Although we often say that marriage is a matter of two people, it is impossible to avoid the parents of both parties after getting married. It is precisely because of this that we often talk about the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, helping brother demon, and phoenix man. There are also many elders who are unclear about themselves, and they always like to give pointers on the marriage of younger generations.
In a marriage, besides the feelings of the spouses, the most troublesome thing may be the intervention and intervention of the elders who think they are coming over, but some elders may be kind and care about their marital status. Some elders may be just for profit, what do they want from their children's marriage?
This situation often happens to eccentric parents. When the child is not married, they may often ask the child for it. When the child gets married, they will not only fail to converge, but may also Will intensify. Because in their hearts, two people can give more, but they never thought about whether they, as parents, would have an impact on their children's marriage.
Netizen Cheng Yi has a pair of eccentric parents, especially Cheng Yi’s mother, and he has been educated by his parents since he was a child, letting his younger brother help his younger brother, but after marriage, his parents are more and more Too much, even treating Cheng Yi's wife as the object of claim, and in the end they also ruined Cheng Yi's marriage. Let's take a look at his story.
Unwilling to pay when we get married
since childhoodBecause his parents were busy when he was born, Cheng Yi grew up with his grandparents until he was ten years old.
Later, when his parents had a fixed working place, they also settled down at the home, and only then took him over at the urging of his grandparents. At this time, Cheng Yi's brother was already seven years old. Because his brother had been with his parents since he was a child, his parents obviously loved him more.
Actually, Cheng Yi didn't care, because although Cheng Yi had longed for the love of his parents before, as time went by, this desire faded. In addition, he often helps with the two old people, so Cheng Yi is very independent and sensible.
Cheng Yi's parents are very satisfied with such an elder son, and even give him the younger son with confidence, so Cheng Yi needs to take care of his younger brother since he was in junior high school. Although Cheng Yi's family is not very wealthy, Cheng Yi's parents love his brother very much, causing his brother to be a little willful and sometimes bully Cheng Yi.
Later, when the parents found that the grades of the elder son and the younger son were too different, they often asked Cheng Yi to tutor his younger brother. It was also from this time that Cheng Yi had his younger brother in his heart. This idea of responsibilities is actually nothing more than self-comfort in the differential treatment of parents.
Later, Cheng Yi was admitted to a pretty good university, and met his current girlfriend Xu Ran at the school. The two have a stable relationship, so they plan to get married after graduating from college. However, Cheng Yi’s parents knew that , But it is very unhappy.
because Xu Ran is a city girl,The family conditions were pretty good, so they felt that if Cheng Yi wanted to marry Xu Ran, he would definitely need to buy a wedding house and a large gift, and they would not pay the money.
Fortunately, Cheng Yi knows that his parents are always reluctant to pay for themselves, so I have asked Xu Ran’s attitude a long time ago, and I have already met Xu Ran’s parents. They did not ask for a marriage room, so Cheng Yi only got 60,000 yuan. A lottery for a dollar.
The wedding request
is not a good relationship with Yi, in fact, even if Cheng Yi borrows some of his friends to get a good relationship with Yi, it is also 1span. , Even Xu Ran had part of it, and Cheng Yi would make up this 60,000 yuan. But this situation must not be told to Xu Ran's parents. Fortunately, Xu Ran understands him very well and is willing to conceal it for him.
Cheng Yi is willing to bear this, his parents have nothing to say, let Cheng Yi decide for himself. Even if the marriage of the two was settled, Cheng Yi hurriedly went to find a job, because the academic qualifications were still good, and Cheng Yi had done a lot of part-time jobs when he was in college, so finding a job was not a difficult task.
plus Cheng Yi is learning computer, so after he became a regular employee, Cheng Yi’s monthly salary has been seven or eight thousand. After a year, Cheng Yi paid off his debts and had two in his hand. With a deposit of 30,000, the marriage was officially put on the agenda.
The wedding was planned by Cheng Yi and Xu Ran.It was not until the day of the wedding that Cheng Yi's parents and younger brother arrived late. And the red envelopes they should have given Xu Ran were also prepared by Cheng Yi and they sent it. Cheng Yi has become accustomed to it, but Xu Ran feels that his in-laws are very excessive, and their affection for the younger uncle makes Xu Ran feel wronged for Cheng Yi.
And at the end of the wedding, when the in-laws left, they also called Cheng Yi out. Xu Ran followed them, and they really realized what eccentricity is. Of course the in-laws said. .
"Son, you have a lot of salary this month. Look at the wedding, but if you have money, you should be filial to your parents as much as you can. Give us 2,000 yuan in the next month. As your son’s filial piety.”
Xu Ran looked at Cheng Yi’s unpleasant expression. He thought he would refuse, but who knew Cheng Yi agreed.
Xu Ran asked after returning to the wedding room, but Cheng Yi said that although his parents were partial, they raised him after all, and he could not refuse to give him the care of his parents. Xu Ran also felt very helpless, after all, something like blood relationship couldn't be cut off easily.
Marriage ends and breaks off the relationship
’s parents won’t get in trouble except for their parents’ money.Although Cheng Yi has a short working time, two thousand yuan is not particularly difficult. In addition, Xu Ran also has a job, so the two people's life can pass.
Only because they did not buy a wedding house, the two people still rented a house when they got married, and Cheng Yi was always more guilty and felt that he had not given Xu Ran good conditions. But Xu Ran has always encouraged Cheng Yi, saying that as long as two people work hard, they will definitely be able to buy a house on their own without relying on anyone.
This has also become the goal of the husband and Two thousand yuan a month is the parents' request, but I didn't expect that two thousand yuan is just the basis.
Actually, Cheng Yi also knows that his younger brother did not go to college, but he was unwilling to go out to work. He stayed at home every day and his parents didn’t have a pension. How could the two thousand dollars be enough? It's just that Cheng Yi always feels uncomfortable every time he hears his parents ask for money with the excuse that his health is not good, so he doesn't agree every time, and often makes trouble.
What Cheng Yi didn’t know was that even if he didn’t give the money, his parents would call Xu Ran, and Xu Ran didn’t want to upset Cheng Yi, so some small She would never tell Cheng Yi the amount. Until one day, Xu Ran came to Cheng Yi anxiously, saying that her mother-in-law was hospitalized. She had already sent them the money they had saved over the past two years, and asked Cheng Yi to go back and have a look.
Cheng Yi immediately felt wrong, why did his parents notify Xu Ran first? When Cheng Yi hurried back to his hometown, what he saw was a scene where his parents and younger brother were celebrating when they bought a new house.Obviously, there was nothing wrong with the mother, they were just cheating money.
Seeing Cheng Yi's return, his parents were obviously a little guilty, but the younger brother was very happy, and showed off in front of Cheng Yi with the contract, "Brother, I bought a house earlier than you, you take a look."
The mother-in-law hurriedly closed the contract. Seeing Cheng Yi's increasingly sullen expression, she said very helplessly, "We are also raising you. If you don't have any credit, you have to work hard. What happened to you buying a suite for your brother? "
The matter is a foregone conclusion, Cheng Yi said nothing, and turned back to his home. Xu Ran felt very guilty and felt that she had given away two years of hard work in vain, but Cheng Yi knew that it was all she indulged.
When Xu Ran's parents learned about this, they were very angry and said whether they would let Cheng Yi's parents pay back or divorce them. In fact, Xu Ran didn't want to, but Cheng Yi didn't want to drag her down anymore. Not only did he sign the divorce agreement, he also signed an IOU.
Cheng Yi is back single again, and is also working hard to make money to return Xu Ran's share to her, but it didn't take long for her mother to call again, "Son, your salary 10,000 to repay your brother’s mortgage, and my daughter-in-law is just right. By the way, why can’t Xu Ran’s phone get through?" Have a daughter-in-law?" After saying this, Cheng Yi hung up the phone, and later Cheng Yi moved.It also directly blacked out the parents.
Cheng Yi and Xu Ran could have a happy family, but they were forcibly separated by Cheng Yi’s parents, and Cheng Yi was also at fault, he knew that their parents didn’t love him. , Asking for money only to supplement his younger brother, but still indulged his parents' behavior. In the end, the parents became more and more excessive, and even cheated the two of them for two years of hard work. Until then, it was impossible for him and Xu Ran to go back.
Many people think that such parents are rare or nonexistent, because they think that parents love their children by nature, but in fact many feelings are cultivated, and parents do not necessarily love their children very much. But in any case, parents are obligated to upbringing their children. If they fail to do this, they are not qualified to demand selfless returns from their children.
As children, they should not be foolish, face unreasonable demands from their parents, or even make trouble, and blindly give in and indulge, only to make them worse. Only by firming one's own bottom line and grasping the right balance can we control this kind of parental shamelessness within a controllable range. Because in many cases, parents who do not talk about the bottom line will definitely affect the marriage of their children.
Today's topic:
Do you have such eccentric parents by your side?
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