"Blind date" is already familiar to everyone. Both men and women come to participate in blind date activities to find a suitable partner and solve their own lifelong issues. Look at each other and feel that the conditions are suitable for both sides, so they can learn more about them and separate if they are not suitable. Participate in more blind date activities, naturally more people will meet. During a blind date recently, Xiao Wang met someone who made him dumbfounded.
During the blind date, a lady came up to chat with Xiao Wang. He and the other person who responded politely. The two parties briefly interacted with each other's basic information. Xiao Wang asked the woman what she wanted from the other half. The woman said without hesitation: "My future husband bought the house and car in full, not through a loan!"
Xiao Wang curiously asked why the other party could not accept it. loan. The woman believes that if the man's financial conditions have not yet reached the full price of buying a car and house, the future life pressure will be great. After the woman finished speaking, Xiao Wang did not raise any objections. Everyone wants to live a better life, which is also human nature.
Xiao Wang responded: "I think you are right, but what I want to know is, what are your financial conditions? What are your outstanding conditions?" After hearing this, the woman was very surprised and said about the future. After getting married, you have to have children and take care of your in-laws. What can you men do? What happened to the woman asking for something?
After listening to Xiao Wang, he left a sentence: "My family has a full range of houses and cars. In your eyes, this is my core competitiveness, but what you said is something else. Women can do it too. In my eyes, it is not a core competence!" After speaking, he turned and left.
emotional comment:
now,People's life pressure is getting heavier and the work burden is getting heavier. When I go home from get off work every day, I simply wash myself after eating, and it’s already ten o’clock in the evening. Thinking of going to work tomorrow, go to bed early. There is no time to get acquainted with the opposite sex, and no time to get in touch with the opposite sex. This has also become a problem for many single men and women.
Therefore, in recent years, blind dates have also attracted more and more attention. Even if there are older men and women left over, everyone will have one or another request for the other half. I want to spend the rest of my life with the other half. When making requests to each other, we must not forget to weigh our own weight. Only good people can attract good people.
Of course, this is not to say that both men and women are equally good people in the same field. Peers are enemies. Excellent performance in different fields can attract, appreciate, and recognize each other better. Marriage is not the second reincarnation in your life. Don't try to change the destiny of yourself, or even the whole family, through marriage. Marriage is about living with each other, recognizing each other, supporting each other, and striving for each other.
Now, like the blind date in the story, the demands made by itself are not excessive. But she forgot about herself, forgot to examine her own conditions. In the blind date, the woman does not necessarily have to make a horizontal comparison with the man's conditions. More often, I should compare my strengths with other women vertically. Only in this way can I highlight my excellence. Rather than suggesting some features shared by women.
If you are not good enough, why not ask others to be good! How can I ask others to do things that I can't do? This can not help but reminds me of a paragraph: the most annoying bird in the world is that it does not fly by itself, lays an egg, and after hatching a bird, let the bird fly.This paragraph was originally a satire of those parents who could not teach by their own words and deeds, but insisted on their children to work hard.
People always like to pass on their own responsibilities to others, and they always want to lie in the nest. It is always easy for us to discover the shortcomings of others and ignore our own shortcomings. On the contrary, we often hope to magnify our own strengths and deliberately devalue the value of others. While asking others to be excellent, you must also be honest about yourself, whether you can be worthy of the other's excellence.
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