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Shakespeare once said: unsatisfactory marriage is like a hell, a life-long struggle. On the contrary, if you choose a spouse that you want, you can be harmonious and happy for a hundred years.
One of the inevitable reasons for passing the test of love but rebirth in marriage is that many people treat love and marriage as homogenization and regard marriage as an extension of love.
With extremely high beliefs, after entering the married life, I discovered that love is not all of marriage, it is just the glue between two strange men and women who can run a family together.
The real marriage is based on this, sharing responsibility and pressure together, and becoming the helmsman on a boat that needs to work closely together.
Whether a married life is happy or not is determined not only by money and the length of time spent with each other, but also emotionally rushing to each other. A long-term marriage must not be a unilateral effort, but the sincere agreement of two people to achieve a common Emotion goal.
A two-way marriage will not chill anyone's heart
Some people say on the Internet that feelings are mutual, not unilateral. No matter how deep the feeling is, it will be exhausted by little disappointment.
is like two hedgehogs approaching each other to warm each other, one of them reveals a soft abdomen without reservation, the other asks for temperature, but always curls up,Stabbed the other party with blood dripping.
It has been painful for a long time, and the person who always pays will inevitably leave first.
If you rush to each other in a marriage, your partners can feel the same warmth from each other, and at the same time you pay, you will get your partner, caring meticulously, and it will be easier to cherish the tenderness of the moment and never leave.
Just like the marriage of an aunt and an uncle, the aunt is a full-time mother at home, and the uncle is responsible for making money and supporting the family. My aunt knows my uncle’s exhaustion. I try my best to take care of the rear of the family. I learn to make good food and change the way to nurse my uncle.
My uncle never accepts it. In life, reduce the fatigue of my aunt.
Now that the two have been married for more than 30 years, getting along is still as close as they were when they were young. It is precisely because you can feel love from the other person that you are willing to give more love and give your partner an eager response.
Two-way marriage requires mutual accommodation
There are no two people in this world who are perfectly suitable, only two hearts that accommodate each other.
If there are contradictions and quarrels in the process of getting along, adopt the posture of needlepoint to the wheat mang and refuse to give up to each other, and quarrels become inevitable.
If you are constantly arguing with your partner over trivial things and refuse to give in, you will not only chill your partner's heart over time, but you will also find it exhausting to get along with your partner who often quarrels.
No matter how good a marriage is, there will be 100 divorce thoughts and 50 impulses to choke each other in a lifetime.
A long-lasting marriage means that you can choose to retreat when thoughts and impulses occur. When you think that your partner is your beloved, you should lower your posture. You don't have to argue about right or wrong in everything.
Some people might say that if the husband and wife stand on opposite sides of the same thing,So who should make accommodation? The best answer is, whoever has the least impact on doing something, chooses to compromise.
My husband and I often argue because of the misplacement of things. He thinks that I disregard his feelings and throw things casually because he doesn't love him, and I think he can't accept me misplaced things, because he doesn't love me.
But if I randomly put it around, it will make him feel bad, and if I take the initiative to clean up, it is no big deal, so I chose to give in.
A two-way marriage is easier to last.
Love needs a two-way journey, especially marriage.
However, many men do not understand this truth. In the early days of love, they are accommodating to their partners in every possible way, obedient to everything, and their temperament changes greatly after marriage. They think that the relationship between two people is stable, and there is no need to be careful and take care of each other's feelings.
Some people say that in a relationship, women will love deeper and deeper, while men will gradually become unloved. In the end, a marriage that seemed to have a good outcome ends in a breakup. The reason is that many men If you don’t realize the importance of running a marriage, you think you will get it for a long time.
Everyone needs to understand that running a marriage is like starting a business on your own. However, it is not advisable to have the mentality of opportunism and thinking that you will gain without paying.
Marriage needs to go both ways, and both can ask their partners for each other, but if you want to harvest and don't want to pay, it is not only a paradox, but also hard to get.
Two-way marriage can last, just like Qian Zhongshu and Yang Jiang, Qian Zhongshu is not good at housework, even though Yang Jiang is also a ten-finger lady who does not touch Yang Chunshui, she can Willing to do things that are not good for the lover.
In Qian Zhongshu's heart, Yang Jiang is the most wise wife and the most talented woman. After meeting him, he never wants to live with others.
From blue silk to white hair,It is the most extreme expectation of many people for marriage. The best way to realize their beautiful expectation is to be able to go both ways when getting along.
In the process of getting along, I don’t care about who pays more and who pays less. As long as the partner does something in the marriage, remember to be grateful.
Let love be the background color of marriage, let mutual understanding, mutual tolerance, and mutual rush to become the main theme of life.
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What do you think is the key to a long marriage?
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