As people grow older, they expect to meet another self, or the other half. This is a life issue that most people face.
Whenever the night comes, the lights are dim, the traffic is busy, and there is a bright moon in the sky, at this time you and I will more or less have an indescribable sense of loneliness, and you want someone to be by your side to talk. , You can share your joy, you can share your sorrow, and you can resolve the loneliness that has nowhere to rest.
We all yearn for beautiful love, or we may have a short-lived relationship due to impulse and temptation.
After some hardships and taste the warmth and warmth of human relationships, we will eventually understand that life is learning to be alone.
It is still important to make money first, or to be yourself first, don't be too anxious, and don't care about other people's lives.
01 Make a living first and then seek love
Economic foundation is the stabilizer of most relationships, and love cannot escape it.
Without enough bread, love is like glass without photo frame protection, it may break into dregs at any time.
" when happiness comes knocking on the door " male protagonist Chris Gardner Because of the meager income, even the family's daily expenses can hardly be supported.
His wife was so disappointed in him, and finally left him. He was left alone with his young son, and spent the night with the child in the toilet of the subway in the park.
In the end, he became a stockbroker through hardships and became the boss of a brokerage company, which inspired countless young people.
I saw a very positive sentence on the Internet: "The reason why I work hard to make money is not because I love money. But when I meet someone I like, I don’t have to consider whether he has a house or a car. Both".
When we are facing marriage, most young people are afraid of wedding gifts and dowry.Even give up many years of feelings.
The bride price is the polishing, protection, strengthening and consolidation of marriage and love. It is not the request of one family or the contribution of one family.
Don't regard marriage as a means to change the family, then this marriage is destined to be unequal and unhappy.
I like very much from Fu Seoul : "When I was 30, I was still struggling with the taxi fare for RMB 10, and no one gave an umbrella on a rainy day. No one asked about it after get off work. You will understand, love or not What's the use of love, making a living is decent. When a child has 100 candies, how can he mind sharing, but when he only has two candies, how can you call him generous."
This material is highly prosperous In this era, most people are insecure, but when we have enough money, even if life encounters changes or illnesses, we at least have the ability to face this sudden change.
Money cannot be completely equated with security, but it can give us a sense of security.
When most people ridicule the girl who would rather sit in a BMW and cry rather than laugh on a bicycle, only the girl understands that only those who have really experienced poor times can understand how important money is.
The in " my first half of my life" Luo Zijun, she is a prestigious wide lady, and she has a high-paid husband who is willing to pay for her. Every time a new bag is released, she She would buy it at the first time, and the staff in the store would please her in every possible way.
In this relationship, Luo Zijun is overly dependent on her husband, and after marriage he completely leads the life of a full-time wife.Blocked from the outside world, she did not take the initiative to learn and self-growth. Unfortunately, she was abandoned by her husband in the end, and could not find a suitable job for a long time, and led a life of displacement.
Whether male or female, we must learn to earn a living first and then seek love.
When you are truly independent and free, we will consider the comfort of the soul and the satisfaction of the spirit. If you are alone in a bad situation, don’t look for a partner for temporary sensuality, because this It is a kind of hurt and torture for each other.
After all, it’s really happy to have instant noodles and spicy tang together in college, but if you still live like this after a few years of marriage, it’s a completely failed marriage.
02Don't have too high expectations for marriage
Yang Jiang once said: In a marriage, the higher the expectation, the less happy it is.
If you are lucky enough to meet the right people, you can warm each other in this life. If you don't meet the right people, you will torture and hurt each other, but remember to stop the loss in time.
The famous host Luyu was abandoned by his ex-husband during pregnancy, and then divorced his first love. Now he is 52 years old and unmarried.
Although her feelings are bumpy, she has achieved fame, and her knowledge and temperament are all excellent.
49-year-old actor Tan Kai is unmarried so far, he said: If you can meet the right person, you will get married. It doesn't matter if you don't meet him, life is more than one way of living.
Qian Zhongshu said: Marriage is a besieged city, people outside the city want to go in, and people in the city want to come out.
Before we got married, we had too many fantasies about fairy tales, poems and distant places, cows and sheep and evening breeze, sunset and sunrise.
but after marriage,It's whether you wash the dishes or I wash the dishes, you cook or I buy groceries, as well as rent and car loans, children's milk powder and toys.
In " thirty only ", Chen Yu and Zhong Xiaoqin were introduced by their parents. They were not married in love. They were beaming and full of expectations before marriage, but finally divorced.
In this relationship: Chen Yu has taken on too many housework, but Zhong Xiaoting has been spoiled by her parents since she was a child and can't even cook. Chen Yu is too obsessed with raising fish. Zhong Xiaoting likes children wanting a child, but Chen Yu is not ready to raise children. Both of them are not ready to become parents, but at this time Zhong Xiaoting is pregnant.
Zhong Xiaoting wants to treat marriage as a safe haven, as an armor. Marriage is mutual. One cannot hide in a safe haven while the other endures the storm.
There is also Wang Manni, who was once immersed in the fantasy of a beautiful marriage.
She especially wants to get married and want a stable relationship. But Liang Zhengxian, a playboy, told her: He is an unmarried family and does not want to get married.
In the end, the Taiwanese girlfriend caught up with the door, and she was completely awake to the true face of Liang Zhengxian.
gave up the idea of getting married and missed the classmate who loved her deeply. She chose to study abroad to grow up.
03 Don’t envy others
Writer Sagan once said: “All wandering people dream of peace, childhood, and azaleas, just as all peaceful lives dream about vodka, bands, and drunkenness.
Those Cyclists envy those who drive BMW and Mercedes-Benz, but those who drive luxury cars want to stop and ride a bicycle, but his responsibility is too heavy.Life, family, and corporate employees did not allow him to stop.
The people in the city envy the leisurely life in the countryside, but the people in the village envy the people in the city that they can get a salary while sitting in the office.
Almost everyone feels this way: When a former colleague achieves an achievement, when a former classmate returns home in splendor, our first reaction is not to be happy for them, but to feel frustrated, and even feel that we are not as good as others.
When we go to school, we envy other people's grades, after work we envy other people's work, and after marriage we envy other people's wives and children.
It seems that other people's is good.
All the pain comes from the comparison away from ourselves, we have no need to compare with others at all.
Just eat well in your own bowl. Always look at other people's pots and be careful that the bowls are gone.
Finally:
Be yourself first, it’s important to be young or make money
Marriage is not a trifling matter, you can’t just do it with others
24strong Too high expectations
Don’t have to envy others’ lives
It’s good to hide in your own shell like a turtle
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