whether it is personality or physiology.Therefore, there are also big ideas and concepts about the ideas and concepts of the two sexes reproducing the next generation.
For men, reproducing offspring is a major event in life, and they prefer to reproduce as many offspring as possible and let their families spread out, but women don’t think so.
3. Individual preference behavior
After reading our analysis in the previous two paragraphs, we can’t see that in human society, this view does not actually have much meaning. But more tend to be more behaviors.
are like men in society. In order to ensure the quantity and quality of reproductive offspring, they tend to pay more attention to the diversity of sex life, and naturally they will not be picky about the object of sex life.
But in women’s psychology, they don’t think so, because it is an extremely important thing for women to reproduce offspring. Coupled with the longer female reproductive cycle, they will love their offspring even more.
In order for the offspring to grow up in a comprehensive and healthy manner, they will pay more attention to whether the other half is dedicated and responsible when choosing the other half. In fact, this kind of psychology and viewpoint are in line with our traditional thinking since ancient times.
Concluding remarks:
As the old saying goes, “a man chooses his wife depends on his appearance, while a woman chooses his husband depends on his wallet.” This is a good proof that women are destined to control the financial power of the family. There will not be too many changes in many times.
Of course, men are not only occupied by sex. They also have a variety of social roles to perform. Not only husbands, but also fathers, sons, grandchildren, etc., so "sex" is free There is no "love", they have a complementary relationship.
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reference material|Journal of consulting and clinical psychology
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